"hey this is ____ sorry i couldnt call u back my phone died, anyways ya i would like to go halfs with u" call me later...
he has been talking to this guy who during the begining of the summer was getting high on crystal meth.
my hubby promised me he would not smoke anymore and in the past he did do drugs ..... during the begining of our marriage he did it untill he confesed to me....
I DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THIS !!
please give me some advise....
2007-09-25 08:23:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please leave i went through that with a boyfriend i could not take anymore he was on cocaine
2007-09-25 08:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just exactly how much abuse do you plan on hanging around for and taking?
For most women like you - they *never* learn. The guy just keeps using whatever substance and abusing you, and you keep saying, "But momma, I *love* him somethin' bad."
I am willing to bet virtually every person here will tell you to leave.
And you won't.
Honestly, other than to wallow around in your own drama, why are you asking? Haven't you already made up your mind by staying? Talktalktalktalktalktalktalktalktalk and NEVER any action.
Okay, this time, with feeling: leave him, girl. He'll never change. Get out now. And so on. I know you aren't going to listen but I had to try.
2007-09-25 08:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this,......"run like hell"...you better get out of it early on than try and go through this with him.....beleive me, you dont have the time or the strength!,............ My ex wife and mother to our two kids divorced me for the same reason and that was 19 years ago,.....I'm actually grateful to her for doing it cuz it made me wake up enough to see what the heck I was losing..........and I lost it all.......It was hard for me to do but I got sober, it took me 120 days to detox and I had a few slips after that but I'm still alive and at least one kid still loves me, Thank God.
2007-09-25 08:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by theoregonartist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You confront him. You will know by his reaction if he is or not. I would think you could also tell by his actions - not eating much, little sleep, facial movements at times, picking at himself, etc. I have a beautiful friend that got on that crap. She had a great job, had a new home built, and was raising her son (she is divorced) and then she got on that stuff. She lost everything, including her son. And, she is not so beautiful any more either. At one time, men would stop and stare - she looked like a model. Now she just looks rough.
Good luck.
2007-09-25 08:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Get his butt some counseling/therapy. It sounds like her really needs your help, or someone else's to kick the habit.
Encourage him, and make him realize that he's a better person without that weighing him down!
If he doesn't want to do so, then I don't know what to say really. They have to want/desire to better themselves.
2007-09-25 08:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Crystal meth is hard to kick. Ask him if he is doing it again in a non-confrontational way. If he is using again try to get him into rehab.
2007-09-25 08:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by SweetGGirl 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he is indeed doing meth there is nothing you can do physically, you have to get him help because this drug is known to drive people crazy when they can't get it.
2007-09-25 08:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by b n real 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him. Before all his teeth fall out like they do with all meth users.
Junkies. Worthless vermin.
2007-09-25 08:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
obviously you know in your gut he's doing it. now you have to either listen to your gut or deal with it. if he said he wouldn't and he is, then you know he is never going to stop. he probably has never stopped.
2007-09-25 08:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by dtndtt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have kids?
how many years married?
I'm going thru this with my spouse with a different type of drug..
2007-09-25 08:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by Hope 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋