who just found out her husband has been cheating on her??She caught them together?? She says her religion forbids a divorce.. but I say staying in a marriage where you are disrespected like she was is way worse than then a divorce..
2007-11-07 10:37:38 · 17 answers · asked by nease174 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know you are right. Tell her she should get a legal separation and go to counseling with him if he wants to change. If he continues to cheat, divorce is the only option for a future that could be happy for her. She can't stay married to a man who is sleeping with another woman! That's humiliating! She needs to talk to her priest, but she needs to consider her own self-respect, too.
2007-11-07 10:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. It is NOT a sin for a Catholic to get a divorce.
2. Infidelity is not grounds for an anulment. The grounds for the anulment MUST have been present at the time the vows were exchanged. An anulment is a declaration that the marriage was invalid from the start.
For your friend...this is hard, and I KNOW IT. But marriage is considered disposable these days...she needs to decide if she wants to hold her marriage together.
She also needs to look at herself to see WHY he did it. A man who is happy will not be in another woman's bed...and sorry, feminists, but it is a wife's job to keep her husband happyt.
She should read "The proper care and feeding of husbands" and " the proper care and feeding of marriage.
they should both read them.
2007-11-09 15:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your friend is a practicing Roman Catholic, then what she has told you is correct. Be careful not to project your values onto her marriage. I agree with you -- very disrespectful; however, not our place to tell the two dancers how to tango.
You can be supportive of your friend, but please remember that in the end she has to decide what is best for her marriage.
Now, where you can help. Gently and politely suggest she discuss this situation with her priest. If she and her husband decide to stay together and reconcile their situation, counseling might be part of the solution.
Mostly, be a good listener for your friend and that can help. She is probably trying to deal with all these feelings and making herself upset even more. With kind regards....Finn.
2007-11-07 18:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone should base their life entirely on anything even religion. In this situation she has to do whats right. If it is wrong to divorce because of being a catholic, but right for her situation it is still right. Why not get divorced because what people will think? I honestly do not think god would want someone to be unhappy for their entire life. If she does what is right and makes herself happy God will be happy for her. "The eyes in which God sees you are your own."
2007-11-07 20:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, the only allowance for divorce made in the Bible is in the case of infidelity. If she does not want to stay in the marriage she should speak to her pastor about an annulment in the case of infidelity.
2007-11-07 19:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by xxxxxxxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you disrespect is more devastating then divorce
catholics can get divorced it is not forbibben to do so
but cannot remarry it the catholic church
but can remarry She should dump him and make a life of her own without a disrespecting spouse...
2007-11-08 09:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her her religion also states that the husband is not to cheat on his spouse ...... guess that part got left out of the marriage covenent as well...
She ultimately has to make her own choice as to whether she is going to stay in such a marriage or if she's going to leave.
All you can do is support her.
2007-11-07 18:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by aa889d 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am catholic and I forgave my husband she is putting an excuse tell her that god does not allow sin and that is a lie catholic can get divorced why not he is one that screwed up not her and that being in a sitution like this is not health I no I was in one. And she is never going to foget it that god is not going to punish her because of this that he is understanding and that he know pain and that he does not want any of his children to feel the pain she is feeling. Jesus died for our sins and it is not a sin to get divorced. Que dios te bendiga. God bless.
2007-11-07 18:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she would rather stay in the marriage. What is unacceptable to one person may be acceptable to another. Be her sounding board, but she has to ultimately decide for herself what SHE considers to be a reason for divorce.
2007-11-07 18:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counselling
2007-11-07 19:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋