2007-09-25 03:43:04 · 27 answers · asked by notamonkey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you should she may think you have interfered enough it was their marriage not yours.
2007-09-25 03:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... don't do that. It will make your son look like even less of a man in his wife's eyes. There are two things that you can do for him though;
1. Have compassion for him.
2. Find a good counselor for him. Your son needs to heal, and then make the effort to learn and grow through this experience. Most people can't do that on their own. The goal is for your son to not make the same mistakes in life, and to not be attracted to the same kind of women his wife is.
2007-09-25 10:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You should stay out of it. If something's wrong with their marriage, which is obviously the case, it's up to them to fix it. Does your son want her back? If so, he needs to figure out what to do. If she left him for another man, I'd say let her go. If she really loves your son, she wouldn't have left him.
2007-09-25 10:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by PrincessJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as those mama bear feelings are surging right now, it would be wise to stay out of it. This is between your son and his wife. If you would like to get together with your daughter in law and talk about your relationship (between you and her), then that's fine. If there are children, do your best to you keep a working relationship with her. That would be the best thing for the children. It's a rough situation and I'm sorry you have to watch it...
2007-09-25 10:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!
As tempting as it may seem, STAY OUT OF IT!!!! If he wants to talk to you, just listen. DON'T JUDGE. If there are children involved(your grandchildren), STAY NEUTRAL!!!! She has her reasons, he has his. Your son may not be as innocent as your think, she may not be innocent, I know it really sucks to keep your mouth shut and take it with a grain of salt, but just be there for him with out judging either of them.
My ex left our son alone and got arrested(nothing like a phone call at 4 am at work from the police telling you that you need to come home or they will take your cbaby to DCF). Of course his parents took his side even though it was HIM who LEFT our son alone, they came by and swiped my whole livingroom set that I BOUGHT off of his mother. It sucked big time!!! I felt this wasn't her business and she shouldn't have taken sides without hearing the whole truth.
While the last part may not answer your question, it has the "other side" for refference.
Hang in there mom
!!!
2007-09-25 11:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by SB's cafe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes stay out of it and i can tell you from my experience. you really dont know what the real deal is in a person marraige and why they are acting the way do. if neither one of them has come to you for any advice of reason then leave them alone and let them work on it in their own way.
i say this to you because i just posted a question on here about my mother getting in my marriage and now it has caused so many problems. i dont go to her asking her for advice because i know how she really feels about my husband. she hates him because he took me to be his wife and all my life and attention is directed toward him and its not about taking care of her needs anymore.
dont interefer and have them hate you because even though the problems is between you and them when you start interfereing at the end if it gets worst they are definitely going to blame you.
2007-09-25 13:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by cylenneh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because it doesn't matter what was wrong. Nothing you can say or do will change her mind now, if she's involved with someone else. Also, nothing you can find out will help your son. Meddling in affairs of others leads us to nowhere but trouble. Just be there for your son when and if he needs to talk. He's your priority. There are two sides to every story anyway, and HE'S your son, so you're going to be biased whether you'd like to admit it or not. Just do your best to move on, and help your son to move on...but wait for him to ask for your help on that too. He's going to be okay. There are many of us that can attest to that.
2007-09-25 10:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I agree with ladybug, Gordon m. caring parent's should get in vole because we want family's to staying together, keeping together, weather short or long marriage, i learned that marriage is a life time of "negotiation" we don't practice, talking with both party's let them know that you are concern about both, because you have invested interest to, but be CAREFUL NOT TO TIP THE SCALE!
2007-09-25 12:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by jeir bair 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
see i disagree with the answers u have gotten so far. i think u should have a talk with her, i think sometimes thats what people need in a situation like this, someone to come in and try to meadiate the problem, they both know u and know u have thier best interest in mind, and sometimes it can be something simple and easy thats said and makes them actually think about what they are doing. u sound like a caring mother and well i wish u the best of luck here.
2007-09-25 11:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely you should talk to her if you want. Afterall you are her mother/father in-law. Just because she left him doesn't mean you have to cut all ties immediately.
Maybe you won't get any information that will be helpful but at least you will know that you did everything you could to understand what went wrong.
2007-09-25 10:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no...if she was your daughter i would say yes while treading carefully, but she's just an in-law. if you have to interfere, you should speak with your son, but keep in mind every story has 2 sides...so be careful if you choose to get involved. it sounds like a lot of hurt is happening, you don't want to be caught in the whirlwind of it all.
blessings to you and your family
2007-09-25 10:52:32 · answer #11 · answered by bishop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋