We are very much into each other and have very long-term plans, but a big, reactionary blowout where we both got uncharacteristically mean and pointed in our remarks toward each other got us to that point where it seems we were both arguing against a different person from who we fell in love with. To the point where, involved in the discussion after we cooled off, the "I don't know if I can be with someone who talks to me like that/feels like that" came into play. We both want to work it out and we are focusing on us long-term (realizing that,if we get married, there will be a LOT bigger episodes we have to get thru) so we've decided to learn from it and let it go, but inside, it seems like something died right there, at least in these first 2-3 days after the fight. To you folks who are in long-term relationships/married...does this pass? Any advice? Right now, everything that was so natural before, like a regular conversation, just seems weird and I'm very self-conscious. HELP!
2007-09-25
03:06:43
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rlfesty
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