recently i discovered that my bf really has NO FREAKIN...CLUE.. why i am so angry...HE made a commitment and said he was gonna give a hundred percent in the relationship, lied about a kid he had from another relationship8 yrs ago- i been 4 as friends- then after i call him on his BS he says.."oh i got to pay a storage bill, i got other things to worry about..my kid with the other ***** is not important and i can't help you with bills" he makes no apologies for letting me down and his crap...after i asked him 8 months ago,"are you sure this is what you want and a commitment ot me is a very big thing!" i can't help now feeling so pissed off and resentful and i just want him to dissapear. it wouldn't be so bad if i didn't have my sisters kid here who is 2 - who does like him but never calls him Dad though. i just hate that when a man says one thing then acts like he can't be bothered to follow through!! and he always has to ask his Mom for permission.. your 29 yrs old, makes 100$ a week..
2007-11-20 01:29:01 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks. i thought it ws primarily me who was nuts because he had said other women would be happy....
2007-11-20 02:52:20 · update #1
THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR RESPONSES.....OK. IM GOOD.. YUP. HE GOTTA GO FOR REAL...EVEN AS A FRIEND.....
2007-11-20 05:32:42 · update #2
It sounds like your heart wants to believe him and give him a chance, like maybe what you see isn't so.
You need to go with your gut instinct on this because you are already in distress over this situation.
Don't stay in this relationship no matter what he says to get you to remain with him.
Your common sense has already given you the answer and you know you will be miserable if you don't get out.
I hope you are not the kind who likes or needs this type of drama in your life.
2007-11-20 01:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dinabill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If commitment is a big deal with you and so far he have fail on his own account. Its clearly just walk away from this one and don't look back. Just remember we all will have to deal with each other ups and downs, that is just part of life and relationships. After many attempts to correct the problems and getting the same results. The relationship is going nowhere, your best option is to move on. I have issue when a guy only makes $100 a week and he is 29 yrs old. Sorry, let this one go and save yourself from unnecessary fights, arguments and financial woes
2007-11-20 10:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a friend in this type of situation. My ex's little brother was dating a girl 4 years older than him (he was 17, she was 21). Anyway, she had the gaul to lie to his parents about her son and claim he was her brother's. Turned out that I knew her, and her brother had lived with me for a while. On top of all of that, she was married and her husband was off in Iraq.
I think your guy is testing you to see how much of his BS you will put up with. Drop him. He is a momma's boy and is to old to just be making what he is. You'll spend your life supporting him and waiting on his mom to make all the important decisions.
2007-11-20 10:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want this man?
He is a loser and you are smart enough to realize it. Move on. Find a better one. At least don't waste your life with a man who could even say that "my kid with the other woman doesn't matter"...
He will say the same about you. One day.
And we call this person a man?
He is not a man, he is worse than a child. Let him live in the street where losers belong.
2007-11-20 09:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the say "you can do bad all by your self" well it applies here you know its easy to say leave him I think you already know that much what I will tell you to do is simple look at your standards is he meeting them? If not you have to choices accept it, or simply move forward happiness is always a choice between two decisions.
2007-11-20 12:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by beautiful0325 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately you had no trust from the beginning with the child. a child is a HUGE thing. if can be forward about having another human being and being proud of being a father. what is he?
You need to leave him! get out now before it gets worse.
i know that you are going to get alot of comments that are going to be harsh, sad, good...etc. i just hope that you do what is best for you!
good luck!
2007-11-20 09:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by Vanessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get away from that relationship, as fast as I can,
You do not sound like you have any false hopes, and if he has not been honest about the things you have stated, you can be sure there are a lot of other things he has not mentioned.
2007-11-20 09:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by bgee2001ca 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want your sister child to call your bf Dad?
This situation is way to wierd.
Dump him, get your self straight and go it on your own a while.
2007-11-20 09:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by silly_me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he would lie about having a child, he would lie about anything. Not taking responsibility for a child of his would leave me without respect for him. I would have to obtain a divorce... The whole thing is a lie... Run and as fast as you can.... God bless****
2007-11-20 10:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How smart do you think it is to put a photo of a topless (actually nude, reclining, with one arm over her head) woman on your avatar?
I doubt that it's you, but still... that really objectifies women.
Funny - then you complain that men treat you like a piece of meat. Hmmm. I can't see a connection - can you?
2007-11-20 10:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋