i am currently in a relationship that i had high hopes for. THis young man is very caring and sweet. He helped me through the breakup i just went through and promised to be by my side for the rest of my life. HOwever, i didnt trust him 100 percent and i saw something that made me upset and i asked him about it. He told me there was nothing to worry about but i didnt feel safe. I told him that until i feel i can trust him that i need to be single. He was sad and told me that he loved me but then after that day he became distant and didnt talk to me. I called him to ask him whats wrong and he says he is busy. ( mind you this young man would call me before he goes to school and right after he gets home from work.) Then on his myspace he put up pictures of girls and exchanging numbers. He tells me i need to trust him but he is acting like he doesnt love me anymore. I want to trust him but a big part of me says : CAUTION! I dont know if it was what i said.
2007-09-25 08:19:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
then he tells me that i shouldn't cry. he said that he doesn't really care or worry because he can get any girl he wants. He then says that he is able to get a girl faster than i can get a man. I told him that if that is the case then he needs to go else where because i do not like a man who feels he needs to have women around him to make him feel good about himself. It made me realize that he doesn't love me because if i am worried about him not loving me a true man would comfort his love not make her feel worse. He manages to call his so called girl "friends" but doesnt have time to talk to me. I am about to say good bye to this person unless someone can convince me otherwise
2007-09-25 08:19:49 · update #1
This guy didn't help you through your breakup out of the goodness of his heart---he found you attractive and he wanted to get into your pants. You didn't feel safe with him for a good reason---trust your instincts. Once you made it clear that you weren't ready to hook up with him, he backs off. You don't realize it, but you played this well, and you got him to reveal his hand. Move on and don't look back.
2007-09-25 08:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when you told him that you should be single until you can trust him meant to him that you were ending it and he was single too. He doesn't sound ready to settle down with one person. Always trust you gut on things like this, you shouldn't have to "make" or "force" yourself to trust a person especially in a relationship. I hope you find a person you can just trust from the begining without having to work too hard at, those relationships are the best.
2007-09-25 08:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No offense but are you 12? This whole scenario sounds really immature and trust me there are more guys out there than the looser who's exchanging numbers with other girls ON-LINE.
2007-09-25 08:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by citlally_nenet 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This guys is trash. He's raking you over the coals and making sport of you. What kind of 'man' tells a woman that he can get any woman he wants and then says 'faster than you can get a guy'.
Baby...that gut feeling you have is warning you. Steer clear of this creep. You sound like you have more than a good head on your shoulders. Trash this pimp and move on to someone whose more worthy of you.
2007-09-25 08:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some women never learn. You tested his boundaries and found out that they didn't hold up. You pushed him away. You told him you didn't trust him and so he walks away from you and now you think it is a character flaw in him. Nice. Look inward some more.
2007-09-25 08:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you've already figured it out. First of all, trust your instincts. Second, if he's treating you that way, then he's not worth it; if he truly cared about you, then he'd act like it & try to address your misgivings/fears honestly.
2007-09-25 08:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by mbsjmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CAUTION red flags everywhere!! You need to run and run as fast and as far as you can from this guy. He is totally bad news - as you have already seen.
2007-09-25 08:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Somethingtotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy seems very vain and a ego a mile wide you however seem to mature to even bother with this guy forget him and get on with your life good luck
2007-09-25 08:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOnt bother saying goodbye, just ignore him and never look back. He sounds like a jerk.
2007-09-25 08:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by whatever 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
listen to the voice in your head...... stay away from him!!!!! the right man is out there for you... you will find him when you least expect to! good luck
2007-09-25 08:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by ncbound 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋