I let him to make his own decission...eventhough it's really make me down, I love him so much but his ex has his children to win the competition.
2007-11-20 01:38:58 · 12 answers · asked by samaara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't worry he will still want to see you when he can... Don't be there when he calls find a new man..
2007-11-20 01:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most times this happens when the man meets the "right" woman. The ex feels that he is gone for good for the first time and she panics, the ex husband feels the obligations for the children more than feelings for the ex wife and gets confused because she is playing on his guilt. The best thing to do is to do what you are doing...don't get in the way, because that can come back to haunt you later.....let him know that you love him with all of your heart.....give him the words to the song by Cyndi Lauper...Gonna Be Strong.....and see what happens. Any man worth his grain, who has family values goes through this.....I wish you the best...I think that he will be back.
2007-11-20 01:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ali C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be in competition with any woman if you're engaged... if she's asked for a reconciliation, then you need to ask him what that means to him. Does that mean he's thinking about it, or is it just the ex's last ditch effort to get back the man that she lost? If that's the case, so be it. Lots of women/men let go of someone before realizing that they made a mistake. And then they want them back... but if he's engaged to you, then it should be too little too late on her end. Talk to him, see how he feels and what he thinks. If he's considering it, you need to let him go.
2007-11-20 02:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me, she wanted him back, they have two children and had 10 years together. I just reminded him how much better I was (through actions, I didn't actually come out and say it). He is now my husband and she has finally accepted that he is gone and she leaves him alone. And he knows that she is the ex for a reason and he wouldn't go back. So chin up. Just tell him to make the decision, because it is not fair to ask you to hold on while he figures it out.
2007-11-20 02:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by kei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children or not, if it was meant to be then they would be together. If that's what he wants then let him go. It shouldn't be about a competition. Why would you want someone that loves someone else? Then it's just a game. Good luck.
2007-11-20 01:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you need to prepare for the worst and hope for the best, Their has to be a good reason for the split to begin with And the children should not be a bargaining chip
2007-11-20 01:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by Larry M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if he leaves you then know he was still in love with her anyway and it's good you found out before you married him. If he even has to think about it that's bad. It was over between them, he's engaged to marry you. If that's not enough for him to tell her to move on, you don't want to be with him. She'll always be a problem in your relationship.
2007-11-20 01:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by I've Got My Answer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should never be a competition. If he chooses to go back to his ex, then he wasn't worth your time in the first place.
2007-11-20 01:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you he will turn her down. If he accepts her offer then consider yourself lucky, you may have found yourself going through a divorce in a few years.
2007-11-20 02:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What else could you do? Would you want him to be with you if you knew he would be happier with her? Could you even stop him from making his own decision?
2007-11-20 02:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋