2007-09-25 07:27:14 · 32 answers · asked by fireflies 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have asked him several times.He just laughs or ignores me.I have suggested counseling he says no . If I go to touch him or anything he starts laughing.
2007-09-25 09:28:20 · update #1
PS.I do not preach or ***** to him about it.I usually just keep quite .Because I have spoken to him several times and he ignores me or he laughs
PSS it has been over 3 years .And no i'm not a bad looking person .I'm no beauty queen but i'm not ugly either
2007-09-25 09:34:20 · update #2
Hard truth check-----
1) He's gay.
2) He doesn't find you attractive.
3) He's cheating on you.
4) He wants / needs something more than you're willing to give him (kink - etc...)
For 99.9% of men - its got to fit into one of those categories. For the other 0.1% they were raised in ultrareligious / repressive households and are unable to overcome the thought that sex is a dirty / sinful and avoidable act.
Period - that's it.
Now - go have a very open and frank discussion with him about why he doesn't want to be intimate with you - but prepare yourself for the answer....
2007-09-25 07:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by aa889d 5 · 3⤊ 4⤋
It’s too bad you didn’t find that out before you two got married… There could be a number of reasons “why” he doesn’t want to have sex, but you do need to ask him what’s up! It could be that he finds sex to be more of a chore than a pleasure, or that he’s having problems getting “it” up and sustaining it for that matter. Maybe he’s just lost total interest in sex and could take it or leave it! Regardless, if this is a sudden change as in before you were like rabbits and now your not, you should have him go see his doctor and see if he has a hormone imbalance. If his hormones are out of whack that could indeed be the problem and it’s a simple fix with a prescription. But most importantly you do need to talk with your husband and when you do really watch your language and how you word things. This is a touchy subject and more so ever to men when your talking about their “members” performance. Good luck!
2007-09-25 07:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by CJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen.it's not that he doesn't want to have sex it's just that he doesn't want to have sex with "you" anymore. I'm like that with my wife i'd jokingly ask my friends if they'd eat the same thing for lunch everyday. Seriously though..it's a communication thing, at first i thought our 1 yr old was taking up all her time but then it dawned on me that she was taking up all her time with the 1 yr old. Now I just pre-occupy myself with my computer and oh yes my girlfriend. Judge if you like people but that's the way it's been and honestly/sadly, I'm losing interest real real quick on the homefront. We avoid the subject like the plague because each time I attempted to have a mature conversation about it in the early days of no sex (i.e 7 mths ago) the conversation descended into negativity, so now I just leave it as is and my attitude now is " If we do we do if we don't we don't" and another thing..Why is it that the girlfriend would but the wife won't ? Hmmmm
2007-09-25 08:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by belmont_jedi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that with my ex wife. I thought I had erectile dysfunction or there was something wrong with me. Good news for me, bad news for you. The second we broke up it felt like a huge weight was lifted of me and my penis and it has worked fine ever since. The problem was her. I couldnt have sex with someone who complained all the time and made my life a living hell. I had sex 4 times in one night with the first women I was with after my wife. So, either stop being such a biitch or let him go so he can have some good sex again.
LOL!! Your husband laughs at u when u try to have sex. Baby, you really gotta be completely worthless in the sac for him to that. Next time he lauhs u should quickly go down on him and give him oral. Lets see him laugh then, That is what u must do.
2007-09-25 07:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is much too big an issue to address with a simple yahoo question. Is there still love in the marriage? If so, then communication is possible, and out of communication comes answers. The modes of communication are unlimited, limited only by your imagination, everything from one to one eye to eye asking him what's going on, to seeing beyond the surface to what his actions are communicating, to listening to his heart, to asking third person type questions, I have a friend who.. , to writing your concerns in a letter, to snuggling up with him and initiating sex, and then asking why if he doesn't want it, to going to couples counseling, to going to a sex therapist, to reading books together, to watching "how to" movies together. Bottom line, communicate, communicate, communicate.. start with listen, listen, listen.. because you love, and if not, I'm sorry, all hope starts with love.
2007-09-25 07:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him at a place other than the bedroom and tell him you are concerned about this. If he will not talk openly and honestly, he may be hiding something - perhaps he wants to have sex, but with someone else ....? If he has no answers, maybe a marriage counselor might help. Good luck ...
2007-09-25 07:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by dhdaddy2003 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
silly as it sounds, you really have to ask him.
Just dont do it in an accusing way. It will make him defensive and you wont get a straight answer. Explain to him that you want to satisfy him in everyway and you are concerned that you could be doing more to spark his interest. Ask what you need to do, not what is wrong with him.
2007-09-25 07:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the person who said "ask hiim".
Your Q is devoid of details. Maybe he's gay? Depressed? Sick? Bored? Tired? Frustrated?
Maybe you have gained 100 lbs? grown a mustache? Lost your nose in a bizarre gardening accident? Caught a horrible disease????
2007-09-25 09:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because he's gotten to used to masterbating by himself.
See if you can talk to him about it. Is he willing to go for counseling?
This is a serious issue to be addressed....if swept under the carpet it will hurt both of you in your relationship. Try to deal with it now before it seperates you too much from eachother.
2007-09-25 07:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by xboxgirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you kidding? That's not cool! A marriage without sex is not healthy. Get him to open up and talk about it. Don't approach him with anger either, or he may just close up. Best of luck to you!
2007-09-25 07:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Sicilianguy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋