I met my husband about 14 years ago. I was 16, he was 17. After we dated almost a year, I found out he cheated on me with his brother's girlfriend. So, I cheated on him. After that, it sort of became a pattern. He'd cheat on me...I'd cheat on him. In the years we've been together, I've had an on again, off again affair with my cousin's husband. I kissed my friend's boyfriend. I kissed a guy I met in college. I had a 4 month long affair with my husband's brother...before we were married. I cheated for about 3 months with a man who was a friend to both me and my husband. Most recently, I cheated with my husband's best friend after I found out he'd had an affair for about 9 months. This lasted about 10 months. Everytime I've cheated on him, it's been because I found out he cheated on me. He thinks I only cheated on him one time...he doesn't know which time. It's like I keep trying to "one-up" him. How do I stop this self-destructive behavior? I need help fast. Please!
2007-11-07 14:53:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need maturity to understand what
marriage is about. You sound like your still
a little kid who needs their Mom & Dad
to tell them what to do. Accepting responsibility
for your behavior is a good first step in
growing up. Change your behavior & maybe
your husband will begin to respect you. Then
your husband may change his behavior so you
can respect him. Its a start.
2007-11-07 15:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ski Freedom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're already programed to never trust anyone and it's ok with you because this allows you to use this as an excuse to cheat as well. I bet there's some alcohol issues here on your part but hey, we all have our chruches. You're a 30 year old now, a grown women. It's too late to change the behavior between the both of you and you two will never leave each other. I assume you have kids (boohoo for them) and if you don't (YEA). You're both a "Bonny and Clyde" riding on the edge. What do you do? SPLIT (leave) THE STATE and the family.
2007-11-07 23:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your both screwed up get a divorce and get some help. You have basically shown each other over the years that you don't give a **** what you do to each others feelings. Come one the guy's brother. I'm surprised your still together your just a couple of sluts that are married you both need professional help and new relationships get serious help FIRST!.
This is so pathetic really why did you ever marry?
2007-11-07 23:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u both cheat on each other continuously then theres something seriously wrong with the marriage. If u both still love each other then stop the cheating and get counselling, otherwise get a divorce. ur behaviour is self destructive, stop it before ure destroyed.
2007-11-07 23:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Sony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not cheat out of spite thats what keeps it going. When he cheated either you should have forgiven him and moved on or let him go its the only way to gwt through it. I know a couple just like you and i dont know why they're togther. and why does it seem like you are obsessed with cheating with people who are taboo? (family and friends)
2007-11-07 23:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Shana T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that you want to change.
You are a slut. Accept what you are and enjoy it or, if you are actually tired of it , stop having sex with every man within your vicinity.
Next time you cheat (tonight of tommorrow), have safe sex.
2007-11-07 23:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...I don't think a therapist could stop your behaviour....but there is a chance....for that like you are asking...(the last line of your question...it is interesting....and I feel that you are asking this question from your heart.....so my dear...first make up your mind like ...now the decision what you want to take FIX it to your mind...and think that you wont change by any type of temptation...then go and attend for therapy....keep your decision like stone. all the best.
2007-11-08 05:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by 2bros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need some serious help! Keep your legs closed. That would be a good start!
2007-11-07 22:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by bella s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh goodness you need more help than anyone here could offer....I think perhaps shock therapy may be in need.....You don't need to be married.....you play stupid tit for tat games....
2007-11-07 22:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a therapist and invest in years of therapy.
Also, get sober.
Good luck.
2007-11-07 22:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋