Get him to help out more?

Question

my husband and i dont have any kids but there is a lot of housework that never gets done and i really need his help. i stay at home (usually im out with friends) he leaves at about 6 am in the morning for work and comes back at 8 then he sleeps for two hours and go goes out for another job as security. i been trying to get him to help out around the house when he is here for the two hours and on the weekends he just sleeps usually how can i get him to help out more?

tried leaving the house and leaving all the housework for him but he just gets angry i even left for weeks but it hasnt changed anything.

Answer 1

I am sorry. While I usually do think that a male should help out with the housework, at least occasionally, what you have said here is that you don't work, you go out with friends, he works TWO jobs with just a two hour break between the two, and there are no children.
Why the HELL don't you do the housework?!!? It sounds to me, unless you have major league health problems, that you are just being too lazy. With only two people in the house, and with him working most of the time, then its your mess that would be the majority of it. Clean up after yourself, and look on the housework as YOUR contribution to the household. You shouldn't think yourself entitled to a free ride. Take responcibility.

Answer 2

Are you kidding me?! You stay at home... no I'm sorry you hang out with friends all day while you're hubby has not one but 2 jobs to support you. And you want him to help more?! Are you just that lazy? Try staying home and getting some of the housework done youself! Or try getting a daytime job so your husband can quit his night job then you can share the responsibilitys more, and probably see each other more often. I'm married with no kids, I'm at home right now and my husband has almost the same hours, I honestly can't see what you have to complain about. Besides picking up around the house, doing the dishes and laundry what else is there to do?!

Answer 3

Hmmm...wonder what kind of responses you're going to get to this question if you're home all the time with no kids and he works so many hours outside of the home while you're off having fun with friends.

You can't force someone to do things. You have to find a way to get them to help out without nagging. I don't know what else he can do--sounds like he needs all the time he can getting some sleep! You'd have to identify which chores he would be able to do. If he comes home so late at night, then you'd probably get upset if he did the vacuuming. So figure out some chores that need to get done less often so that he can more readily fit them into his busy schedule.

Answer 4

so what you are trying to say is that you don't work and he has two jobs not one but two how old are you anyway so i bet you are asleep when your husband goes to work because you had such a hard day hanging out with friends i mean if that isn't how it is you have to word it a little better because what it sounds like is he works almost around the clock with two jobs and you don't work at all and you still want him to help clean the house when if you don't have a job and stay at home you want the pour guy to clean when he is probaly exusted and wants to get a little shut eye before having to go back to work you are being a spoiled brat that if you keep on acting like that he is going to leave and guess what he might have to pay spousal support for you but that is only for a couple of months and then guess what spollied brat has to get a job or move home to mom and dad to take care of you that is so selfish of you maybe you and my ex should be together because that loser din't have a job didn't watch our son ever never cleaned so after i got done working 10 hours i had to come home to a messy house and clean cook and watch my son while that f***er sat around and played video games so if i were you i would be counting my lucky stars before you get in a mess that is by far worse then picking you after yourself and your little friends because if he works 2 jobs and comes home to sleep before going back to work i see that most of the mess is you get over yourself and you should be taking care of your man you don't find good ones anymore and i can see why women like you drive them to be that way and plus he was probely happy to come home to a empty house without so leach like you there

Answer 5

Ok, I can't help but laugh..Let me make sure I have this straight. You stay home and don't have a full-time job (are usually out with friends), and he works two jobs... and you need his help keeping up with the housework? If this is true, then unless you live in a 10,000 square foot home, YOUR JOB AS A CONTRIBUTOR TO THIS MARRIAGE IS MAINTAINING THE HOUSEHOLD!

Answer 6

why on earth would you expect your husband to work two jobs, and do housework, when you don't have a job outside of the home? I dont' get it.

make yourself a schedule to clean the house and stick to it... it can't get that dirty if there are only two of you living in it... sure, heavy lifting and things which you aren't physically capable of doing might require his assistance... but c'mon... clean your house.

otherwise, live like a slob. it doesn't seem your husband is home often enough to contribute to cleaning because he is out busting a nut on two jobs.

geesh...

Answer 7

Is this a serious question? If you stay home and he has two jobs maybe you should let him sleep and you do the housework.

Answer 8

This is really a funny question.

He is working two jobs and you stay at home and go out with your friends?

Why dont you get a job and hire a maid.

Or just clean the house. If I was sitting on the couch at home and my wife was out earning the paycheck, you bet your @$$ I would have that house SPOTLESS and dinner on the table for her when she got home, or a cold beer waiting for her.

Answer 9

Oh I know you are joking!

You are not asking your hubby who works 2 jobs while you hang out with friends to do the housework too, right?

Grow up!

Answer 10

Tell him that you need some help but he does work alot so that is an excuss for not helping. I do not let my husband clean the house I do everything and I take care of 4 kids come on try it it will not hurt or clean all your stuff and not do anything for him that will help the situation.