for example due to divorce, abuse, etc etc
how does it affect you and how do you cope?
2007-11-07 09:17:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I come from a long line of alcoholics. It is especially hard, and what little family I do have I rarely keep in contact with. Life growing up was miserable, and it has never become much better. I use to cope by being just like them, drugs and alcohol. However I fortunately found help and have been clean and sober for 5 years and try my hardest to keep in contact with them every now and then just to be cordial, but I try to avoid them as much as possible. They are all miserable, and I can't subject myself around it.
2007-11-07 09:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Every family has a little issue but its either you accept it or you don't. Be miserable or move on. I have a first cousin that took away our grandparent back to their native country so that he could keep their social security/retirement checks & even change his last name to be our grandparents name he has a now has mansion & land there. We hate him what he did I didn't have even a chance to say bye to my grandparents before they left the country, it but WTF. We still talk to him. I just believe in the higher power time will come. Many more bitterness, abuse, etc. but I don't let it get to me because I know whats done is done, cope with it, move on & not to repeat it, prevent it, educate others, I have my own life & my goal is not to be like that a negative way, even if I don't see family members they can see me my doors are always open & thats my way.
2007-11-07 10:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by jtease 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, and it all how you see things, I was abused as a child then and adult, it is all how you chose to cope, by being hateful yourself or by teaching others that a little compassion can go a long way.
2007-11-07 09:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mother blamed me for her and my step dad spliting but how does a 14 yr old at the time do that if the cause was him having an affair???
2007-11-07 09:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by Scorpio83 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just need to learn to understand people and what they have ben threw so that you can see things from each others ways.
2007-11-07 09:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For people that go through hard time, it must be hard always.
From my end I did not have any such experiences.
2007-11-07 09:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋