I am married at early age ..got divorce a few years later. now married again for the second time but somehow i still don't feel i found the right woman for me...as the results i am having an affair overseas with a married woman who also find her marriage in the ruins as the results from her hubby's adultery. I don't know if I really love her or we are just together for sex... Need some good advice....
2007-11-07 14:35:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, continue that and consider adding a few more on. it could only help.
2007-11-07 14:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Ok, as a second wife, this is kind of upsetting to hear. But I understand that you question your relationship. If you don't feel like your wife is the one, you need to let her know. But I truly feel that you feel this way only because this other women is something "new". After being with her for a little bit, without the just meeting up for sex, you may feel the same way. I would say, stop the affair, if you have any and I mean any feeling for your wife. Also, if she is cheating on her husband now, what makes you think that she will stay with you. Really think about this, does your wife love you? Do you have kids? You really need to think about everything you would give up to keep this affair going.
2007-11-07 22:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by shay231214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are playing is a cat and mouse game, you enjoy what you truly can't have. But in the mean time you are not taking your marriage seriously. You need to leave the married lady alone and try to work out your own, if you do not wish to married then move on. But you should not get your cake and eat it to for some day will get a toothache!!!
2007-11-07 22:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up and stop hurting people! If you weren't sure about being with her then why did you marry her? Sex is a nice part of marriage but it seems that it is everything to you. Do you like hurting people ? Is it a sick game to you? Does this "other" woman honestly think that you are gonna stay faithful to her. I heard that ignorance is Bliss, so the other woman must me delirious!
2007-11-07 22:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by bella s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably connecting with the woman overseas because you both have something in common....marraiges that you both want out of.
Best thing to do is stop the affair...or get another divorce & stay single for awhile. Sounds like you aren't ready for marraige yet.
2007-11-07 22:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a man who's married 2X's and can't remain faithfull to either, it tells me all I need to know. You need to grow up. You marry because you're afraid to be alone, not because of love. That is a sign of insecurity. You need to look at the man in the mirror. You lie to yourself, not just your wife. If you continue this affair, then you never loved your wife. I seriously wonder if you even love yourself? Grow up man, and stop hurting the women around you. It's your type of garbage that gives the rest of us a bad name. You show the women no respect, especially your ex-wife and wife. Soon she will be #2-ex, as well. Are you planning to go for three?
2007-11-07 22:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by David T 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just how much sex could there be being that far apart. you both should get your divorces and then stay single for some time. Figure out who you are first and what you want truly in life. then if you still both wish to be together then get married.
2007-11-07 22:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two answers 1..You don't know what you want, 2. It's just sex. Now if you don't want to be married then you should say so, it'll be hard, but it would be the best for the both of you.
2007-11-07 22:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by bossalinni_00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a bunch of bull you have problems because you probably dint pay attention to the marriage....what you have is sex...its great because you have no obligations with this person weather its bills.. children... or the household. relationships are like flowers they need to be watered..talk with her and if it doesn't work get out...maybe you just like little games and its exciting for you, or you want a different woman from time to time....if so let her play too and look into being swingers....
2007-11-07 23:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by penny c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a lucky man!
Another port is the best avenue of happiness. If that ship comes to shore, you need to expect the luggage to be unloaded.
Keep putting those little notes in the bottle and throwing them in the ocean. Relishing in your memories is the furtherest you want to take this one for a ride!!!
2007-11-07 23:24:42 · answer #10 · answered by Nana Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's pretty obvious that the reason you are unable to make a marriage work is you! Shame on you for betraying your wife in this way and for not having any respect for her. You need some serious counseling to figure out what your problem is....and the lady your screwing is as big an idiot as you are!
2007-11-07 22:46:30 · answer #11 · answered by ladybug 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋