It isn't fair! Waaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!
I'd rather take the spankin.
Well, not always.
2007-09-25 03:03:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He gave you a computer limit because you wanted him to hold you accountable when you're taking your life in the wrong direction, and were on the computer FAR too much for your own good. Contrary to those that want to label your husband as controlling, you and I both know that it was what you wanted to begin with. I remember a while back when you were wondering about how to get him to take more control, and we talked about it at length. I'm glad to see that he's doing what he has to do to get you back in line, which was what you wanted to begin with.
For those not in the know, the relationship that Tam is in is referred to as "domestic discipline." While people on here try to argue that an adult should be able to do whatever they want, simply based on the fact that they're adult, that doesn't work in the real world. After all, why can't an alcoholic drink all that he wants without having an "intervention" or a drug addict get as stoned as he wants without being sent to rehab. The fact of the matter is... being an adult might mean that you know what's best for you, but it doesn't mean that you have the willpower to actually do it. So, there are people that know they need to get sleep or they'll be worthless the next day, but still stay online to all hours of the night and get little to no sleep. Then, they repeat the process the next night, and the one after that. Perhaps, if they had someone to give them that extra push, then they'd get off the computer when they should and do the things that they know that they should be doing anyway, but procrastinate.
In other words, if a person wants another person to keep them on the straight and narrow, even by "childish" (so called only because we are used to them only being practiced on children, as if we have a right to treat kids like less than human, but adults are BEYOND such treatment *rolls eyes*) means, then they have that right to choose that kind of relationship without someone who has no knowledge or understanding of their relationship to label it as control or abuse.
I am in a domestic discipline relationship with my roommate. I spank her when she breaks certain rules of the household, including certain actions that she regularly takes that could get her injured. This was what she wanted from me when she came to me for the relationship, and I have honored her requests. As such, I understand enough about Tam's relationship to know that she is neither abused, nor controlled. If you can't offer helpful advice, then maybe you should butt out.
2007-09-25 10:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by baka_otaku30 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because, Tami, you're a naughty girl that spends WAAAAYYYY too much time on certain websites.... :))))
You deserve a time limit AND spankins....
Who said you got to pick one or the other???
And then maybe some extra time in the norty corner.... (your second home) ;)
(ok, ok, mine too, mine too) ;p
2007-09-25 04:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks you should be playing with him instead of the computer all the time. Turn your attention around to him and you migh find when he feels he comes first he'll be ok with the computer time coming second.
2007-09-25 03:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously? Your husband limits your computer use? Sounds like you're in a pretty controlled relationship. Why don't you remind him that it's the 21st century, you're not the "little woman," and if he doesn't like you using the computer he can jam the mouse sideways up the orifice of his choice.
2007-09-25 03:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your husband gave you a computer limit?? Something about that doesn't sound right. Unless it is affecting your life or responsibilities I would tell him "screw you!".
2007-09-25 03:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Chelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he's the controling type....he sounds like more of a Dad then a Husband.
2007-09-25 03:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by shy girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybody needs limits. That's probably what my boyfriend would say.
2007-09-25 12:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by crc00000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you didn't stand up for yourself and tell him it was ridiculous!! You are a grown woman, correct ????? HE IS NOT YOUR BOSS! Get a clue, girl.....next it will be "you cant go out, you cant do this, etc"......Marriage is a partnership NOT a dictatorship.
2007-09-25 03:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a control freak.
2007-09-25 03:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult. WHY does your husband give you limits? do you have to have permission to do what you want?
That wouldn't last long in my world... he'd be toast.
2007-09-25 03:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋