2007-11-07 15:13:50 · 16 answers · asked by Macy245 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should tell him about your fantasies. He may be very open to the idea. You also didn't state whether you wanted to be with another woman by yourself or with him together. One thing you need to be absolutely sure of is this - make sure there is a tremendous amount of trust in your relationship. A three-way always sounds fun and exciting but there can be hurt feelings or jealousy afterwards. Think about all the possibilities and discuss them with him first. If you are having a three-way...what happens if he seems to pay a little too much attention towards the other girl? How will that make you feel? What if you are paying too much attention towards her? Will your husband be able to handle that? What if you or him, develop strong feelings for that other woman and it ends up damaging your relationship? What if the three-way was just so-so for you, but yet it's something he wants all the time after that? These are just some of the concerns you need to think about before jumping into something like this.
I'm not saying that you should or shouldn't do anything. I'm just saying to think about things and talk everything through with your husband before moving forward!
Hope it helps!
2007-11-07 15:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by kaserak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have explored that road before marriage, now that you are married that does not give you the right to commit adultery, man or women it is wrong. How do you do it you get a divorce and then try it on for size, the grass always look better on the other side. And besides it will only break you up in the end, remember you will be sharing feelings and emotions when reaching out to a third party in a marriage.
2007-11-07 15:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by carmel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband about it. Ask him to have an open mind. Give him the option of joining in, but be careful with that. You have to trust your feelings on that one. If you're going to get jealous you may want to rethink the whole thing. Don't do it, unless he's involved/ knows about it and he realizes it doesn't give him a free pass to have a fling with some other hot chick
2007-11-07 22:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by I know what I know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what anyone says on this, you must let your husband know your desire. You both must be very much in love with each other and know where your bounders lie. You have to be able to tell the difference in "sex" and "love". Talk to your husband alot, and give it a lot of thougth, make sure this is something you can deal with in your marriage. Ask yourself, " Is it ok if my husband joins in", "can I handle seeing my husband with another person", "could I handle it if my husband comes to me and say , he wants to be with another man/woman". If you answer no to any of these you may want to rethink trying to be with a women until your relationship is stronger.
2007-11-07 15:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by shay231214 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well sounds good to me....but to keep from causing problems you and he need to really talk about this a lot and get everything out in the open from the start...and you need to make sure that can join in the process of picking her out with you...just don't leave him out or he could be jealous or build up some resentment. this is some thing you and he both can really get a lot of enjoyment out of so be sure and start it off on the right foot..good luck and have fun. and o send me an email and let me know how it works out
2007-11-09 04:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no worries if your husband views sex as fun. You have problems if he is lacking confidence or is insecure in the bedroom. This is something that should have surfaced BEFORE you got married! Talk about your desires and fantasies with him. You might be surprised at what he says.
2007-11-07 19:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by spike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonder if the same people that would suggest that you go for it....would give the same response if you were interested in another man....seems it is ok....if it is with a woman.....If you really love your husband...you would give up your so called desire to be with a woman...you will be opening a can of worms....I know from experience....
2007-11-07 15:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband OK with this. Would you let him have a sexual fling with another person of his desire? If you answer yes then go ahead. Your going to be playing with fire and sometimes you get burned.
2007-11-07 15:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by Freddy123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to wait a while and see if your feelings for this chick pan out. Bc you might just be more confused than anything.
2007-11-07 15:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if marriage is strong try having him with you for the first time and see if it helps all three people involved
2007-11-08 02:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by JENNIFER H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋