Marriage & Divorce - 25 September 2007

I know we correct our children's behaviour because we want them to grow up knowing what is "right". (And also sadly, because their poor behaviour reflects badly on us.) But, is it o.k./heathly to correct a spouse's behaviour? (Stressful outrageous outbursts and honest bad behaviour.) And...if it is...or if it isn't ... Has anyone else every been very tired of doing this. I have so much responsiblity in my life, I don't want to "police" him as well. I said as much to him and asked him if he thought I was out of line and he said that sometimes it's good that I call him on his behaviour. ???????

2007-09-25 08:36:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

lies about everything from the finances to what he has eaten on any particular day? And when he gets caught in his lies, he lies more to cover up the previous ones.

2007-09-25 08:36:02 · 11 answers · asked by ? 6

I have been married what will be 5 yrs soon and I am 25 yrs old going on 26 ;my husband is 35 yrs old.I have a daughter who is 5 yrs old from a previous relationship and a son who will be turning 2 yrs old(not my hubbys son)


Long story short is my hubby cheated we seperated for 5-6 months he moved in with his secratary and a week or two before before he came back home i had sex with my daghters bio-dad.I told my hubby we might need a paternity test when i found out i was pregnant but the doctor placed the conception in the time line we had gotten back together.All was well till few months ago my son had a medical problem and we found found he was not my husbands.Its been a bad situation since then.Will this all come out in divorce court what can i expect?

2007-09-25 08:30:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Met him in April and had sex w/him in June. Was it too soon or did I give it enough time?

2007-09-25 08:28:57 · 6 answers · asked by Lily 3

"hey this is ____ sorry i couldnt call u back my phone died, anyways ya i would like to go halfs with u" call me later...

he has been talking to this guy who during the begining of the summer was getting high on crystal meth.

my hubby promised me he would not smoke anymore and in the past he did do drugs ..... during the begining of our marriage he did it untill he confesed to me....

I DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THIS !!
please give me some advise....

2007-09-25 08:23:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am currently in a relationship that i had high hopes for. THis young man is very caring and sweet. He helped me through the breakup i just went through and promised to be by my side for the rest of my life. HOwever, i didnt trust him 100 percent and i saw something that made me upset and i asked him about it. He told me there was nothing to worry about but i didnt feel safe. I told him that until i feel i can trust him that i need to be single. He was sad and told me that he loved me but then after that day he became distant and didnt talk to me. I called him to ask him whats wrong and he says he is busy. ( mind you this young man would call me before he goes to school and right after he gets home from work.) Then on his myspace he put up pictures of girls and exchanging numbers. He tells me i need to trust him but he is acting like he doesnt love me anymore. I want to trust him but a big part of me says : CAUTION! I dont know if it was what i said.

2007-09-25 08:19:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

between a separation and a legal separation

2007-09-25 08:03:38 · 12 answers · asked by ? 6

Tonight is my husband and I are going to marriage counseling. He had an emotional affair with a 20 year old. He says he loves her romantically but he is willing to give us a try. I just wondered what to expect tonight if anyone has gone through this.

2007-09-25 08:01:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

He says he's on the fence? He takes me out, we booked a vacation, & he still wants sex? When all goes well he is happy.If he doesn't get his way then he wants a divorce again & is fed up? Is he playing with me or is he nuts?

2007-09-25 07:59:00 · 11 answers · asked by lostsoul67 1

And when you realize it, how do you tell your partner? Consider being married 5 years, with two kids.

2007-09-25 07:56:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been alone now for three months. I live in "our" home that we bought together. I raise "our" dog, Rocco. We had a great life. Travel, great careers, movie dates, slow dancing in the park with no one around- stuff that movies are made of. Then three weeks b4 my wedding I find out that he committed a felony against an underage girl when he was 19. I think that age is old enough to KNOW better. He never told me.
This has devastated my life. I get sick, cant sleep, vomit blood from stress, fears of going broke. He is completely out of my life, but picking up the pieces after losing what I thought as the Absolute LOVE of my life, has been killing me. I have dreams about him- us at the altar...
My health is suffering. Money's tight- I got stuck with the entire mortgage, all the bills.
I see a young, talented, educated woman when I look in the mirror. Yet, I lost the last five years of my life. Sleep next to the dresser that holds my engagement and wedding bands. Any good advice?

2007-09-25 07:39:11 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you were engaged to a man, and then he asked you to sign a prenuptial agreement, how would you react?

2007-09-25 07:37:29 · 18 answers · asked by introversive_guy 3

I noticed my husband had a prepaid credit card which he had never mentioned to me. I thought it was weird he'd not tell me about it and I jotted the number down when he was in the shower one day. I understand the convenience of one with the pay at the pump and all but I checked the account history and see charges from EUPAYCOM.NET It seems from what I could find online, all their charges are from porn sites. I can't see where his exact charges are from w/o seeing his email. We are really short on money and it makes me angry to think he is spending any money, 2 months it was just $3 but this month it's $25, on something like that when myself and our daughter do without. Do I confront him and let him know I was checking up on him? If I do he always has a reasonable answer for things, even when I know he's lying. What do you suggest?

2007-09-25 07:36:39 · 13 answers · asked by viper pilot 2

You first met, and how long did you date before you were married? How long have you been married?

2007-09-25 07:28:42 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-25 07:27:14 · 32 answers · asked by fireflies 2

I am 19 and after college I plan to just get an apartment and live in that the rest of my life. I dont want a house of my own some day, I would rather just live in an apartment or condo something like that my whole life. First it would be alot cheaper and second dont have to worry about the many hassles that comes with a house. I mean it would be hard to have a family in an apartment, but I am not getting married and not having any kids, so ya thats not a problem for me(no I will never accidentally have kids either cuz I dont have sex, never have never will). So size is perfect for me too I dont think its weird but know people who think its weird.
me I dont care about having a huge house and all that bullshit. I would be just fine in a small apartment
I like to be free and marriage and kids takes your freedom from you so screw that I am a very adventurous person and dont let anything or anyone hold me done. I do what ever the hell I want when ever I want.

2007-09-25 07:09:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

my hubby love to watched the porn from internet.. sometime in front of me. I dont feel its a turn on for me..but he said its a turn on for him...any suggestion pls?????.. can I tell him to stop watched the porn?? How??? Thks for answering..

2007-09-25 07:08:30 · 11 answers · asked by back2future 5

I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 20+ YEARS. LATELY WE HAVE SOME PROBLEMS WITH OUR SEX LIFE DUE TO MEDICATION MY HUSBAND TAKES. NOW WHEN WE DO HAVE SEX I TEND TO ORGASM ENTIRELY TO QUICKLY .I KNOW ITS BECAUSE OF THE TIME IN BETWEEN. ANY IDEAS TO SLOW ME DOWN?

2007-09-25 06:58:51 · 15 answers · asked by mybluechicken 3

My fiance & I have two boys-6 & 18 months. I know for sure I want to wait until my littlest guy is out of diapers, but I do want a daughter. However, we obviously cannot predict the sex of our babies (don't get me wrong-I'd be more then thankful just that my baby is healthy) but I have two boys and REALLY want a daughter. I dont really want a lot of children or to overwhelm my fiance and myself. What are thigns to consider when would be a good time to start trying to have our 3rd. Also I am 23 and my fiance is 25-does that seem to young to be working on our 3rd child? We both have good jobs. Together or yearly income is around $68,000-Is this enough to raise 3 children well?

2007-09-25 06:50:59 · 25 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3

I missed our anniversary this year, and my wife told me she wanted something in the driveway by this evening that would go from 0-200 in less than 6 seconds, or our relationship is over. I really don't mind getting it for her, but it seems an odd request to set a bathroom scale in the driveway. Am I missing something?

2007-09-25 06:47:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife won't go to bed at night without a lullaby and a bedtime story! After 12 years of marriage, this is getting ridiculous! Help?

2007-09-25 06:34:15 · 20 answers · asked by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6

It has always been this way, but how do I approach him in a way that makes him want to get things done? At his job, everybody says what a hard worker he is.

2007-09-25 06:33:03 · 25 answers · asked by hermoine54 2

His ex refuses to work, though she is perfectly capable, and lives off her children's benefits instead of getting her own job and supporting those children. I think child support should be used only for the kids and not for her own living expenses and travel - I feel the courts should make her get a job in order to collect child support. she should have to support her own children, too.

2007-09-25 06:22:18 · 32 answers · asked by tazrunner1 1

My husband has a very addictive personality and he was a smoker since we have been together it has been an issue and he had said he was done well on a number of occasions I have found him doing it yes it bothers me because I think it is selfish but more so because he lies to me about it and will tell me he is not doing it. My thing is don't hide it if you are doing it and do not lie about such a stupid thing because then it makes me wonder what other lies you are telling? Am I being crazy

2007-09-25 06:14:18 · 23 answers · asked by Kristi S 3

I have been married what will be 5 yrs soon and the good times are being seriously out weighing the bad.I am 25 yrs old going on 26 and my husband is 35 yrs old.I have a daughter who is 5 yrs old from a previous relationship and a son who will be turning 2 yrs old soon paternity is the issue here though among other problems.My husband cheated on me with his secratary while we were trying for a baby i found out and we seperated for 5-6 months(he moved in with her).I was very angry and in a emotionally depressed state out of revenge i had sex with my daughter bio-dad.A week or 2 later my husband came home and we chose to try to work things out.Soon after i found out i was pregnant i did tell my husband about hat happened with my ex.But when the doctor placed the conception date at the same time we got back together hubby said all was water under the bridge.When my son was only 1-1.5 yrs old we had an medical emergancy it turned out that my hubby as not my sons bio-dad.Read on please.

2007-09-25 06:05:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Should the man Pic the 3rd party of a 3some or the woman , or should both pic and agree?

2007-09-25 05:58:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have seen several people, myself included, put up with so much pain from a bad relationship or marriage. I understand there are many factors in it, but when the good outweighs the bad (way outweighs) what makes you stay? Fear of change? Low self esteem? Why do we take it when we could be a wonderful girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife to someone who actually deserves it! I know there are happy people out there, and more power to them, but does anyone care to weigh in?

2007-09-25 05:53:39 · 25 answers · asked by Kristen 6

I am curious what on earth gives males the right to abuse women?? I know not all men are guilty of this but there are a lot who are. I was in a bad marriage to where my Ex-husband took it upon himself to urinate over me, heck I would not even treat a dog this way. So what gives a male that power???????

2007-09-25 05:51:35 · 17 answers · asked by lynnette b 2

2007-09-25 05:35:20 · 17 answers · asked by Hollywood 1

About 4 years ago, i had an affair with a married man (i was also married) i know its wrong, please don't tell me!!! Anyway, we had a year long relationship, he left his wife for me and i distanced myself from my husband. It became a very serious relationship, we both believed we were soul mates. My problem was leaving my husband, i felt bad and always thought about what others (family mostly) would think about me. My husband is a drug user, mentally and verbally abusive. We have a dauther together as well.

After a year of cheating with each other, he couldnt wait for me anymore to leave my husband. It turned out very nasty, he called my husband....... and now it's 4 years later. Every now and then we texted each other to say hello and see how each other is doing, he is dating somebody else (for the last 3yrs.) For some reason, i still have yet to get over him. I love him so much, never loved anybody this much.

What should i do????????? Is there anything i can do?

2007-09-25 05:31:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous