Marriage & Divorce - 7 November 2007

I am married at early age ..got divorce a few years later. now married again for the second time but somehow i still don't feel i found the right woman for me...as the results i am having an affair overseas with a married woman who also find her marriage in the ruins as the results from her hubby's adultery. I don't know if I really love her or we are just together for sex... Need some good advice....

2007-11-07 14:35:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in the military and am currently stationed overseas, I want to do something unusual and romantic that will make my wife feel special, but it is hard to do when I am so far away. I have sent cards for no reason and a box a hersheys kisses (one for each day that I am away) but I want to do something different, something that will "really" make her feel special, but coming up with something to do is alot harder then it sounds on paper. Help?

2007-11-07 14:34:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why get married? What is there to gain? Why is it that we need papers to justify/validate love for one another. If your religous then have your union blessed, but why make it a contract? I don't understand.

2007-11-07 14:33:37 · 9 answers · asked by bossalinni_00 1

well, let's see if I can explain my situation...
I met a man, who erased every guy I ever thought I had feelings for, it's not been intense, like one of the men I had fallen for in the past, or as eratic as my first love... but this, this is deeper for me, I feel like I have met the only person in the entire world who was meant to know me in ways my best friends might never know me. It's a beautiful feeling, and as I age I can respect our relationship and feelings toward each other more without the dreaded fear of rejection and abandonment... I love him, we've talked about spending our lives together, and if I want anyone teeth in a bowl beside mine 40 years from now, no one's dentures but his will do!!
But, here's the problem... he has absolutely no ambition to do anything with his life that might in some way include actually working... he believes himself destined for greatness.

2007-11-07 14:30:59 · 15 answers · asked by grayeyeddame 2

Is there a reason why women scorned have a need for vengeance and retaliation against the guys that have given them the go-around? If men would finish off relationships that they start in a decent fashion (ie communication and being honest) before starting another, instead of ending them in a cowardly, nasty way, would women not have to resort to revenge ? Your thoughts.

2007-11-07 14:30:52 · 7 answers · asked by Azul 2

Dang I wish I could get my ex to pay 600 a month

2007-11-07 14:25:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am a sincere humble polite and kind hearted person but i have no idea and no expenses to serve in these countries if any support me as a loan when i make some money he/she can took back from me

2007-11-07 14:18:53 · 5 answers · asked by waqas w 1

I know it sounds odd, but my parents did 'do a number on me.' I am the first to say it too.
My parents first off, are well to do and did not provide me with a car, tuition or anything. My father had some inappropriate conversations w/me, and my mother is/was controlling..
So...
Now, 21, married for a year.. my husband tells me that if i speak with my parents he'll leave me.
(By the way, he is overall really sweet and we get along really well). Any remarks?

2007-11-07 14:11:09 · 18 answers · asked by Becca 2

2007-11-07 14:03:03 · 6 answers · asked by kaycee 1

must be crazy. I have a crush on a 37 YO cop who ignores me now because we?
already hooked up, and he had erectile dysfunction. I like him and wish he still thought of me, but he doesn't. Meanwhile there is a nice 36 YO surgeon in his last year of school willing to pay half my rent and help me with things. I however just dont have that lusty knid of attraction for him. Should I try and make it work and have him help me get my apt. I dont know what to do?

2007-11-07 13:54:57 · 9 answers · asked by Dani 1

I'm was a divorced bachelor for 17 years...lived by myself and I ran a tight ship when it came to housekeeping. I met a woman and agreed to move in with her and her 14 year old son a year ago.......Since then...I've been organizing, painting landscaping, maintaining vehicles,etc. and working a 50 an hour a week job. ....Problem is...neither pick up after themselves...2 dogs, 2 cats, ... Her 14 year old son needs to be told to take he trash out......She works 40 hours a week also. Am I too "anal" in my ways?

2007-11-07 13:40:09 · 10 answers · asked by riverrat15666 5

but she didn't know because she wasn't in a relationship with him at the time. would you tell her about your prior relationship with her husband?

2007-11-07 13:38:27 · 13 answers · asked by rebel with a cause 6

I have sole custody of both kids. Dad is on drugs does not see kids. Only has paid court supervised court rights that he does not use. He always shows up to all court hearings just to hang on to some right like calling us for a while. Saying I dont let him talk to the kids. Then he will call and say upsetting stuff. He is a control freak. I want to relocate and afraid if I do it legally he can stop me. The judge last ordered him to drug test every week for one year and hair follicle test every three months. He just start this and passed two weeks in a row. He is a long time meth user. What do you think my prognosis is? Worried should I be?

2007-11-07 13:35:34 · 4 answers · asked by stephanieishappy 1

WHy even bother with girls when you know they will just be a heartbreak in the end. Girls are good at making me depressed and im tired of it. But i cant stop liking them, how do i get not to emotionally involved with girls? Like so i dont care as much.

2007-11-07 13:20:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son announced he plans to get married to his girlfriend he has been dating for 4 months. He just turned 20. Young, but is NOT the strange part. Son left home about 14 months ago to attend college out of state, he had mentioned dating this "nice girl." We heard all about her in phone calls and emails home, but never actually saw her. This week he returns home for a visit with the girl and I immediately noticed something quite familiar about her. She very much resembled my long lost High school sweetheart. Yes, I picked up on this right away, I thought there is no way. Well "no way" turned out to be yes it is true. He is planing to marry the daughter of a girl I dated for 4 years during high school! This was my soul mate of sorts that got away for various reasons some 21 years ago.She was my first love and yes a person I have in a way always missed and longed for.

2007-11-07 13:19:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband told me the other day that he didn't know if he wanted to be married anymore. He had been married before me and we have been married for almost 10years. He needed some space. Although it hurt I agreed for the separation. Later to find out that he may though he denied it ran off with another woman. He had our bank card in which he was purchasing gas in about 4 diff states. So i had shut it off which sparked a text message from him to thank me for not doing what I had agreed. I said I would have if i didn't find out you were with someone else he said he isn't he is alone. All my friends and family are wanting me to run to the divorce lawyer and file. I don't know if I want to I want to know for sure before I make rash decisions it has only been 4 days. Am I a fool for waiting or is it so bad to want to hear his side of the story before getting a lawyer? I am worried about him though I haven't been able to contact him since monday and he don't have any money?

2007-11-07 13:15:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

is there a possibility that when you have a second chance of 2nd marriage that it would be a success...even though you both had a roller coaster marriage from history...

2007-11-07 13:09:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband had 2 kids with his ex gf before we met .They never married but he cheated on me once w/ her when we first got 2gether. glad to say it never happened again and we got through it. Every time we make a big move, like getting our own house, had our son, and now we just got married, some my inlaws makes it all about her like we have to base our decisions on her. the whole thing just makes me insecure sometimes even though my husband stands up and says he doesnt love her or care about her feelings for him anymore. We live in a very small town where everyone knows everyones business. my in laws makes our business her business. Its just a little too close for comfort. his mother still has her picture on the wall though she loves me to death. The ex is invited over to my mother in laws (where we live for the moment) ALL the time by his mother (she doesnt do it on purpose) not just holidays so she feels "included". I almost feel as if he has 2 wives w/ out the sex.

2007-11-07 13:08:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out last year 3 days before Christmas that my husband cheated on me 7 months earlier. He begged forgiveness and promised he'd never do it again. I have never forgiven him but I'm trying to live with it. Now, after him going to his weekly pool game at a bar, he came home late, drunk and crying. He said he was crying because he's worried over his son's marriage. I called the bar and nonchalantely asked "who was the lady _____ was talking to and the bartender said "I don't know her name". So that definitely clarified that he was talking to a lady even though he denied it. After the affair before, I don't even think it's right for any man to be at a bar, drinking, and talking to other women, especially when the wife is at home thinking that he's not doing anything wrong. I did a little "homework" and found out that he lied to me about a couple of little things. I feel so broken hearted I can't stand it. I'm tired of worrying about what he's doing. Any opinions?

2007-11-07 13:01:57 · 21 answers · asked by doglover 5

If you think marriage is overrated...

WHY?

2007-11-07 12:29:38 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for 2 years and its been an emotional rollercoaster. The current issue and one that has been prevalent throughout the relationship is my husbands drinking and smoking. When we were first dating he lied to me and told me he didn't smoke and that he would drink only socially. That was a lie because I soon found out that he does smoke and drinks more than 3 times a week. Well, the fact of the matter is that I asked him to quit at least the smoking for our daughter, which he did, but now that our daughter is one year old he wants to smoke again. Of course I have a problem with it and I really don't want him to smoke. So whenever he does say hes going to smoke, I get upset. He says he can't take it anymore and that he wants to make his own decisions and do what he wants. The problem is that whenever he does what he wants he ends up hurting me emotionally. Please help, I don't know what to do. I can't compromise because hes stubborn and hardheaded. Heeelllppppp!

2007-11-07 12:24:31 · 18 answers · asked by GonzosWifey81 2

well, i am going to have a baby in 2/08, and i dont know if i should give my son my boyfriend's last name.

i know we will get married, but i am NOT taking my boyfriend's last name, so i dont know if it will be easier to give our son my boyfriend's last name or my last name--what do you think?

i am not taking his last name because i do not believe in that tradition; i do not believe that my husband owns me just because we're married.

anywho, ,my boyfriend already knows i'm not taking his last name, and he said it is my choice whether or not our son takes his last name. i dont really know what to do. i'm trying to put my shoes in my son's place, and come up with an answer, but i cant seem to think of one.

also, we're thinking of the name trent for our son, and i'm wondering if i should pick the last name based on what sounds better with trent.

2007-11-07 12:21:08 · 16 answers · asked by happypants 3

i think my hubby dont love me
his always out with his friends and he dosent kiss me anymore and his not sweet with me . everytime we are together and i try to hug him or kiss him and he always has a exuse to push me away. what should i do

2007-11-07 12:12:28 · 26 answers · asked by sporty_girl96 1

what does it mean if u ask ur husband do u find me attractive and he says what do u mean, and it's not all about looks, how should I take it . My feeling r alittle hurt,should they be?

2007-11-07 12:09:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex and I became friends over the years. We became friends mostly because our children deserved civil parents. I had to become strong within myself so not to allow him to intimidate me, which I have. I still feel it sometimes, but my exterior has grown cold and intimidating when I feel backed into a corner. I do want to be supportive of him and his family and I do like being friends with all of them, I just do not want to be intimate in anyway with him. I like his girlfriends when we meet at family functions (our children and extended family are close).

My question is: recently we talked on the cell phone and apparently I did not hit the end button on my new phone after saying good-bye to him. He called me the next day to tell me that he kept the connection open and listened to me for over an hour. I asked him why and he just said he wanted to make sure I was ok. We have been divorced for a loooooong time, this wastes my minutes and I felt like he was violating my privacy even though I did nor said anything that affects him one way or another. He did things like this when we were married that led to my seeking out support from the local women’s crisis center, and back then he would use the incident to accuse me of something then try to pry information from me.

2007-11-07 12:06:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

im married with almost 3 kids but i met someone else and i dont wat to do?

2007-11-07 12:01:41 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am divorced with 4 children by my ex and am pregnant with my future husband's 1st child. We, needless to say, are struggling financially. Struggling but getting by. I am currently working part-time soon to be full time and very stressed about that.
My children are very high energy level kids that need a very structured and consistent routine. I will be working until 8 which is their bedtime so I will hardly ever see my kids or him. I feel very certain that i my be overdoing myself with this.
Any advice on how i can explain that if I'm gonna be working fulltime he needs to step up and be more active in the raising of the kids? Or the other option is for me to be a stay at home mom so that i can run the household in the most sane manner possible. I realize they are not his kids, bu t feel that we are in this together because we are a family now. I can't help but feel really selfish and like he'd be better off without me, which is sadly the truth....:( ( i know...boohoo!)

2007-11-07 11:51:59 · 11 answers · asked by ljstrimple 2

I work on a oil rig and i am gone alot. So i depend on her to take care of the house and watch over the kids which she is doing a dam good job at it.But i wonder if I am pulling my weight around the house I try to help as much as i can I help wash clothes I sometimes cook when I know she has had a bad day but is that enough are do i need to try to do more

2007-11-07 11:48:29 · 27 answers · asked by dcstogner 2

I've just gotten through a little more than a month of deployment.

To start out, I hate the war. My husband and I both hate the army. We hate the way of life. We regret that he signed a contract to be in the army. Worst decision we could have made.

But I love him, immensely, I have no interest in leaving him, and he is quitting the armed services for good at the end of the contract. For now, I have 14 months of being on my own. I'm a pre-med student. I have a lot to do. But everything I do, everywhere I go, I hate my life. I hate coming home to no one. I hate waking in the morning. I hate breathing. I rarely smile, and when I do, it's empty and meaningless. I have plenty of activities. I try to talk to friends. I try to be positive. I try and try and try EVERYTHING and I HATE MY LIFE. By the end of this deployment my soul will be drained dry from despair. I never had a family (not even as a kid) before I had my husband, and I realize it's all that counts.

What the hell do I do now?

2007-11-07 11:37:19 · 27 answers · asked by Aia S 3

Would it bother you if your partner is one that has multiple orgasms and stops the motion each time, however she allows you to continue what you are doing? I am conserned that my action or non action for a brief spand during sex may take away from my partner. He has never complained. I want honest answers...Thanks!

2007-11-07 11:36:50 · 11 answers · asked by tinc 2