she has tried leaving before but he just follws her wherever she goes, he has threatened her with violence and barely lets her leave the house without him
2007-11-07 10:32:57 · 27 answers · asked by tom q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when u get involved with someone married it rarely works out. maybe her husband is on to it, and feels threatened and rejected, so he would act like this if he feels he is loosing his wife. back off wait and see if they get a divorce on their own for their own reasons. don't be the reason she leaves him.
2007-11-07 10:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in a bad situation that isn't at all recommended to anyone. Firstly having an affair with a married woman isn't right. It also can cause problems for her when she gets a divorce. However that isn't the problem. This woman really needs to seperate and get a divorce from this man (who sounds like a total lunatic). If he is theatening her, she can get the law involved. You and her should sort of take a temporary break until she's finalised her business with him. Once then he is legally out of the picture. I would then suggest you continue your relationship. However, I would just like to bring your attention to the fact that she may not want to leave him (despite what you believe). And I know this may be the last thing you want to hear, but if she is cheating on her husband with you, what makes you think she wont cheat on you. Good luck and I hope the situation doesn't get messier than it already is.
2007-11-07 10:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by ~(Tinker) Belle~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wanted to be with you then that is who she would be with. I don't care how much a husband threatens you if you are in love with someone else you will do everything in your power to be with that person. Now if she is sneaking around behind her husbands back she deserves what she gets.I'm sorry but if that is the case shame on the both of you.She is a married woman so leave her alone you have no business being with her. Did you ever think her husband is in love with her and you and her are braking his heart.
2007-11-07 11:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off never go after another mans woman unless you have a deathwish. Really if she is willing to cheat with you then if you get her in the end what makes you think she will stay faithful too you. I would just cut her loose and run as fast as you can. Really there are enough single woman to get involved with why sneak around with a cheating married whore.
It makes no sense why cheat with a married woman hoping that they will leave there husband to be with you. Really you are just making yourself look like a complete moron even if she leaves her hubby what makes you think your just a piece of meat until she is tired of you and moves on to the next guy.
PLEASE GROW AND LEAVE MARRIED WOMAN ALONE!THEY ARE TAKEN OFF THE MARKET. DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE KNOWN AS A HOMEWRECKER!
2007-11-07 10:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to file for divorce, file a restraining order, get out, and be done with him. I understand that she may be scared but that's what police are for. If there are no kids involved he doesn't need to know ANYTHING about where she is. Once that order is filed you leave it up to the police. Once she leaves him and has filed you can be free to do whatever you want with her. Give her these ideas and help her make them happen. If she rejects the ideas she's obviously not very eager to leave or to be with you.
2007-11-07 10:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a person is married, they have obviously been involved in a long-term relationship, and when that marriage ends, neither party is in any way prepared to take on another relationship right off the bat.
a person needs time to grieve their losses (whether or not the marriage was good), cope with changes and adjust to their new lives. involvement with another person, is the equivalent of a rebound, which means they are looking to prove they are loveable again.
believe me when i say, rebound relationships don't usually work out. she doesn't have much to give emotionally right now, for the simple reason she's been through quite a lot and i'm sure her life is in turmoil because she is dissatisfied with the marriage.
she needs time alone.
wait and see.
2007-11-07 10:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order call the cops file a claim of divorce because of violence and take the police order to the court with you help her get through this protect her that is what you are there for right so do it help her get out becuase it could just get worse.
2007-11-07 10:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lost 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He can't MAKE her stay. She has the ability to walk out the door, even if she doesn't think so.
If he's threatening her, she needs to get a restraining order on him. He won't leave her alone until he knows that she's going to take serious measures to have him out of her life for good.
2007-11-07 10:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by Abby 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey man she is married, why are you getting involved with a married woman? If she doing this to her husband, what makes you think that down the road it might not happen to you. Find a single woman and have a clean start.
2007-11-07 10:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Messy situation. I had an affair with a married woman. Even though it was her that did the chasing, I am just as much to blame because I knew she was married. Nothing good can come of these relationships, especially if there are children involved.
2007-11-07 10:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by Rolsy 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋