Cant a person be comfortable in their married life yet seek the emotional fulfillment from elsewhere in their life to make ones own life "Complete"?? Flamers please avoid answering :)
2007-11-07 16:19:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's true that marriage is for better or for worse, in sickness and in health...etc but why do we always try to hide the truth and pretend that it doesn't exist. Marriages tend to grow old...the very first reason which led to marriage in the first place can become very unfulfilling by time. Having children, all the hard responsibilities of life do have their negative impact in people's lifes and moods, and the desire to accept their other half. This depends if the spouse is willing to stand and help or not, it depends if the spouse starts showing signs of regret...
Sex drive plays a big role here too, it's very normal that physicall attractions between both partners can change, women can gain a lot of weight because of pregnancy and delivery and sometimes they don't even bother to stay in shape for their spouses because they are simply guaranteed...men can also do the same...
And if we want to evaluate most marriages now who've been there for 7 years and more, we'll find that a big part of those commitments subject to end any minute...for many many reasons..
I'm personally against having a divorce if children are involved, and wise people can find a way to tolerate things without hurting their spouses...there's always a way to go on, it's like tolerating a nasty boss because you need this job, and because leaving your position entails a lot of negative impacts on your life..which can be davistating...so you just shut up and go on..so I guess if you try to find relief outside marriage (even away from sex) isn't that bad....it's like having a close friend. People need to talk, they need to let it out to somebody...
It's as simple as that. Don't forget that people are people, we as individuals have owr own needs which don't always meet with our partner's.....
I think if both parts (communicating outside a marriage) are very well aware of this fact, there's no problem in communicating...as long none of them will seek to destroy the otehr's life because they can't have them...There are people out there who are wise and open minded enough to do it....I even think this can help weak marriages go on if divorce is out of question...if you can feel good with somebody, you go home, and you find yourself able to tolerate what's going on there more than before...you tend to understand your other half problems and find a way to solve them and help them understand themselves more....until a certain moment comes and both can decide wehther they wanna stay together or leave...it will be a much wiser decision then, and not inspired by a third party.
2007-11-07 20:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but nice try.
I don't know why you are 'incomplete' in your marriage, but your unhappiness stems from the belief that you are. I'd start by examining that part of your statement.
You married the one you are with for a number of reasons. Get back to those emotions and reasons and work on your marriage. It will be much more rewarding that searching for 'completeness' outside of your marriage.
Marriage is hard work. Sounds to me like you are looking for a short-cut to happiness. That road is a dead end.
2007-11-07 16:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is called emotional infidelity. It hurts as much as adultery. You are to keep only unto your spouse. Let them alone intoxicate you. When you marry you become one flesh. Dedicate yourself to your marriage. Read 1 Cor chapter 13 in the Holy Bible and find out what love really is. Then start loving your spouse like you vowed you would on your wedding day.
2007-11-07 17:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in many eyes marriage is a commitment to say that you are bound to that person. not bound legally i mean...through the soul. why marry someone if they can't make your life complete? what is the point? marriage shouldn't be something that happens multiple times in your life. that is why if ppl dont believe in marriage...it's called "life partner." they are yours and you are theirs. you picked each other for a reason. you should fulfil each other. if not, get out! why the hell did you marry them???
2007-11-07 16:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seeking affection marriage unhappy marriage
2016-02-03 04:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually means your significant other is not fulfilling all your needs since you find the need to stray. Or it just means you want the cake and eat it too. Not one person can every fill another's total needs, it is usually love and maturity that accepts this.
2007-11-07 16:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why bother being married? If a person is "happily married" they have no reason to seek comfort elsewhere.
2007-11-07 16:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too easy to cross the line. If someone is fulfilling you emotionally other than your spouse, then the things you should be sharing with your spouse are not shared. Your thoughts and feelings are what make you who you are. When you don't share this with your spouse, then it is too easy for you to grow apart.
2007-11-07 16:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why get married..You vowed before god and witnesses not to do the above. So why do it? If you are happy in your marriage why go looking for trouble...
2007-11-07 16:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. You can never get all emotional fulfillment from one person.
2007-11-07 16:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by Delta D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋