what to expect first night of marriage counseling?

Question

Tonight is my husband and I are going to marriage counseling. He had an emotional affair with a 20 year old. He says he loves her romantically but he is willing to give us a try. I just wondered what to expect tonight if anyone has gone through this.

Answer 1

Your first night of counseling will basically be introductions, going over the issues each of you want to address, and setting some therapy goals. You will each have an opportunity to say what you would like to accomplish in therapy. If his heart is elsewhere, you have a long road ahead, however it turns out. You will not get what you want by trying to push your agenda on him. If you and he are to succeed as a couple, you will need to work at understanding his heart, what lead to the emotional affair, and what you can do, if anything to win his heart. You also need to be prepared to let go if that is what is best. Letting go with love is one of the hardest things to do, but if you can do that, the rest gets easier.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Counseling takes time. The counselor has to get to know you both. He/She will watch how you two interact. Both of you have to want the marriage to work or counseling will be a complete waste of time. Your husband can not go into this half assed we'll see how it goes. You can not go into this thinking it gives you free reign to ***** him out and attack him. If you two go once a week the sessions should start to pay off in a few months. Remember you are both very different people with your own needs and ways of thinking.

Answer 4

The first session of marriage counselling is more of a "get to know you" session. The counsellor will likely ask you some questions about how long you have been together, etc. They will get to know you a little and get you comfortable. Then they will ask each of you the general big issue. You will likely get some reading to do at home and perhaps some assignments like writing a journal of emotions etc. It is always a very general session just so the counsellor can get to know you and your situation. It makes it easier for them to give you advice and direction.

Answer 5

expect night marriage counseling

Answer 6

90% of the time marriage counseling is a complete waste of time and money! You both clearly know what the issues are so why do you need to pay some master's level want-to-be quack to referree? Most people come out of marriage counseling WORSE off then when they went in as the counselors tend to continuely find new "problems" in order to keep the counseling (checks) going! I suggest you tell him to completely lose the other woman or you are leaving.....beleive me, you are going to get to that point anyway so why waste a lot of money and time in the meantime?

Answer 7

I wish I could tell you. I'm still wondering how anyone can 'fall in love romantically' electronically.

Me? I prefer physically meeting and talking to someone first. Lets see if your intelligence level is up to my standards. Then we can take it from there.

But...good luck. And hubby? Give him a good, swift kick in the agats for me would you?

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Answer 10

So sorry to hear, it depends on who your conselor it. Everyone has different treatment approaches.