My fiance & I have two boys-6 & 18 months. I know for sure I want to wait until my littlest guy is out of diapers, but I do want a daughter. However, we obviously cannot predict the sex of our babies (don't get me wrong-I'd be more then thankful just that my baby is healthy) but I have two boys and REALLY want a daughter. I dont really want a lot of children or to overwhelm my fiance and myself. What are thigns to consider when would be a good time to start trying to have our 3rd. Also I am 23 and my fiance is 25-does that seem to young to be working on our 3rd child? We both have good jobs. Together or yearly income is around $68,000-Is this enough to raise 3 children well?
2007-09-25 06:50:59 · 25 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I live in Davenport, IA. Not very high cost of living here
2007-09-25 07:03:30 · update #1
Financially it is a little tough. You are both so young that you could afford to wait a couple of years. I think when your yougest is almost 3 would be perfect. Good luck and don't stress too much over it.
2007-09-25 06:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Wimzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, I really do think that you are lucky for having so high yearly income, most of the people suffer a lot to get at the end of the month. I really do think that having a baby is not a joke and each child needs the care of mummy for a time, specially when its still a baby. I would suggest for you to wait until your youngest baby have the same age of the eldest. It's better as by then, you already gave them enough "baby" caring and they will be prepared for the third. Ah and I think that 3 is the number.
2007-09-25 13:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by la xina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
68 grand sounds like a lot of money, how are you managing that at your young age??? Wow, congrats!!!!! That sounds ok for 3 babies. I'd say wait for a bit before you try out. Get pregnant when you feel like having another child, not just a daughter. My parents were looking for a boy and had 3 daughters when the son finally came along. Then the son got used to playing girly games, which freaked my dad and he thought his son needed a little brother with whom he could play manly games. Then I came along, then finally the second son. Then my parents had a little too much to drink on new year and had another one. Looking for 1 boy, they had 7 children... Don't get me wrong, it's been wonderful, but they seen some hard times......
2007-09-25 14:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you will know but that is dumb My suggestion is wait till you're little one is 2-4 just like the six year old there is a lot of neet new thing the 18 month will do and show you get all the new car smell out of him be for you get a new one don't miss any of his funny and strange things he dose. I have also Girls are for spoiling and if you have one as small you can't spend the time or money it takes to spoil a girl. And Big brothers are good protectors
2007-09-25 14:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Ed M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hold off for a while. You don't want to completely overwhelm yourself. It is hard enough having 2 littles ones that close together....a third right away would be a zoo. Give your body some time to recover from the last pregnancy. It's not like your biological clock is running down or anything....you have plenty of time. Remember it takes more than just money to raise kids. It takes, love, time, patience and sanity. Make sure you have enough of all that to go around.
2007-09-25 13:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to tell you anything crazy like you are too young or that you can't afford it. I think you can make it work. My husband and I have 2 girls. One is 3 and the other is 1. we are 25 and 26. Have you guys talked about marriage. You don't have to be married, but it's an option.
Our determining factor is waiting until my oldest is in kindergarten. The cost of daycare is crazy in CA.
You sound like a good mommy. You'll do what's right for your family. Good luck.
2007-09-25 14:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your finances depend on how much you owe out. Timing another baby is different to everyone. Mine are 4 years apart. Sometimes I think that is too far. Sometimes I like it. Depends on what you feel is right. Only other thing you can to to make sure you get a girl is to adopt a little baby girl. I of course do not know your feelings toward that. But it is an option you have. Good luck on your decision
2007-09-25 13:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to discuss it together. What is wrong with waiting til your first two are out of diapers...you really won't want to have two toddlers. I've seen other people make it off way less of an income. Anything is possible, but you have to plan. Also, this is what I tell my cousins..."When you win anything that is a family pack, it usually comes in 4". Good luck!
2007-09-25 13:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by karamell08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't wait until the youngest is out of diapers. Then you won't want to go back to changing them. Wait til the youngest is about 18 months to 24 months then start hitting it again.. Tell him to pull almost all the way out and that will improve your chances at a girl.
2007-09-25 14:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you agree that you can afford it. Once the little one is potty trained try for the 3. But remember it might not be a girl. I know a family that had 5 boys then a girl. Another woman had all girls. As long as you are aware that it could be another boy.
2007-09-25 13:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by Memory 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋