I have been married for six years. About three month ago i had a row with my husband . We were in different countries during the time we had a row(I was on holiday for two months).We didnt speak to each other for about month, then i decided to call him from the country where i was and suddenly probably problems with telephone lines I could hear on the telephone line that he was talking to another women and understood from the conversation that he just met her but there is nothing between them.Now I am back and I am 90% sure that he doesnt speak to her anymore but Now I cant trust him and i am very jealous, wherever he goes I I mean after work with freinds or collegues I cant stop being jealous and i dont know what to do. I am really fed up with it.What can you advise to me?
2007-09-25 02:39:16 · 16 answers · asked by Sindy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i had that same issue bout a boy friend of mine.
he had met someone and they spent alot of time together.
i got over the issue by getting over him. now i dont care , its the greatest feeling.
2007-09-25 02:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't beat yourself in the head over this! Life throws enough drama at us, without notice, so why create more? You already know why you are all of a sudden jealous and you know it ain't right, not for you or him. It ain't fair to him, being inocent, that you accuse or give him the third degree based on only your discomfort and insecurity. It ain't fair to yourself to let these thoughts run you crazy. Take each day, one at a time, try to control negative thinking by replacing it with happy positive thoughts. Also, why argue over make believe, just for you to stay with him anyways...I'm sure that you don't stay just to fight, so why make something out of nothing. If you discover something crazy, down the line, such as him cheating or anything inappropriate of a husband, then you can deal with it at that time, but don't look for reasons to fight or argue. Now, as for you, why drive yourself crazy with all these negative, discouraging, uncomfortable and depressing emotions. You deserve better. Plus, all this false negativity brought to the relationship, may cause true problems for you both, after so many arguements of assumptions and mind wonderment....Six years is a nice portion of life to just start chopping up based on insecurity. Speak w/your spouse and let him know of this discomfort and work on building strength between you two, especially if months gone by without seeing each other. The last thing on your mind should be anything, other than "make up time" with hubby! Good Luck, God Bless, and go spend time with ya hubby!
2007-09-25 03:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just heard him talking what is the big deal? I don't know why you two were away from each other that long, but you will push him away with your jealous behavior. It sounds as if you don't have any confidence in yourself. Go to the gym, go walking get a makeover. Do something for YOU. It may make you see yourself in a different light. Best of luck
2007-09-25 02:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is and previous expression that is going like this, whilst the cats away, the mice will play. Why interior the international have been you taking a 2 month trip without your husband? once you took your wedding ceremony vows, you have been think to grow to be one and that does no longer incorporate separate holidays for 2 months. definite, you should be waiting to have confidence him whilst your away, yet he's conventional purple blooded guy that desires a woman's interest. I recommend you provide him quite some interest and take him on a rapid trip to re bond!
2016-10-09 19:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to your husband about this situation. Tell him how you feel and why. Let him know you want to work things out but you are afraid he might be tempted to leave you for someone else. Ask him if you guys can go to marriage counseling to work through your issues and help you become 100 % trusting of him again. Communication will get you through this and help you regain trust in him, faith in your marriage, etc. Good luck!
2007-09-25 02:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you sat him down and told him what you heard on the phone? Im sure their is a reasonable explaination as to why you heard another womens voice... we always assume the worst!
When I used to get jealous I used to remind myself that you can never stop someone from cheating..If they are gonna do it then it will happen, whether its at work, out with friends or in the supermarket.
But you must have faith in your husband and marraige. Sit down with him and tell him what your feeling, im sure he will put your mind at rest.
2007-09-25 02:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were on a vacation from your husband for two months and didn't speak for an entire month? Hmmmm sounds strange to me.
You are jealous simply because he was talking to another woman? That sounds strange as well.
I'd suggest you let it go and don't go on anymore extended holidays without the husband.
2007-09-25 02:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very good question and I love watching Dr. Phil. First off you just hurting yourself worrying about it and second like Dr. Phil says, he's gonna do it no matter how much you worry about it so stop damaging yourself and think positive about it. He's not worth the stress, heart ache and you stop living your life cause your ate up with jealously. Stop by to see him a few times and see his reactions, men are easy to catch because they dont take time to think, they automatically drop they pants......
2007-09-25 02:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by WhAtEvEr....... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is a married women going on a two month "holiday" without her husband to begin with?? Sounds odd any way I look at this....
2007-09-25 02:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him about this? Does he know you heard another woman's voice on the line? If not, I suggest you confront him about this directly. Your more likely to get a straight, honest answer if you are honest and straight about your concerns.
2007-09-25 02:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋