Please help?

Question

ok this past may, my family and I had to move to a whole new state. It's not too far but about 400 mile away from my boyfriend. we decided that we would make this work. We had been going out for about 5 months when i moved. Now it's been 10 months. We try to make it to see each other every month and it works pretty well. And we talk to each other every day on the webcam. But now we don't really talk much and he's not at home as much. He is a junior graduation early and has alot on his plate but i'm wondering what's going on. He says he loves me every day, i just don't know anymore. Please Help.

Answer 1

You haven't said when the last time that you were together,If
you both are really in love then he would make it his business to be home when you call.Some men don't seem to be as In love as they say they are especially when you are not near,and are easily influenced by their friends to go out and meet someone that is readily available.And some women are always willing to see a man that is attached to someone weather she is in town or out.he may be seeing someone else now and maybe thats why he isn't home as much,as the saying goes what you don't know won't hurt you.You weren't In the relationship long enough before you moved to establish a
lasting relationship and the distance apart has not helped,he can establish a lasting relationship with someone that Is In the same town that he is In.I wouldn't count on him being faithful,he probably has found someone that he is interested In and can spend time with.If he says he hasn't,he probably Is lying.Find someone that you interest you In the town that you live In,you two just don't have enough time invested In each other to not look at seeing someone else.Sorry sweetie,thats my opinion.Follow your heart but don't be no fool.

Answer 2

I know that 10 months probably seems like a long time that you've been seeing him, but seriously do you honestly expect this to work? Is this someone you're thinking about marrying? Because if not let it go. 400 miles away, how do you expect to nurture this relationship so that it becomes stronger? Relationships are like gardens, they need regular attention, tending and care in order to grow and let's face it you and your bf don't exactly have that going on with eachother.

I'm sure you love him very much, and I'm not saying long distance relationships aren't realistic because there are some (few) that work out. Just really think about it and ask yourself if staying together with the distance between you two is really gonna make you happy. Have a talk with him and find out if the both of you are still on the same page.

Good luck to you : )

Answer 3

If he's a junior going for early graduation (do I have that right?) he should be home MORE if he has that much on his plate.

I suspect that 5 months of close relationship, followed by 5 months of LDR, with no end in sight, has probably cooled his ardor for you. I think he's involved with someone close enough that he's able to put his arms around her. He says he loves you; if he's sincere, he's pretty much clueless, and if he's insincere, you're wasting your time and rubbing your emotions raw. I have to suggest you cut this thing off - I just don't think it's working any more, at least for him - and move on.

One thing you might try is suggesting the two of you move on, because it doesn't seem to be working. See what his reaction is, and go from there.

Answer 4

ok if he stops talking to you then he's busy, i don't know what's he's busy doing, but if he loves you he would keep talking to you. don't forget your not near him anymore so another girl could try to take him away from you. Leave him a message saying how much u love him and miss him, maybe he'll talk to u.... btw if he breaks up with you soon, don't cry no guy is worth crying over. be strong, independent,and move on. You can probably get a better guy anyway that will talk to u everyday and love u more

Answer 5

The saying "absents makes the heart grow fonder" is not always true. The stress of everything you say is going on in his life may be getting to him. Be up front, if you guys love each other the way you say you do, just ask him. Share how you are feeling with him. If he is understanding, thing go from there, if he is defensive, then he may have something to hide.

Answer 6

you've got to look at what you want to do in the future. what do you two plan to do when he graduates? do you want to move to be together?

if you're not ever going to be together, then it's pointless to proceed. if you make a solid plan that you're going to be together, then it makes sense.

realistically, what is a relationship if you can't be together?

you're worried about him not loving you. he is probably just very busy and stressed with school. wait until he graduates to see if he changes, if you think he needs to change. tell him ways he can show you he loves you. give the poor guy some guidance! men are clueless! :)

Answer 7

How old are the both of you? You have got your whole life ahead of you. Find someone closer to home. He may be doing things but if your still kids then there is still alot of growing up to do.

Answer 8

Boys at this age are truly in love!! If he keeps finding ways to see you it could be long term after all!! You are the one I see finding a new connection, I don't know why it is, but girls this age need companionship in person and it's okay!!

Answer 9

you should ask you bf what is really going on...
its hard to have a long distance relation and its up to you guys to work it out to your relationship... conflicts in long distance relastion are....you are starting to lie/cheat to the relation coz nobody's afraid getting caught... sencond they fall out of love
so if you want to save your relation just ask and figure it out if you still want to continue the relationship coz its both hard from you... but if the bf/gf really love you they find a way to reach and see you!!!
hope it helps

Answer 10

He loves you, that's for sure... and he will love you forever.

Now just move on... or at least move your question back to singles and dating.

Good luck.