ever since i read 'Happiness Sold Seperately' i've been disgusted by married people who have affairs.I've always thought it was horrible but this book just really opened my mind to see how disturbing it really is!If you disagree with me i'd like to know why, but please dont be rude or snobbish about it.
2007-11-07 15:11:18 · 24 answers · asked by ☮ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my wife and two girlfriends discuss me all the time.
2007-11-07 15:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by bark 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I think you meant to say disgust not discuss. But really I would have to agree if you have the inclination to cheat on the one your married too then you should have the mentality and the respect not to marry in the first place or atleast tell your fiance that you may cheat on them, and let them decide.
Either way it is gross how much devotion and respect they put in there marriage this day and age.
I actually believe California is having all these wild fires because of all the sin happening in LA, Hollywood, and California in a whole. Ever wonder why New Orleans was wiped out by Hurricane Katrina maybe God was making a point that the way of life was disturbing and sinful and needed to be wiped out. Just you wait I have a feeling Las Vegas is going to get hit with something big and god like soon it is nicknamed Sin City.
2007-11-07 23:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know? I've never bought the: "I'm not happy in my marriage", or the "I had too much to drink"...and the one that truly makes me sick is: "Things just happened". Things don't just happen, WE allow "things" to happen. The funny thing of all this, is that I've been cheated on only once (that I know of), and it was such a long time ago (and I wasn't really, truly in love),I was secretly happy it happened 'cause it only gave me an excuse to leave (I was pregnant, too); I don't hate men (I LOVE men), I don't think they're all cheaters or dogs, and I don't have any trust problems. In fact, I remarried BEFORE having my baby; seven months pregnant by my ex and marrying one awesome, wonderful man that wanted me and my big belly... I just don't believe the BS that some people give as excuses for being unfaithful. We ALL have opportunities (and plenty) to cheat, only some of us, decide NOT to take any of them. It's just about not putting yourself in certain situations, not "opening certain doors", not allowing yourself to step not even close, let alone into, dangerous grounds. It's s.t.u.p.i.d. for a man or woman to say: "I couldn't say NO, she/he was all over me at the bar"or "She was just a very good friend, and without any of us even realizing it, it became something else" (co-workers being "friendly"). Well, my answer to this is, you DON'T get friendly, you don't talk to the *********. at the bar, you just don't "open doors" to any of that. There's no excuse for cheating. Discussing this matter that disgusts most people, has been interesting...
2007-11-07 23:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can't even tolerate talking with anyone that I know is cheating on their spouse !!!!! I have absolutely no respect for that person no matter what their reason. I have also asked a lot of men that I work with if they would ever cheat on their wife and the answer I got wasn't " No, because I love her" it was "No, because I have too much to lose". That reply I thought was the most selfish and self-centered I've ever heard. Yes.. I have to say the whole cheating thing just makes me sick !!!
2007-11-08 06:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I "cheated" when I was younger, but would never again. I am married and would just never. But you have to be in their shoes. It's not something (usually) that a person is proud of. I wasn't and it wasn't even a "real" commitment. The reality hits you later and the dread really sucks. I still feel bad and it was at least 12 years ago and I caught him cheating. Sometimes I'm glad I did it to him so I'm not such a victim.
2007-11-07 23:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by ugh192 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason to cheat. I cheated to my ex-bf when I knew he's married man. When he caught me I admitted to him that I did it. He really don't like it."I'm not disgusted"I did it in purposed to annoying him before I kicked him in curb. I couldn't find way how to make him angry but revenged
I agree with you Michelle... EDITED>I just don't believe the BS that some people give as excuses for being unfaithfuL. We ALL have opportunities (and plenty) to cheat, only some of us, decide NOT to take any of them. It's just about not putting yourself in certain situations, not "opening certain doors", not allowing yourself to step not even close, let alone into, dangerous grounds. It's s.t.u.p.i.d. for a man or woman to say: "I couldn't say NO, she/he was all over me at the bar"or "She was just a very good friend, and without any of us even realizing it, it became something else" (co-workers being "friendly"). Well, my answer to this is, you DON'T get friendly, you don't talk to the *********. at the bar, you just don't "open doors" to any of that. There's no excuse for cheating. Discussing this matter that disgusts most people, has been interesting...
"back then when I was going out to pub or nightclubs..I had told few guys I'm engaged..but they're trying their best to ruin .but lower my expectations when I'm in public places. Some of them replied "Are sure he is faithful to you, he's not next to you" or some say.."He is dating with others while you here" [trying to ruin my simple mind] but I replied "I trust him" (I wouldn't say anything about me just messing and enjoy if I want to cheat)..
2007-11-07 23:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by o_o 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Although I am not a cheater...I actually HAVE done it....not for sexual reasons but because my spouse was mentally, vebally and physically abusive......it IS totally wrong to do it....but there are people out there trapped in a relationship they are too afraid to leave....(afraid of injury or death if they tried) so they seek out the company of another to help get them by and rebuild their confidence....you never know what type of thing life may throw at you or how you'll react to a situation when you are really wearing your own painfully tight shoes
2007-11-07 23:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by ilovecats 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People have their own reasons for having affairs, and you cannot judge someone when you don't know what's going on in their life.
Having an affair is not ideal: if you are unhappy with your partner just leave them, if you want more sex then don't get into a committed relationship. But things are rarely that simple, and its is easy to feel disgusted when you have never been in a position where that became a choice.
I would never cheat on my fiance, and I know he feels the same way, but I try not to be too judgemental because you never know all the circumstances that led to it.
2007-11-07 23:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by kinkykiosk 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Disgust not discuss, lol its okay its late at night. Yeah I don't understand why people cheat, it would make me very mad and disturbed if it happened to me. If you didn't want to be committed to someone for the rest of your life than you shouldn't get married.
2007-11-07 23:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by ehrlich 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They say that men and women cheat for different reasons... but I think that an attitude like that cheapens the severity and the impact of it on the spouse. I have been in this situation once and it never leaves you. You will always have that image imprinted on your subconcious. Its so cruel ... To answer directly It makes my skin crawl and my stomach turn. There really is no excuse for it at all. No wonder they made them where scarlet letters...
2007-11-07 23:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by Mattymc323 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
never read that book. yeah people have affairs all the time it is disturbing indeed. its really cause more and more people are selfish and self centered. they care about themselves and their happiness, people especially in america will attempt to run from their problems and seek happiness. i said most not all so dont get pissy. but people tend to care less and less about anyone else other than themselves. priorities are completely screwed up. dont believe me? look at society today. we treat football players like demigods when there are starving children right on our streets, homeless people in the streets etc.
2007-11-07 23:15:47 · answer #11 · answered by djmixah7 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋