Marriage & Divorce - 7 November 2007

I've been seriously dating this guy for 7 months and we both have strong feelings for each other. The problem is that he'll be moving across the country in a few months to pursue his career and doesnt think its a good idea for us to stay together. So, about a month ago he broke up with me to spare the heartache that will come when it comes time for him to leave. I can't move with him because I'm still young, in college, and have my own career path to take. For now he wants to be in contact with me and probably friends with benefits, since we still have feelings for each other. Morally I'm against it but emotionally I want it. I really do love him and I can't stand just not talking to him anymore. What do you think? Answers appreciated!

2007-11-07 11:13:36 · 13 answers · asked by Aurora 2

Well, don't know if the marriage is worth saving but the counselor was very hot in bed. Do you think it's her first time or is this a regular thing? Is so, I'm not sure if she's worth dumping the marriage. Would she be wearing those short skirts making her legs super long & curvy if she didn't think all the good ones are taken? Wow she's hot. What should I do?

2007-11-07 11:04:21 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I still love my wife, but I am not attracted to her anymore she has put on a lot of weight but she is trying to loose it but it is not comming off, we have a lot invested in our marriage 2 kids and alot of memories, but I just don't have that attraction that I used to have for her, I wnat nothing more than to feel the way I felt about her when I was attracted to her, I just can't help it I find overweight people unattractive, I try to keep my self in shapre for her eyes and treat her the way I would want to be treated should I stay or go?

2007-11-07 10:52:27 · 33 answers · asked by mintman123 4

To be more specific... I'm currently in a relationship with the love of my life. I love him and know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. However we have different views on having a family. Having a family is important to me, I've always wanted a big family, and always wanted to start early. My love although wants a small family and wants it after his career has taken off (early - late thirties). Having a family early and large is something that I've always wanted. Now I know that things between the man I love wont work unless we agree, and we don't. I feel like I have to choose. Is this fair? What would you do? ADVICE please. Thankyou in advance.

2007-11-07 10:39:00 · 15 answers · asked by ~(Tinker) Belle~ 3

who just found out her husband has been cheating on her??She caught them together?? She says her religion forbids a divorce.. but I say staying in a marriage where you are disrespected like she was is way worse than then a divorce..

2007-11-07 10:37:38 · 17 answers · asked by nease174 6

she has tried leaving before but he just follws her wherever she goes, he has threatened her with violence and barely lets her leave the house without him

2007-11-07 10:32:57 · 27 answers · asked by tom q 1

I am married and my wife and I are having problems. The current issue tends to be that she feels "smothered" but I hardlly ever talk to her because she is avoiding me or does things to keep her busy. So now that she has pretty much told me to BACK UP I am moving on and finding other things to do and basically being as *** because my feelings are hurt but she is loving it and has even hinted that men should "play hard to get like you don't love a woman or that you don't care and then you would be more interesting" WTF!? If I continue to be a distant, irritable guy and it turns her on.. How is this supposed to work. I am quiet with my emotional wall up and she is looking at me lovingly. When I respond with warm conversation she acts like a so-and-so. I get mad again and put some distance between her and I and she can't wait until I return home.. to ignore her basically but when I enjoy the moment with her it turns her off.. WTF #2?

2007-11-07 10:27:10 · 17 answers · asked by Magnus01 3

my husband of four years told me that im getting to emotionally attached. he has been sleeping at our lake house for 3 days. a few months before he left he started acting really weird and suspicious

*we have a 3yo daughter n two more on the way
(maybe hes feeling smothered?)

2007-11-07 10:23:53 · 20 answers · asked by .i. 1

I was searching for a book my fiance had in his storage and I cam across a birthday card, which I thought was given to him long ago. Well it wasn't it was from him to his ex-wife, no biggy. But what was strange was that the same message he had left his ex was about exactly the same things has he had told me.?? Is this weird or should I just let it go? The letter is a few yrs old.

2007-11-07 10:22:04 · 22 answers · asked by Advice25 1

my husband and i dont have any kids but there is a lot of housework that never gets done and i really need his help. i stay at home (usually im out with friends) he leaves at about 6 am in the morning for work and comes back at 8 then he sleeps for two hours and go goes out for another job as security. i been trying to get him to help out around the house when he is here for the two hours and on the weekends he just sleeps usually how can i get him to help out more?

tried leaving the house and leaving all the housework for him but he just gets angry i even left for weeks but it hasnt changed anything.

2007-11-07 10:19:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

First of all I saw some posts of people saying why get a prenup if you plan on getting divorce! Well, 1 out of 3 marriages ends up in divorce and is hard to tell what could happen 20 or 30 years from now!! In my case we plan to open future businesses and we want to keep our our purchases, investments assets and incomes separate in the future. However, in case of divorce we'd like to know that we each get to keep what we worked for so many years. We are a young couple we are and not coming in the marriage with any assets, again, we want to protect our future incomes and assests in the future. Is this possible with a prenup?

2007-11-07 10:12:41 · 14 answers · asked by dreamsound54143 2

This is really embarrassing, as my whole life, I have always been the "good girl." I never did anything wrong at all in high school or even college. I married a man my parents adored, went to grad school, and had a baby. I looked great on paper, but I was very depressed as I was very isolated, taking care of our daughter 5 days per week and traveling 2 hours (1 way) to school 2 days per week (which was not at all conducive for forming friendships). The only person who ever saw me as more than a role (ie, wife, mother) was my husband's best friend, who had feelings for me. Both my husband and I knew this, so we all just kept reallyreally good boundaries. Things worked great. then one day, my husband asked if I wanted to have sex with his best friend. I did, because I no longer felt connected to him, but i didn't want an affair, so I said no. but he kept asking me (and his friend I found out later), and one night when we were a little drunk, my husband told him to, and so we did.

2007-11-07 10:08:45 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

He rented the lower part of his home to a couple for $1,000 a month. My two school age daughters occupy this space now. W e have separate accounts. I make $18,000 a year and receive $1,000 total a month for both daughters in child support. Basically living below poverty level. No assets from the previous marriage. My new husband makes about $70,000 a year and owns the home we live in. His household expenses are $2,000.

I feel funny paying rent. He says I was paying $1,200 before we got married and I moved in. He feels he is missing income from not renting part of his house. I just moved in, we just got married. I pay for all of my daughter's expenses and expected to pay some of the household expenses. I make 1,600 a month. I feel $1,000 a month rent is excessive..

Is this right? Doesn't feel right!

2007-11-07 09:58:42 · 32 answers · asked by nicka 1

My husband met an unmarried couple in a business trip, and lived with them for a few months. One day, the girl emailed him asking him for money, and told him at the end "by the way T and I are not together". He helped her out. She thanked him by email. Then five days later, she emailed again saying thank you, asking my husband to keep in contact with her, asking about his schedule, and also she sent her picture. Mr husband is still friend with her ex. I told my husband that I did not understand why she is trying to stick to him. She said thank you, she needs to move on. He said that he did not see anything wrong abut the mail. But I did. So I took matters into my hands and emailed her myself. I told her that I do not understand what she is looking for ,and that my husband does not need a picture as a thank-you note, nor he needs to contact her. He did a favor; end of the story, there is no need for follow-up. She called my husband to complain. I did what I have to do. Is that wrong?

2007-11-07 09:37:43 · 22 answers · asked by renaissance 1

Because my ex was giving me so much trouble during the divorce suit, I caved and allowed for joint legal custody. Now, I seriously regret it because he has violated the parenting agreement on so many levels, hardly ever sees his daughter, and harasses me constantly, esp. in front of her! It really bothers me that he started a fight that he got physical with me in front of her, so now she always says "Mama mad. Dada bad. Dada hurt mama arm." And that happened weeks ago and she still brings it up! We were teaching her about police and how they take away the bad people. My mom asked "Who's bad?" to see what she would say (expecting people who hurt or are mean as responses) but she automatically says "Dada. Dada bad." He is always swearing and blows it off like she's not going to pick things up, but she's 2 1/2! I am at my wits end. My lawyer never gets back to me, either. What can I do? What SHOULD I do?

2007-11-07 09:35:26 · 10 answers · asked by nancydeanna 6

I have been married for 12 years, and even now every time I give my husband a kiss, he gets a hard on... Is this normal for men who has been married for that long? How many men still get this way when their wife kisses them, and how many women still do this to their husbands after just a kiss?

2007-11-07 09:19:25 · 22 answers · asked by ESP123 3

If tomorrow your "love" dies would you ever date/marry again?

2007-11-07 09:18:43 · 17 answers · asked by - 5

for example due to divorce, abuse, etc etc
how does it affect you and how do you cope?

2007-11-07 09:17:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been with my boyfriend for close to a year. We are very happy. We've had our differences but have always worked things out and want to be together. We've been planning on moving in together in the future (several months down the road). He has been very lovey and extra sweet with me lately. Telling me he loves me a lot more than usual, going out on extra dates during the week, and just going out of his way to be sweet to me.

So, how do you know when he is ready to marry???

2007-11-07 09:15:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is a wonderful man, who is always there for his family when they need him, and is head-over-heals for his little 6 month old daughter, and would do just about anything to see her smile!

Does anyone know of ways in which I could thank my husband this Christmas?

I want to do something unforgettable for him, to show him my gratitude for being a wonderful husband & father!

2007-11-07 09:10:28 · 32 answers · asked by ♂ Equibrilium ♀ 4

2007-11-07 09:09:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been married for a year and our sex life has gone downhill. Before we were married we made love once or twice a day. Now its like 3 or 4 times per month. I don't have to have it once a day, but a couple times a week would be great. I love my wife and I think she is very sexy. I tell her she is beautiful & sexy all the time & that I love her. I always have initiate sex... she never does anymore even though I tell her how much it turns me on when she does. She is either tired, not in the mood or doesn't feel good most of the time. I try to turn her on by kissing her neck and rubbing her back but sometimes she just lays there. I don't know whats going on with her. I know she is stressed with College and her job. Also she has changed her birth control. She tells me she loves me & cuddles up next to me all the time. Girls can you please help. Do you think she is stressed out, depressed, bad birth control, etc. What would cause her sex drive to slow down that much? Thanks!

2007-11-07 09:08:51 · 10 answers · asked by John 2

AND MAKE TIME FOR SEX

2007-11-07 09:08:07 · 7 answers · asked by k 1

My husband and I got married this last year. My son is grown and two of his are in college and then there are two still at home. We have them 50/50 and his ex, is becoming nastier as time goes on. The kids are good kids but there have been some ongoing issues, where my husband has become very active in addressing and taking care of them. As he has done this the ex has gotten very nasty and trying to poison them against me. I have been involved in getting the kids to doctors etc. I am having a hard time understanding why she is behaving this way. I had nothing to do with their divorce. She is living with the guy she cheated with when they were married. The children are not allowed to speak with me when she is present, ie during an exchange. She is saying if he is at work and I am here when they get out school they should go to her house. We just found out she is leaving the kids alone after school for about 2 hrs. (kids 8 & 12). We do not agree on this.

2007-11-07 09:04:44 · 5 answers · asked by africanzoey 1

2007-11-07 08:52:28 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married for 7- 8 mths now. Our sex life seems boring. He doesnt want me as many as before.

Although we both still in love.

How can I spice thing up and make him pay more attention to me?

2007-11-07 08:49:44 · 13 answers · asked by 1234 1

I am dating a wonderful man. I've never been treated so well in my entire life; he treats me like a queen. When we started dating, I told him I wanted to get married someday (not necessarily to him). Recently, the issue came up again. He said he wanted to be with me forever. I feel that if he didn't want to ever get married, he would say so in response to what I want. My question is, do you think he'll marry me someday?

2007-11-07 08:49:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

How can I make my husband not whine all the time?

2007-11-07 08:48:19 · 11 answers · asked by ali 3

No complaints about the level of service but I like to watch as my car gets an oil change instead of sitting out in the customer service area. You know what I mean?

2007-11-07 08:47:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son got a stomach virus and my husband and I picked it up from him yesterday and we both got sick. Well, I got to lay around some but most of the time I was having to get up to make chicken noodle soup for my husband, bring him gatorade, and take care of our nineteen month old baby (of course I get sick when he gets well) so I don't get much rest. Then the next day my husband starts complaining about how bad the house looks and how disorganized everything is. I am a stay at home mom, he works and he can call in, but I'm a bad person because I don't quite get the house sparkly enough for him even though I am sick. Does anyone else ever have this problem I am expected to take care of everything and everyone when my family is sick, but on the other hand because I am not sweeping and mopping all day I am a bad person. Who takes care of us, there is no daycare or family member to hand my son over too, and my husband clearly isn't empathetic so what do you do?

2007-11-07 08:46:32 · 8 answers · asked by crymeariver 5