I noticed my husband had a prepaid credit card which he had never mentioned to me. I thought it was weird he'd not tell me about it and I jotted the number down when he was in the shower one day. I understand the convenience of one with the pay at the pump and all but I checked the account history and see charges from EUPAYCOM.NET It seems from what I could find online, all their charges are from porn sites. I can't see where his exact charges are from w/o seeing his email. We are really short on money and it makes me angry to think he is spending any money, 2 months it was just $3 but this month it's $25, on something like that when myself and our daughter do without. Do I confront him and let him know I was checking up on him? If I do he always has a reasonable answer for things, even when I know he's lying. What do you suggest?
2007-09-25 07:36:39 · 13 answers · asked by viper pilot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave the card out in the open so he can see it. He shouldn't be hiding things from you, especially when it is about spending money on something as stupid as this. I wouldn't make it a fight, I'd calmly say, "you know, if you feel the need to look at porn, then get a second job, because we are struggling already and there are things we need more, then for you to pay to get your rocks off, using a secret credit card" say"trust me I could go to persillas or the local adult stor, and get some toys for myself, but I am putting yu and my child first, I'd appriciate if you would do the same" then cut the card with a pair of scissors, and say sorry, but you are already showing irresponsibility on it, so if you think we need a credit card, then lets look into it as a couple because what we both do financially, affects our future"
2007-09-25 07:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex boyfriend did that, thought he would never get caught, too. I secretly called his fave online porn company, got the # from his card statement when he slept..heehee, and called, said I was "Nick's mother, and that he is 16 years old. I will prosecute if they use this card again because it was his father's- NIck Sr." Get it. All a lie, but he tried to use it again, but they declined him. He found out what I did, he said that I was "slick". Pissed him off of course, but I didnt make it into an argument or a cry fest. He knew he was messing with a smart one. Now we are cool on the porn thing. Guys are gonna do it, be ok with it, just in moderation. Give him more sex, be something he lusts after, then he wont use those online bitches. Good luck!
2007-09-25 14:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would confront him. Don't let him lie his way out of it. You and your daughter do without while he watches porn? That is not right and you should not tolerate it. You did not say how you found out about the card. It is alright to check up on him if you have suspicions. There should be no secrets and no bills. What else could he be hiding from you? Start digging.
2007-09-25 14:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think that he is wrong. Not only is it just wrong period becasue you didnt know about the whole porn thing but its even worse that he's spending money that you guys dont have on nonsense. If he has to look at porn you should put a limit on what he spends a month and use the rest on things that are needed.
2007-09-25 14:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by Blond3 BombShell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i was in your shoes I would had already confronted my husband when i frist saw the credit card. When people get married their should not be any secrets between the both of you. You need to fix the problem soon. GOD BLESS
2007-09-25 15:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by mysteryousmtz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him what is up with this prepaid credit.....and then shock him by asking if you could have one to......just play it safe. men do not liked to be questioned and can give you a hard time because you have been checking up on him...reverse the role and the enjoy it
2007-09-25 14:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by wife in South Africa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch this is a tuff one! I want to say lie and say you found something on the computer history...but that would be lieing too. I would just plain confront him say you found it! You are suppose to have NO Secrets!
good luck!
2007-09-25 14:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely confront him. just say I came across this credit card what is it for. and see if he lies or tells you the truth. do you really want to be with someone so secretive.
2007-09-25 14:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him...there should be no secrets in a marriage, especially when the family finances are concerned.
2007-09-25 14:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are pigs. Okay, I take that back... a lot of men are pigs. I'd confront him on it and see what he says. Have you checked your history on your computer?
2007-09-25 14:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋