but she didn't know because she wasn't in a relationship with him at the time. would you tell her about your prior relationship with her husband?
2007-11-07 13:38:27 · 13 answers · asked by rebel with a cause 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i should have said earlier that it was a relationship that was kind of long. we saw each other for four months and while it wasn't totally involved, it wasn't all about sex either.
2007-11-07 14:31:05 · update #1
It's better to be honest about it. You don't have to go into all the details but she's bound to find out on her own and may feel like you were trying to keep it a secret for a reason.
2007-11-07 14:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't be hiding anything if you don't tell her. It happened a long time ago and it isn't any ones business. But I would take HIM aside and strongly urge him not to tell her also. It won't help the marriage or your friendship with her if she finds out and it won't hurt her feelings if she doesn't know about it. The key is to not feel guilty about the past relationship. Why? BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG! What if she does find out and feels betrayed? Be HONEST, and explain your reasons-didn't want to hurt you-it's no ones business-yes, I like him, but I don't love or lust for him-that was the past-etc. If she hangs on to it, now you have a problem you don't deserve, just because you were living your life the way you wanted to at the time.
2007-11-08 04:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by spike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. After 5 years....... leave it in the past. Never bring it up again, and you need to forget it also.
2007-11-07 22:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by leapfrog44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...it should never be told. The two of you weren't friends, and they weren't together so there's no reason to throw any uneasiness into the mix.
2007-11-07 22:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never....no good will come by telling her something that happened 5 years ago...
2007-11-07 21:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wouldn't tell her, it was before her time being his wife and before her time being your friend. Can't change the past.
2007-11-07 21:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by Dani Bosco 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.. she will never look at you the same... Why hasnt he said anything?
2007-11-07 21:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by CreativeMusicArtist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her. If she finds out later she might feel betrayed because you where not honest with her.
2007-11-07 21:42:06 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No. It will definately ruin your friendship.
2007-11-07 21:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by MeemeeG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave it up to "him" to tell her if he felt she should know.
If he doesn't tell her, I wouldn't say anything ;)
2007-11-07 21:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋