What do I do when my husband abandoned me with kids and no money? Continued....?

Question

I hear nothing from him for 2 days straight. I try calling him on Friday because we were supposed to go home Saturday and I wasnt even sure that I had a way home. I get a text message late friday night saying I will call you soon and then I wait and get nothing until after i went to sleep (I missed the call). I had my parents drive down to get me and the boys. I text him that I was riding back home with my parents. He text me "thanks for not letting me see my boys before you took them out of the state- very classy move." To which I replied "I am going to our home with our boys, come home to them." I have called, left messages, e-mailed, and text trying to see if he is ok and I finally received a text message 6 days later saying that he was ok and nothing else. He didnt come to his sons 6th birthday party or even call for that matter. He hasnt tried to contact the boys at all. He left me with no money (we dont have a checking acct. right now) and no vehicle.

Answer 1

Child abandonment is a felony. Report this to the police, as well as your belief that his mommy and daddy are harboring him. You will get the car, and the phone, and his tuches gets put through the system. (Don't have unprotected sex with him if you reconcile until he tests negative for HIV for six months.)

Answer 2

First off, in all reality, it is illegal for him to do this. It is called spousal and child abandonment. I'm not sure what led to all this and if things are reconcilable between you two, but I would definately start working towards independency. In a marriage you are supposed to be a team, so if you are the only member left to the team, it is up to you to perform the duties necessary to tend to your self and the family (kids). I think he is outrageous for making such a stupid, inconsiderate, and selfish move. This is not showing much morals on his end, which is probable why his parents stooped to the same level of yelling at you and also left you and their grand-kids stuck. (The apples never fall far from the tree!) There is plenty of assistance for single parents, especially mothers.....sad, but true, use it to your advantage. Go apply for cash assistance, if you are not working, apply for food stamps too, even if you are working. This will help until you find work, then when you find work, the assistance office will help pay for daycare services, if needed. They also offer help with the purchase of a vehicle. Call your local county assistance office "IMMEDIATELY!!" Try this for starters to get on your feet, and also job hunt. As for your husband, I know it may be hard, but don't text, call, write, or any other means of trying to get ahold of him. Let him stress and worry. If his *** was home with his family he would have nothing to worry about. He is making his own bed!! You worry and tend to the kids and your self. If and when he is ready, he'll be back. You have no controll over what he does, so why stress. With or without him, you still need to handle you, the kids, and the home. File for child support and file for custody. No offense, and no means of discouraging words/thoughts, however, if you were already in counseling and he still pulls a stunt like this, you may need to consider all your options as a single, possibly divorced parent. There are legal clinics available that are available for free, based on income that can help you through custody matters and even child support. Take advantage of these clinics while your income is low, before finding a job and not qualifying for their assistance. When you contact these places, be sure to mention his abandonment actions. I know this is a very difficult and challenging time for you right now. For the sake of the innocent kids involved, please try to keep your head up and stay focused on a plan to independency verses dwelling on him or the scenerio. Keep in mind, these little ones of yours is probably already effected by their immature fathers' actions! Make a realistic plan and stick to it. You'll experience alot of different emotions during the process, but in the long run, you'll be pleased with the ending successful results! Good Luck and God Bless...sounds like you would be better on your own, anyways, with a partner in life, like that. (Remember to seek help from all sources available to ya)

Answer 3

I woke up in a california hotel room with my 3 kids under the age of 4 years ago with no clue where my husband was. I had no money and only one night had been paid for. I had never been to calif. before. I just spoke with the motel, went out and cleaned rooms and waited tables to make money. I survived but it was the hardest thing I have ever gone thru. Im telling you this because you can survive. I promise. Just stay strong. Put your kids first and dont let him bring you down in life. Does he have a drug problem? It sounds like it. My advice would be to stick with your parents, give your kids lots of love and leave the husband behind. You may love him I know trust me.. but your kids only grow up once and they dont need to go thru this crap. They will remember it all when they get older. Hang in there. I really wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

Stop calling and texting him, and start looking for a lawyer. Since this is a case of abandoment of the marriage you can have all of your lawyer's fees as well as court costs applied to HIM. If he has a savings account of any kind you CAN have access to it, because you are his wife. But you have to quit begging him to come home...obviously he isn't going to. Cover your own butt rather than worrying about his. Maybe your parents can help you with filing and don't forget to file for child support NOW, just because he isn't living with you and there is nothing in writing as yet doesn't mean he doesn't owe financial support to his children. That is WHY he is playing this game, he thinks he can get out of supporting his kids...don't let him get away with it.

Answer 5

I couldn't imagine someone abandoning their family and then missing one of their kids' birthdays. You deserve a man who will respect you and take care of you be strong I'm sure in time once you've healed from this after the divorce you'll find someone.

Answer 6

wow does he have a drug problem? It just sounds like someone who is an addict that disappears and does not think about family and such. I would say you send him a text message and tell him to stay gone and you go find a job and take care of your kids.

Answer 7

if your parents are willing, move back in with them and get back on your feet. leave the loser. he obviously has no feelings for you or them if he could do this type of thing. and stop letting him have all the control in this relationship. you are allowing his to act this way. stop it now. tell him that he comes home now or never.

Answer 8

Contact the District Attorney's office in your home town, Abandonment is a crime.

Answer 9

Drop that bum and move on. File for divroce and then cook his cookies with child support. If you don't do this than I will know why yours till trying to call that jackass.