Marriage & Divorce - 7 November 2007

or do you just not care?

2007-11-07 16:28:47 · 16 answers · asked by JWalker 1

This problem has been plaguing my emotional health for some time. A couple of years ago, while discussing business, I told my husband that a business contact told me he was impressed by me. When I told my husband, he said, "What's so impressive?"
I let it go at the time, but last night, something similar happened. I told him I had been talking to a business contact and they had commented that I was unique. I was flattered, so later on that night, in passing, I told my husband how nice it was for someone to say something like that to me. Again, he deflated me by saying, "What does he find so unique?"
We've been married for 7 years and I love him, but I want to be able to talk to him without him tearing down my self-esteem.
I have tried to talk to him about it and he apologizes...not for implying that I am not impressive or unique in my own way, but because he wouldn't be impressed by anyone unless they do something he finds truly remarkable - like finding a cure for cancer.

2007-11-07 16:20:21 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Cant a person be comfortable in their married life yet seek the emotional fulfillment from elsewhere in their life to make ones own life "Complete"?? Flamers please avoid answering :)

2007-11-07 16:19:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-07 16:01:38 · 29 answers · asked by D R 2

Thanks, I appreciate your answers :)

2007-11-07 15:51:52 · 23 answers · asked by CaffeineLover 3

Can a husband that has cheated change his ways to better himself for his family and wife?

2007-11-07 15:51:46 · 13 answers · asked by Good Moma 1

how do I find a young man who want to be a GOOD father? I'm in my late 20's living in the northeast. Virgin and very little dating experience. but want to be married and MAYBE have kids but would need to find a male with good qualities (educated, employed, sensitive but masculine). how to go about finding decent men for dating? Don't LOL at this.

2007-11-07 15:43:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I started going out with my boyfriend when we were 16 & we are 20 now. I have never "been" with anyone else and neither has he. I love him very much and he feels the same way. He moved away after high school because I wanted us to experience life outside each other, and just recently moved back. We missed each other too much! But practically all of my family is divorced and it worries me that I will make a bad decision like they did.I'm sure divorced people didn't think they would ever be divorced but...they are. We laugh, have fun doing everything or nothing, and support each other and make each other happy. I think we have a good relationship. He's my best friend too. But everyone says wait until I'm like 30 to get married because people change. And I don't want to wait. I don't see myself wanting to party and sleep around in ten years. So, my question is do you think that I am too young to be engaged and get married in a year or two? Is everone right that I should wait

2007-11-07 15:42:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

my father died In July,he and my mom were still married but they had been living apart for over 10 years,Is she legally entitled to his retirement.He was a government employee before he retired
for over 25 years.My mother was told that he didn't have anyone as his beneficiary.Also my ex husband just died and we had been married for 35 years,I divorced him 2 years ago and have been married for 11/2 years now.Am I entitled to his retirement?If not what happens to it?

2007-11-07 15:41:28 · 6 answers · asked by jmubin 1

ok this past may, my family and I had to move to a whole new state. It's not too far but about 400 mile away from my boyfriend. we decided that we would make this work. We had been going out for about 5 months when i moved. Now it's been 10 months. We try to make it to see each other every month and it works pretty well. And we talk to each other every day on the webcam. But now we don't really talk much and he's not at home as much. He is a junior graduation early and has alot on his plate but i'm wondering what's going on. He says he loves me every day, i just don't know anymore. Please Help.

2007-11-07 15:39:51 · 14 answers · asked by Tay 1

My former husband died today. We have property entering escrow that we have had for twenty yrs His domestic partner of two years feels that he is intitled to the half that would have been my ex husbands'

2007-11-07 15:35:16 · 5 answers · asked by ladyredhead55 1

BEFORE you leave?? or is it a power thing on why he/she may choose not to tell you until they're already there?

I really don't have a problem with my hubby fishing, he loves it. I'm glad he can relax with buddies and what not. But what bugs me is that he'll go...after being gone for an hour or longer (where I'll wonder if he's okay, working late,etc) THEN he'll call eventually and say 'oh babe, I'm fishing or I'm 'going' fishing (when he's ALREADY there).

Why doesn't he call me at work or even leave a message on my voicemail before I get off work to let me know he's going so that I, myself can go ahead and make plans to do something else? I've told him how I've felt about this. I've actually turn down offers to hang out thinking we'd be home together that night. He knows it hurts me, so what's the big deal in calling beforehand?
He did it tonight. Gone fishing around 4pm and JUST left a message at 7:18pm - literally saying, I'm 'going' fishing. WTF?!
I feel it's disrespectful.

2007-11-07 15:30:36 · 18 answers · asked by LoveSlave 2

Do you think that if you were dating someone 5 years and you broke up with them and you claimed that you really loved the person you were with very much.....do you think that it's really truly possible to;

Meet someone on a cell phone through the internet on a text messaging service....text them for two month.....meet them only 3 weeks ago from today in person and say that you have moved on, over it, and happy with this new girl. Plus say that you love them already and are going to marry her soon and move her in with you? This meaning that you could get over your ex you supposedly loved even though you say you don't now in just knowing someone personally for 3 weeks????

2007-11-07 15:30:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sex after marriage

2007-11-07 15:28:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-07 15:17:44 · 5 answers · asked by Trey 1

When my husband & I met I made it very clear that I did not want to be with any man that traveled as much as my father. My father is a government contractor who teaches computer programs to soldiers. He makes decent money but he travels well over 50% of the time. - My husband (then boyfriend) swore he would never have a job like that.
8 months after we started dating he left the Army & got a job working side by side my father (but for a different company). He travels about 50% of the time. Since August he has spent 2 weeks in Arizona, 3 weeks in Korea & 4 weeks in Nashville. - He promised me when he got this job that he would not be at it more then a year before looking for another.
He has not made any attempts to find another job & it's been 2 years.
We have 2 children ages 1 & 3 & have been married just under 2 years. Our relationship is failing because of his travel.
He thinks travel is normal & says any emotionally stable women would'nt mind it.
Do I have a right to be angry?

2007-11-07 15:16:14 · 31 answers · asked by junebugbaby83 1

My spouse is an alcoholic and a deadbeat and although I know they are no longer close, I think it will still be very difficult for her.

2007-11-07 15:14:25 · 13 answers · asked by Deb 1

2007-11-07 15:13:50 · 16 answers · asked by Macy245 1

ever since i read 'Happiness Sold Seperately' i've been disgusted by married people who have affairs.I've always thought it was horrible but this book just really opened my mind to see how disturbing it really is!If you disagree with me i'd like to know why, but please dont be rude or snobbish about it.

2007-11-07 15:11:18 · 24 answers · asked by ☮ 4

I've been with the same guy for 5 years, we have a son together. We have been married for a little over a year. We have been fighting lately and I don't know what to think. Is it normal to have arguement? I mean we are never violent but the latest fight got to the point where we were just blaming eachother for things and we were both threatening divorce and I was holding a magazine and he ripped it out of my hands and said I wasn't listening. Which is true. When we start fighting it just gets to the point where I try to drown it out. Sometimes I feel maybe I'm just in it for our son, but then other times I htink I'm so lucky to have him as a husband. He tells me that I want him to be perfect all the time and I guess I do expect him to act a certain way. I don't know I'm so confused. Is it always suppose to be happy when you're in love?? I've just gotten to the point where I think neither one of us knows whats going on. I almost feel as though I'm losing control. What are your thoughts

2007-11-07 15:07:35 · 12 answers · asked by stilletto_killers 3

I want to leave then again I want to stay and try and make things work. I'm 27 he's 26. He is very stubborn, and has no patience for me or our son.

2007-11-07 15:07:15 · 12 answers · asked by LivingMyLife 5

I'm 25 have a wonder relationship with my boyfriend. I'm thinking about moving in with him in the near future. I know people say wait till marriage. What if you don't want to get married? I know of people just being life partners not just gays but adults with kids they just don't feel the need to get married.

Now a days why get married besides for the tax beaks and fun wedding party.
I feel the sanctity of marriage is dead. No one wait till they are married. Too many marriages end after a year or 2 now a days.

Can someone tell me why? Don't get all religious on me. I'm raised Catholic but don't agree on many things organized religion teaches. That's another topic.

What are some of your views on marriage in this day and age?

2007-11-07 15:05:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got married and honeymooned in a foreign country. When my wife and I got back to the States, we failed to register within our state. Now we are discussing getting an annulment. The only problem is if our marriage wasn't recognized in the US, I am worried the IRS may come after us because we filed our taxes jointly when still together. Any thoughts?

2007-11-07 14:54:00 · 3 answers · asked by jshamel 2

I met my husband about 14 years ago. I was 16, he was 17. After we dated almost a year, I found out he cheated on me with his brother's girlfriend. So, I cheated on him. After that, it sort of became a pattern. He'd cheat on me...I'd cheat on him. In the years we've been together, I've had an on again, off again affair with my cousin's husband. I kissed my friend's boyfriend. I kissed a guy I met in college. I had a 4 month long affair with my husband's brother...before we were married. I cheated for about 3 months with a man who was a friend to both me and my husband. Most recently, I cheated with my husband's best friend after I found out he'd had an affair for about 9 months. This lasted about 10 months. Everytime I've cheated on him, it's been because I found out he cheated on me. He thinks I only cheated on him one time...he doesn't know which time. It's like I keep trying to "one-up" him. How do I stop this self-destructive behavior? I need help fast. Please!

2007-11-07 14:53:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't usually do this sort of thing but here it is.... About 6 months ago I started seeing this girl, but I told her we would just date and have sex no relationship or ball and chain. We worked in the same store, but recently the company went out of business and we both started new jobs in different places, she is never available, it is hard to communicate despite her always telling me she misses me and enjoys the time we spend together. I keep bringing it up to her that this is a big issue for me, not even seeing her ect. the other day we were suppose to spend entire Sunday together when her job calls her in for a 7 hour shift, I was very understanding and patient up till then, I stormed out of her house and haven't talked to her since. I do miss her and have strong feelings for her, she feels the same toward me. But I am very confused and apprehensive on what to do next or should I even try to fix things? Is it worth it? What road should I take? I'm confused and hurting.,

2007-11-07 14:53:08 · 7 answers · asked by . 2

2007-11-07 14:49:55 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I was a young teenager, my ex (twelve years my senior) would not take no for an answer. I was having problems with my family and he offered to help me when it was not safe to go home. He began to use my family as justification to force me to stay with him. I suffered severe depression because he repulsed me yet made me feel that I owed him so much for allegedly saving me.

When I sought help to escape him, my first attorney made the comment to me “for God sake woman, the man loves you.” Basically mutual friends and church peers accused me of being a brat when I filed for a restraining order after he lost his license for drunk driving, and most explained his misfortune as I led him too it (he was out late drinking with friends one night and got caught driving drunk, when he called me a day later from jail he yelled that he called me all night and I was out cheating on him, but I was home with our children and my elderly mom and he never really called me).

What I think is interesting is that now men are picked up as offenders if they seek even consensual sex with a minor. Had this been the case years ago, I never would have married him and certainly wouldn’t have dated him, I tried to get away back then and no service could help me. I wonder how many men have done this when it was socially acceptable and now condemn those who do the same now that services are available to prevent this. When my ex asks if I watch the TV show “To Catch a Predictor” and states how disgusting those men are (often in front of our children to make a point), it burns me emotionally.

2007-11-07 14:49:54 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-07 14:49:00 · 14 answers · asked by Macy245 1

was reading some1's answer and she had mentioned that Love is not enough not quite understanding what that means I've seen real poor couples stay together handsome men with ugmug chicks etc...... please fill in the detail What the hell does that mean ??

2007-11-07 14:47:40 · 9 answers · asked by b ranch 1

My wife had sex with another guy near the same time our daughter was concieved, she says she was taken advantage of, and I just found out this plus another time in Janurary they had sex. We have been married for just over a year and now our (alleged) daughter will be two soon. I have ordered a paternity test which is still pending, but she has a lot of past issues eg. sexual abuse by uncle and alcoholic father. Is it worth sticking around for? I had to snoop through her e-mails to find all of this info out, so it's not like she confessed to me. Plus when I confronted her, she lied about it at first then told me half the truth and I had to hear from the other guys wife they had sex again in January, which makes more lies. She has a big problem with dealing with her past/emotions/problems and I think it may be better to just cut my losses and move on. What do you think? She cannot run her business sucessfully and is kind of a slob, which is bad coming from a guy! Please help!

2007-11-07 14:43:02 · 20 answers · asked by Joe 1