Can a relationship started very young last?

Question

I started going out with my boyfriend when we were 16 & we are 20 now. I have never "been" with anyone else and neither has he. I love him very much and he feels the same way. He moved away after high school because I wanted us to experience life outside each other, and just recently moved back. We missed each other too much! But practically all of my family is divorced and it worries me that I will make a bad decision like they did.I'm sure divorced people didn't think they would ever be divorced but...they are. We laugh, have fun doing everything or nothing, and support each other and make each other happy. I think we have a good relationship. He's my best friend too. But everyone says wait until I'm like 30 to get married because people change. And I don't want to wait. I don't see myself wanting to party and sleep around in ten years. So, my question is do you think that I am too young to be engaged and get married in a year or two? Is everone right that I should wait

Answer 1

Well my best friend is still with her boyfriend since the 7th grade. He is the only person she has ever been with.Of course she is not the only person hes been with. She still cares about him after everything they have been though, well they love each other!! They even have a baby now!! You cant let other people run your relationship, because if you do you would never have a relationship. You have to go with what you know and if it feels right then stay with him and make it work.

Answer 2

If you are willing to work through the really hard times together, then it will last. Being married to your best friend is the best advice anyone could give. The reason marriages fail, is because of a lack of friendship and respect. It sounds like you already have it.

My advice, is don't get divorced! There will be really tough times, times you think you don't want to be with him, etc. But just about all marriage problems can be solved with selflessness, caring, respect, love and sometimes a little marriage counseling.

It sounds like you are ready to get married, and I wouldn't suggest waiting until you are 30. I don't think you are too young to get engaged, and certainly not too young to get married in a year or two. My sister was engaged at 18 and married at 19, and she has been happily married for quite some time now. It isn't easy, I won't lie, but if you really love him, it's worth it!

Answer 3

I'm not experienced with love whatsoever, since I have not dated yet, but my cousin has officially fallen in love with this guy over this summer, and I have seen the effects of people thinking that their first boyfriends or girlfriends are the 'one'. But that's not the case, since my cousin seems to think he is 'the one' when it's the first time she has ever dated, and I try to tell her that, but she just argues, so I give up. Sure, a relationhip started very young can last, and I hope you and your boyfriend's relationship will last, because you two sound really really much in love with each other. And no, it is not too young to be engaged and to be married in a year or two, because my waaaay younger brother's babysitter's youngest daughter has recently just gotten engaged at the age of 19, and is due to be married next year at the age of 20. So did the babysitter's older daughter, who has been married for 3 years, and now is expecting her first child this winter. Hope this helps, and I wish you and your boyfriend the best of luck!

Answer 4

As you can see by the answers, it is "possible" to stay married. Although I would suggest you see a pre-marriage counselor, talk to couples or relatives and ask why do they feel their marriage did not last, what would they have done differently. Because people do change over time and that is a very young age, if you do decide to marry, just be prepared the best way you can for all what life/changes/crisis will come, never stop being friends first to eachother and you will be on your way to a successful marriage.

Answer 5

I met my husband half way through 10th grade we got married when we were 20. We have been married 38 years. It worked for us.

Answer 6

Sure it can last. But the odds are stacked against you.

Your best bet now and for the rest of your life is follow your heart and be honest with yourself.

Are you being honest with yourself?

Good luck.

Answer 7

YES IT WILL WORK!!! DONT HAVE ANY DOUBTS!! me and my man have been together since i wa 14 and im engauged and we plan to get married... AnD HE LIVES IN NEWYORK!!! DONT WAIT TIL UR 30, THATS WAYY TO OLD. GET MARRIED NOW!! UR FAMILY DOESNT HAVE AN EFFECT WITH WHAT U DO IN UR LIFE, IT JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE ALL WORRIED SO BAD THINGS HAPPEN.. SO DONT BE WORRIED