Let me start by saying this is my wifes first real friend in a long long time (3 plus years). We had problems lately and she turned to this friend, another girl. Anyway, since we got back together it still seems that she wants to hang out with this friend all the time. This friend went home for a week, and the very day that she gets back my wife and her are hanging out. Thats fine, but im afraid she will continue to want to hang out with this friend a lot. This friend's in a relationship too, but not in same spot as me and my wife. We have a house and a family. If i let her choose she would want to see this friend everyday, but with jobs and such this isnt possible. I still believe that she thinks it would be ok to most likely see this friend every other day. some weeks, it would be 3 days a week, others 4 days a week. My question is when do i step in and say this is too much, we have a family, and you need to be home more, more attention to us. What is excessive, too much, opinions?
2007-11-20 01:17:55 · 5 answers · asked by supremyecy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She needs friends away from family. She is always going to need to talk to someone that is always on her side. That part of it is inevitable. Tell her how you feel and offer her suggestions and compromises that you feel would be fair. Be honest with her and she will come around.
2007-11-20 01:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by MommyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about balance. If she is taking care of everything she needs to be at home and enjoys this friendship, I see nothing wrong with it, but if she is using this friendship as a crutch for her relationship with you--then not so good. Unfortunately, you are the last one that needs to tell her that. She will resent you if you butt in and force her to choose between her friend and you. And you might not like who she would choose. Usually this type of friendship will lose a bit of it's luster after awhile--I would let it play out on its own.
2007-11-20 02:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy that he has a best friend, has your relationship gotten better or worse since they've been hanging out? she probably just needs time with another woman, away from the family, to share thoughts and feelings. take this oppertunity to hang out with the lads from work or home a bit more, youll both be happier people and have more to talk about if you have time to yourselves.
2007-11-20 01:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by catherina c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a womans thing, unless she is slipping up at home ( not taking care of her family) leave her be.
2007-11-20 01:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you feel is a threat to your relationship, your marriage, is excessive
so if you are begining to feel uncomfortable then i think you should have a chat with her to discuss your feelings
2007-11-20 01:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by vibe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋