why is my mother so pissed off about my cellphone?

Question

my cellphone was cut off yesterday for the first time in four years. i decided not to pay my cellphone bill for this month because i have other bills that i would like to catch up on and my cellphone is not important right now for the time being. my mother calls me early yesterday morning t 7am like she always dose to tell me what to do. my mother naggs the hell out of me everytime i go out or be with my husband on weekends because we were recently seperated and we are working on our marraige. we are getting our new place in novermber so iam moving in in two months. whenever i spend time with my husand my mothers calls my cellphone 24/7 with petty mess and it is always about her and her problems. iam trying to have a good time with my husband and all she dose is call my cellphone and keep up mess. when found out that my cellphone was off she got hot mad because i did not want the phone back on for this month.

i told my mother specifically early that morning when she did finally get in touch with me on my own home phone that i was not going to pay the cellphone bill this month and i did not want my cellphone right now. she just would not let it go. she went out and got her cellphone cut on and then she came to me and asked me if i wanted a new cellphone and a new plan. i specically told her again for the second time that i did not want my cellphone on right now!
she got pissed mad at me and now she walks around the house slamming doors, rolling her eyes and snatching and jaking her head off at me like she is a child! when she takes my father to work at night she drops him off she would always take my cellphone because she did not have hers but all of a sudden mines is off she wants to go and get a new one and she is still mad at me over that frecking cellphone! it is my choice not to want my cellphone on. is that crazy or what!?

when my husband i were first got sepearted no i did not tell my mother what was going on and i did not cry on her shoulder. i never tell my mother any of my business about what gos on between my husband and i because i know she is going to feed me negitive crap about him and she dosent even know what is going on with us. she even blamed my husband for my phone getting cut off and she says he is not taking care of me, but she dosent know is i let the phone get cuff of and he wanted to take me to metro pc to get a new phone and a new plan and i told him no just like i told her. she never has anything good to say about my husband from day one but she only said it when i would not do what she wanted me to or when he would not do for her. it started in 2005 when my husband would not give her his income tax check ($2500) to bail my brother out of jail then that is when all hell broke a loose and it been this way ever since.

you guys are right iam not mad at you! and that is why my mother gets so pissed off at me is when i tell her NO! then when i tell her no she blames my husband and starts telling me how my cellphone is not suppose to be cutt of and someone has a curse on my husband and me and that is the reason why we are struggling and all of that bull.
imagine having to live everyday listening a family member constantly feeding negitive crap about your husband and the choices you choose to make with him, you know i do believe to that my mother is jealous of my marriage this is not a normal way for a mother to treat a daughter and son-in-law. then when i dont want to hear it it is a arugment. she told me last week that nobody can come to her and tell her anything about her husband and tell her how to act becasue she is not going to listen to anyone but yet she thinks that i should jump when she say jump. my life with husband is not about her.

Answer 1

seek financial counseling

Answer 2

I know what you mean mothers can be a nag well look on the bright side she can't leave you anymore messages and you will be at peace for this month anyway. But what will you do when you get it back on you can't ignore her forever right? Well the only thing to really do is sit down with your mother and tell her you have a life of your own and am trying to work on things in your relationship and that she can't be in your life 24/7 she might get mad and explode but you need to let her know how you really feel or she won't know she is doing something wrong. To her it feels like she is just being a mom. Good luck and I hope everything turns out for you.

Answer 3

Very good husband for not giving her 2500 bucks to bail your brother out of jail! That is your brother's problem... very glad to hear you are trying to work things out w/ hubby! =) Glad your husband stood up to your mother and said NO! =) When you do get the phone turned back on, don't answer it more than once a week for her! =) and I mean this... =) if she gets mad, so what, hubby first... forsaking all others includes forsaking family when needed! =) If she buys you a new cell phone and plan, don't take it! She has to learn the word NO =) good luck...=) and stick by hubby's side... I know she is your mother, but, hubby is first now...

Answer 4

Tell her when she wants to start paying the bills she can complain about you not having the cell phone. But this goes way beyond not being able to contact you on your cell phone. She is pissed because she is not able to control every part of your life and she is also pissed that you want to work things out with your husband. At some point, you have to gain control of your situation and this is a good start to it.

Good luck

Answer 5

Tell her that you can do whatever the hell you want cos its your life and your phone. Tell her your here for her when she needs you but not 24/7. Explain to her that she is crossing the privacy line and she needs to give you space and time with your husband, that woman needs a life! God why are mothers so smothering and controlling and annoying!

Answer 6

Sounds like your mother may be jealous of your relationship with your husband

And the cell phone is the only real way she can constantly keep tabs on you,so she is mad that calling you on your cell phone is no longer an option.

Tell her that your bills are your business,and that there are other ways to reach you.

Sounds like there is alot more bothering your mother than a cell phone.

Answer 7

if u live with ur mom after certain age, this is what happens. She probably is just irritated that you dont have a life, you've ruined ur own happiness and now are living with her. I would suggest, work out with ur hubby (this lady hates that man jus coz he wudnt pay $2500 for bro in jail, well he SHOULD NOT pay it, and she shud have no prb with him, its not his duty to pay that kinda money for someone else's mistakes)

Move out, rent ur own place, dont let her nag u. Imagine your troubled life if this continues, all the beauty will evaporate from ur lfie if u r surrounded with such people even at home.

like I said in another answer to u, (dont be an emotional fool, dear sister, think about future and ur finances too) or else u will end up like a miserable old lady who lost it all in youth wen she had it all.

Answer 8

Okay i use to have this same problem. What you need to do is tell your mother that you are a GROWN woman and that what you decide to do with YOUR money is up to you. If YOU decide that you wanna have your phone off for 5 months, its your business. If you let her control you, she wont do anything but keep on doing what she has been doing. I am not saying be rude but have a woman to woman talk with her and let her know that you can make your own decisions...

:) Good Luck...

Answer 9

Sounds like your mom is a selfish greedy biatch. I think it's time to move away from mom... She's having a hard time letting her daughter go off and live her life.

But look at it this way: if you need help paying a bill, just ask for help. Don't ever be ashamed to ask for help. I had to do it, and it was the best thing I ever did.

Answer 10

To be hassle-free with you i think of the seeds of war of words have already been sowed. in case you tell your BF he will have a be conscious together with his mom (or be a mummy's boy and take her area) which will reason a war of words. in case you do no longer and you meet her you will spend the the remainder of your existence resenting her (and it will coach) and finally the stress will boil over. you will sound somewhat daft whilst it does kick off asserting "7 months in the past you left a message...........etc". I reckon you ought to nip it interior the bud now and take action. you does no longer be the 1st woman who did no longer social gathering along with her BF's mom.

Answer 11

she's got control issues and thinks that she can still push you around. my mother did this for a while even after i moved out of her house. i've been married a while now too and she STILL does it but i keep telling her not to call my phone because it doesn't work properly (partial truth, considering that the phone's based out of IL and my husband and I live in AK) and i just don't want to deal with her. we email back and forth and it's there that she gets out her steam, not via a phone call....best of luck to you and if you need more advice, email me, i'd be glad to help you out!