me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now and we love each other and he bought a ring for me and i just happend to see it and i think he could be perposing... the only problem is that im still a senior in high school and he just graduated last year do you think it is to young to get married when you are 18???
2007-09-25 04:17:24 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes,you are too young.The best year to get marry is bout 25.
2007-09-25 04:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by nhuvi j 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legally 18yo isn't too young to marry, but emotionally and financially is a different story. Have you ever heard people say "I thought I knew him, but after 3 years of living with him I finally found out who he really is"? At your age, a year seems like a very long time. The problem is that it sometimes takes way longer to really get to know a person. We often fall in love with "being in love", more so than falling in love with the person we think we know. From a financial standpoint, do you both have careers that will allow you to live somewhat comfortably? What about if children happen to come along? Will you be able to afford to care for them comfortably without relying on social services? Too many marriages end due to fighting over money matters so it's best to get the careers started first.
2007-09-25 04:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No. It is really how you feel. If you know it is right then go for it. I know friend who got married right out of HS and are still together and that was years ago. But at the same time you are still young and I remember when I was 17 I dated a guy for 2 years and even lived with him and we talked about getting married someday. Well we are still friends but not a couple I had relationships after that and married someone differ. If anything tell him you love him and if you do want to marry him say yes but tell him you want to wait atleast another year or two and just be his fiancee for awhile and then if you are still happy go for it. Good Luck.
2007-09-25 04:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by jennie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think that is too young. I don't think ANYONE should get married until they've had the chance to LIVE a little, experience life, be on their own, have time to define who they are and what they want in life, and gain some independence. Women especially need to learn life skills such as living on their own, budgeting for themselves, paying their own bills, etc. It's NEVER a good idea to go from a house where daddy has taken care of you to a house where your husband takes care of you. Because one day, you'll look up and what happens if/when the marriage fails and you're on your own? That's why it's soooo important for women to fully know who they are, be mature, and gain independence before getting married. If you love one another, then your love can wait until you've both gotten a college education and some life experience.
2007-09-25 04:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more of a maturity question than an age question. I would not recommend getting married at 18 for anyone. You still have a few more "life changes" to go through. College, a real job, and leaving the house have made me a much different person than I am now. I would not have been married long if I had married my b/f when I was 18. I loved him, but we became different people, and it would not have worked at all.
2007-09-25 04:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by Donkey 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its to young. Im 19 and my man and I have been together a year and a half. Im waiting till at least 21. A year really isnt a long time. People change constantly and younger people are more prone to say good-bye instead of "lets fix this". You are still in highschool and thats all you know. live a little and grow up some more before you rush into this. Marriage doesnt make you "grown up" at all. You may want to be with him forever now but who knows 2 and 5 or 10 years from now. Besides, do you really want to risk getting popped for underage drinking on your wedding day. Even a toast of champaigne is illegal..lol
2007-09-25 04:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to be at least out of school and working and able to support yourselves independently of your families before you undertake the responsibility of marriage and family. You should be mature enough to understand the ups and downs of living with another person intimately and the commitment level one enters when one marries. You need to know how to manage money and budget, how to communicate with one another, and how to resolve conflicts that will undoubtedly arise. In other words you must be a mature adult.
If you are still in school, you have no business even considering a marriage proposal. If either of you plan to go to college, you should think long and hard about marrying before you complete your education.
You need to discuss when and if you will have children and how you will raise them. You need to discuss your expectations for marriage and the future (that includes not just kids, but careers, where you will live, how you will live, etc.).
This is a decision that will dramatically change your life and will change it permanently. It is not to be made lightly.
2007-09-25 04:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's no *right* answer to this question. I think it's silly to get engaged before you even graduate high school. I'm a completely different person that I was while in high school. My high school *sweetheart* and I were together for about 7 years, and over time, we just changed. We were not the same person we were when we were so young, and just COMPLETELY not compatible anymore.
However, it would be nice that someone know how to spell 'proposed' before they actually get that far....
2007-09-25 04:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by jezyka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mid-20s minimum imnsho...I got married at 19 and it was the dumbest thing I could've done. There's a huge difference in being a kid and being an adult, and a person needs to live that change and experience what it is to be an independent adult, having adult relationships (dating around) before deciding on a long-term lifemate and settling down...
Marriage when you are quite young has a higher chance of divorce and cheating...one or both parties start to wonder after a while what they missed out on by not being single adults for a while and socializing, dating, and partying on an adult level, before getting serious about a relationship.
My advice is to wait a few years...get your career path going forward and learn who you are as an adult, before you move into sharing your life with someone else...
2007-09-25 04:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It various from person to person to be honest with you.. Some people get married young, some people get married super late.. Its a matter of realizing what your giving up to be married..You can no longer be single. Sacrifice is the key word.. If your willing and able and realize the water your stepping into, then go ahead! But do not forget that marraige is a lifetime commiment, and not a I don't feel like being together anymore, so i'll get a divorce.
2007-09-25 04:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by sarmientoatebay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you should stay in school and learn how to spell proposing or at least to use spell check. Second, it's not about age it's about maturity and it seems that you are not ready. Marriage is a big committment that requires trust and takes lots of personal sacrifice. I think the trust thing may already be a problem if you "just happened" to see the ring. And you should enjoy being while you can.
2007-09-25 04:22:37 · answer #11 · answered by inaru816 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋