he dont love me?

Question

i think my hubby dont love me
his always out with his friends and he dosent kiss me anymore and his not sweet with me . everytime we are together and i try to hug him or kiss him and he always has a exuse to push me away. what should i do

Answer 1

I have to agree with your first answer here.
Talk to him, not us.
If not, write a letter expressing your concerns and leave it in the bathroom so he can read it in peace.
He guys read in the bathroom right?
Hey! Good question I have to ask now............brb! lol

Answer 2

This makes me sad. :/

I mean, it's very basic, fundamental human nature to want love and attention, affections.....from other people. I mean, even as babies or young children, we need to be loved and touched, you know?? I've actually seen developmental studies that say babies who aren't shown lots of affection and touching.... are more prone to becoming behavioral problems and are even slower learners, do worse in school, etc.

So, we learn that. Touch. Love.

And we get older. And we find people to love. And sometimes, they love us back ~ and that. That is the MOST WONDERFUL feeling in the world, right?

We end up in a relationship with this person we've found this mutual love and attraction with. Maybe we get married or live together.

And then sometimes, gradually ..... or even all at once.....one person begins to stop showing affection as much or pulls away from the relationship.

This can happen for SO MANY reasons. You need to talk to HIM and find out what's at the root of his problems.

Maybe he got married young and misses his friends, and resents you in a passive aggressive way? Maybe he's developed feelings for someone else? Maybe you've both headed in different directions and don't have as much in common anymore? Maybe YOU'VE grown .... and he hasn't? That's very common, I think. It happened to MY own parents. They married in their early 20s....and by their late 20s, they had me.... and Mom didn't mind partying on the weekends or on occasion, but Dad still wanted to party every day. And it drove a huge wedge between them, and led to many other differences. They eventually divorced.

ALSO, you DESERVE to recieve that affection. Love. Touch. The things you need.

When we enter a union with another person, a relationship or marriage, we have certain expectations. And from the few words you've written it's obvious that yours are NOT being met.

And now, you need to find out WHY. Have a long discussion with him. Make a list, beforehand, of things you want to bring up....and then find a good time to have a long discussion. Sit with him and go over those points.

If you aren't an articulate person, you could write it down in a letter. But you REALLY need to find out what the problem is, from his point of view.

And after that.....you tell him that you aren't happy. Tell him what would make you happy. Ask him if you think you can achieve that. If you could grow together again.

If the answer is yes, GREAT. You've got a road ahead of you to work through together.

If the answer is no, that's also not necessarily a bad thing. Because it gives you an opportunity to MOVE ON and find someone who deserves you and your affections and who will return them 100%, in the ways that you need.

I wish you all the very best. <3

Answer 3

i would say talk to him. tell him how u feel about it, make him understand. maybe he has other problems that he tryies to solve. tell him what u need from him, cause if u not telling to peoples what u want, they will never know. so try this first. and if he loves u he'll understand. but if not then i think female peoples must be with thouse peoples who are really loves u and keeps doing it. it doesnt matter how he was doing before it what makes u like him, if he can't make u happy after some time, then u should dump him! or he might cheating on u.

Answer 4

I think that throughout marriage, man's love for woman usually fade as the time goes by. And women still hold the love for man. So its best to keep the love going by working out somethings that you two enjoy. Basically in this situation if you still love him then do something that he's enjoy and also has to relate to you as well. Dont do it just once but from time to time. Because love takes time. Hope it works out for the two of you..

Answer 5

You need to engage him in conversation. Conversation is the key of a success marriage. Try to ask kindly him why he behaves that way. Is there something bothering him? So on.

Try to remember those days when you both were in love. What makes you think he was the one you want to live together? What makes him think you're the one he wants to live together?

Answer 6

Some men put on an act in front of their friends. Dont let him disrespect you. Let him know that you dont appreciate being rejected.Now if he is acting like this even at home and your sex life has changed you need to go "private eye" on that a%*. Something is not right.

Answer 7

Get a six pack of beer and sit him down tell him to drink one and start talking to him. Tell him how your feeling and dont put blame or act like your mad at him. Just TALK, see if he opens up and make sure he keeps drinking....lol The more he drinks the more you could possibly get out of him

Answer 8

Talk to him and see what's up. Tell him you've noticed a change in his behaviour and you're a little nervous about what it means.

Make sure you're not accusing him of not loving you, though. It might upset him and then you'll be arguing about that instead of having the discussion you meant to have.

Answer 9

Unfortunately marriages do get in a rut, but also he needs to worry about you and your marriage, not going out with friends all the time.... need to talk and ask him what does he think needs to change in your relationship to get it on the right track....

Answer 10

why don't you ask him about this matter maybe he is upset with you about something you guys r married so your suppose to be able to communicate but from what your saying it seems like there's a big problem .Just have a honest heart to heart talk with him leave no questions unanswered.