Question for the ladies: pre-nup?

Question

If you were engaged to a man, and then he asked you to sign a prenuptial agreement, how would you react?

Answer 1

I'd hand him my own pre-nup.

Answer 2

It would depend on what the pre-nup covered and why he thought it was necessary.

My fiance brought up the idea of a pre-nup because I have some assets that he thought should be covered.

I told him no, because I'm confident enough not only in our marriage, but in our ability to work things out in a civilized manner if something happens to our marriage.

I didn't want to go into the marriage with the expectation (however slight) that it would fail and that we would need a "safety net". We're in this together, all the way.

Answer 3

Anyone, man or woman, that won't agree to a basic pre nup is exposing themselves as a gold digger. Most pre nups have a clause about getting no money if the other cheats and ensures that one person can't rob the other. How is that bad? If you raise the pre nup question and the other person has a fit, get out because they are nothing but a materialistic jerk!

Answer 4

in my opinion, there are only a few reasons to get a pre-nup. And if it isn't for one of these reasons, then they clearly aren't ready to be married.

1. Children from a previous relationship. If your new marriage doesn't work out, you need to have their welfare protected. This is the same if you are responsible for a parent, or relative ect....

2. If you have a company in which you aren't the sole owner. The business partner deserves to be protected and not have his family suffer after you get a divorce and a portion of business profits are off to alimony or something like that.

If you are just getting one to get it, then maybe you need to think about the marriage a little longer because it seems that you don't entirely trust the kind of person you are about to marry.

Answer 5

I would say that he didn't trust me enough to share his life with me. Now, that being said... If we're talking about a rich man, and the pre-nup ONLY covers what he has before we are married, and that is what it took to show him that he should have no worries... Then fine... If it goes into after we're married then he can find a different gal. Not fair to build a life, it not work out lets say just because, and to walk away from my life that I built with him. Only fair to split it 50/50.

Answer 6

I completely agree with AZrunner. I have a good friend who is a divorce attorney. He doesn't do any pre-nup with the exception of those 2 circumstances. It is his personal philsophy and I have a lot of respect for him for his belief.

Answer 7

I would have no problem with it as long as i agreed to the terms in the pre-nup but isn't that just saying this is for "WHEN our marriage fails" instead of "IF our marriage fails" kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy if you ask me.

Answer 8

I would get extremely upset. To me, a pre nup shows you that you are dooming the marriage from the start. I wouldn't leave him over it, I was just tell him, fine, we can just remain engaged and live together since you feel marriage isn't as important as me signing a piece of paper.

Answer 9

I would feel insulted if it was a prenup about money, but thats me I'm not 1 to use someone for money or anything else and if the guy doesn't see that then he obviously don't trust me so whats the point on getting married w/ no trust.

Answer 10

I would have no problem with it as long as it was fair and my kids were taken care of. Why should a man who has worked for all he has half to give half up to his wife if it doesn't work out? I know men that support their parents. What if the wife cheats and he wants out?? He has to give up HALF of his whole life?? That is a load of crap. Especially if she is going into it with less than he has.If she has as much, then it shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 11

It all depends. If I am wealthier than him, then I will have no hesitation in signing the pre-nup. But if he is wealthier than me, then I would question his intention in marrying me.