Why do husbands feel the need to pretend your superwoman even if your sick?

Question

My son got a stomach virus and my husband and I picked it up from him yesterday and we both got sick. Well, I got to lay around some but most of the time I was having to get up to make chicken noodle soup for my husband, bring him gatorade, and take care of our nineteen month old baby (of course I get sick when he gets well) so I don't get much rest. Then the next day my husband starts complaining about how bad the house looks and how disorganized everything is. I am a stay at home mom, he works and he can call in, but I'm a bad person because I don't quite get the house sparkly enough for him even though I am sick. Does anyone else ever have this problem I am expected to take care of everything and everyone when my family is sick, but on the other hand because I am not sweeping and mopping all day I am a bad person. Who takes care of us, there is no daycare or family member to hand my son over too, and my husband clearly isn't empathetic so what do you do?

Answer 1

Next time you all get sick and he whinges like men do when their sick (they are the worst sick people , even more so then kid's) , so when the next stomach bug hit's you look after you and your son and ignore your husband until the whinging turns to yelling then you calmly turn round and face him and state "You are not the only 1 who is sick mate if you want something get up off your lazy @zz and get it , I have 1 child to look after not 2 , you could be a man and help me out instead of playing dead patient".

If he doesnt get up then ignore him your not his mother or his nurse maid.Some time's being a B**** is the only way to get the message across.

Answer 2

I've been in a similar situation with an ex when I had pneumonia and could of died. He had the same attitude--hence he's an ex. The only person you should have to answer to about being superwoman is the woman in the mirror.The woman in the mirror has the obligation to take care of herself first before she can take care of anyone else. If he has a hard time understanding that you have limits to your endurance when you are sick, or well for that matter, then he shouldn't have any problem holding himself to the same level he does you. And if he's not willing to hold himself to the same level he is holding you, then it's not your lack of being superwoman but the problem is HIM--unrealistic expectations, lack of compassion, understanding and empathy, and he needs a reality check handed to him (preferably upside the head.) It should be expected of him what he expects of you. Tell him it's a two way street and hold him to it.

Answer 3

No your not a bad person. They get it in their minds that their mothers took care of them cus they were the kid and you have to but when they get older they think the wife should take care of them. I like this one better wait till your baby gets older or if you have another one and their a little older and all you want to do is puke then sleep and that is when they are at their worst or when you have a migraine and thats when they want to cry or fight or want something now that only you can do or give them. See guys can be like kids. No changin it just dealin with it i suppose.

Answer 4

Well, look like he just cut himself out of night time pleasure for a while with that kind of attitude. If that what he think of you, then you need to have a serious talk with him about this issue. he could help around the house when you have nurse him back on his feet. that is no excuse and I don't care what his opinion about a wife job.

Answer 5

Tell him like it is. If he can not understand how he felt then he has problem and needs to se things from others perspectives.

Answer 6

It's just their nature, men are insensitive.

Answer 7

I don't want to be Superwoman. I am a man....

Answer 8

every day, i get reminded of how wonderful of a husband i am.

thank you.