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2007-11-07 15:51:52 · 23 answers · asked by CaffeineLover 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. I don't think that there is any question that the Judeo-Christian ethic is clear about the matter.
Sex between unmarried people is 'fornication'. Sex outside of marriage is 'adultery'. Those activities are considered contrary to the will of God and are therefore sin.
Sin can be forgiven through sincere repentance and 'God-like sorrow'.
I realize that living in the free-wheeling society that we live in makes it extremely difficult to resist the almost overwhelming temptation to have sexual relations before marriage. But, that doesn't change the fact that it is contrary to the will of God and is sin.
If one does not believe in God, it makes it much easier to justify the act. But, again, it does not change the reality of God's will. It's not that God doesn't want us to be happy and satisfied in our lives. He loves us and wants us to have joy in our lives. But, uncommitted sexual relations and sex outside of marriage does not bring long-lasting happiness. It often results in children being brought into a world without a family to care for them. How can that be happiness...for anyone?
God's standards are difficult, but they are just and will ultimately result in true happiness and joy. Pre-marital sex and adultery are simply illicit joy-rides that can bring destruction and disaster.
From my experience and the experience of others that I know, God's way is much better than mankind's way.
2007-11-07 16:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 2⤊ 5⤋
Premarital sex = Sex before marriage. Technically, it's not a sin if the man is already married and he would be having sex AFTER he's married. Get it? A single guy however, that is a HUGE no no. You would definitely be engaging in premarital sex then and you would probably end up burning in hell for eternity. I'm only tell you this because i love you. Let me know if you have anymore questions.
2016-04-03 01:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, I suppose so. But when people got married at 12-13 years old it was a lot more reasonable idea. Or when people got married after knowing each other for 4 months or seeing each other 5 times. I think sex is for people in committed, loving relationships. It;'s also not so much the after marriage part that is most important IMO, but rather only having sex with the person you eventually marry.
2007-11-07 16:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No I do not. At one time it was the preferred way, but times have changed. In today's society anyone is free to have sex at anytime. Much of the reason for this change is the birth control products we now have readily available, and the fact women are much more adapted to join the work force and be an independent provider. There are other reasons, but those are the main things that make sex outside of marriage acceptable.
2007-11-07 16:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by K K 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe that sex is the most personal thing one person can give to another. Despite what the media projects into the world, it comes with much emotional repercussion and significance. I believe that sex is not only for married persons but for anyone mature and grounded enough to understand everything about what sex does to a person and to a relationship. There are many married people who don't even understand what marriage is- It just isn't how it used to be and that is sad.
2007-11-07 15:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, I don't think it's realistic. I think that all people should be responsible with sex though, meaning the use of condoms, regular STI testing and contraceptives. Those who speak about pregnancy, an unwanted pregnancy can be devastating in a marriage just like it could be between unmarried people. If someone doesn't believe that, they're too caught up in themselves to understand.
2007-11-07 16:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so. Although, I do think the people should be in a committed relationship and preferably in love. What happens to people who have pre-marital sex once, they start to get more free with it, more and more often. And that can tend to lead to a lowered self-esteem. And people have to remember, that when you have sex, the woman can get pregnant. To not take this into consideration, is a bad idea. But that said, the reality of waiting until marriage, isn't always going to happen.
2007-11-07 16:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by trapeze 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It depends on the individual. For me, sex is a benefit to being married. For others, they might just enjoy the act and aren't concerned with the future of the relationship. To each their own.
2007-11-07 15:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely not, I think sex should be for only mature persons.
2007-11-07 16:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope. That's the whole idea though, for people for to be married before sex. It's just not realistic for most people.
2007-11-07 16:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋