I have been married what will be 5 yrs soon and I am 25 yrs old going on 26 ;my husband is 35 yrs old.I have a daughter who is 5 yrs old from a previous relationship and a son who will be turning 2 yrs old(not my hubbys son)
Long story short is my hubby cheated we seperated for 5-6 months he moved in with his secratary and a week or two before before he came back home i had sex with my daghters bio-dad.I told my hubby we might need a paternity test when i found out i was pregnant but the doctor placed the conception in the time line we had gotten back together.All was well till few months ago my son had a medical problem and we found found he was not my husbands.Its been a bad situation since then.Will this all come out in divorce court what can i expect?
2007-09-25 08:30:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
State is MA
2007-09-25 08:47:09 · update #1
More then likely.....sorry
2007-09-25 08:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to quasi - THERE ARE NO JURIES IN DIVORCE PROCEEDINGS!!
To answer your question - if you have both cheated, it would be best to agree that you have both been wrong and leave it at that. Work out a Settlement Agreement and a Property Agreement (who gets what), and then file for uncontested divorce in your State if it is available, or just wait out the separation wiating period time and file then. If you are already receiving support from your children's bio father, get the DNA test when this baby is born to determine who is the new baby's father. (the Dr. really doesn't know for sure!) That will settle the dispute as to who has to support the child.
Since you were both wrong, you should grow up and act like adults and settle this thing amicably. No need to air your dirty laundry, just agree to divorce and get it done! You each need to move on and spend some time in therapy and growing up, if not for yourself, then for the children. Nothing hurts kids more than parents at war!
2007-09-25 09:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by chefddr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha, you had better believe it will come up. A P.I. may be even hired to investigate you. You can expect witnesses, etc. as to what happened.
In addition to truthful things, there will also be lies, etc. You will just have to fight any lies, and face up to the bad stuff.
You both are equally bad, so you may want to try some type of mediation, rather than tearing each other up in court. An agreed upon mediation agreement is usually better than a judges orders.
The nastiest scenarios are child custody fights. But since your husband is not even the father of your child, this is a moot point.
This really could just be done as a no fault divorce without bringing any of it up.
2007-09-25 09:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by madcat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two weren't together when you got preg and your doc said that it was your husbands and no reason to question it any further. The only thing that should or would be brought up in court is the paternity. Most of the time the two sides meets before court and works out all the details and the judge will sign off on the agreements if he thinks they're fair.
2007-09-25 08:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible that it will come out in the divorce; however, if he was cheating on you and moved out there really is no reason for him to bring it up. In my state, there is a 90 day waiting period for a divorce to be final if you have children; however, since neither child is his biological child, the 90 day waiting period might be waived (I don't know what the law is in your state). My divorce was very quick and simple, and none of the dirty laundry came out....mine or his. Good luck.
2007-09-25 08:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by Libby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a no fault divorce state, then no it will not come out in court. If your son has his name listed as bio father on the birth certificate, then it probably will come out if child support and visitation becomes an issue.
2007-09-25 08:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by LoraC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 08:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL...you'd better believe it will. Juries just love a good story filled with sex, infidelity and illigitmacy. It helps them come to a quicker and easier conclusion when awarded child placement and cash awards as well as the distribution of property.
2007-09-25 08:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is the reason why you are getting a divorce it's very likely that it will come up. If your ex is angry, hurt or spiteful it's also pretty likely that it will come up. Prepare for the worse honey! Good luck.
2007-09-25 08:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by geminimom79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expect for joint custody.
Or maybe even the state taking the kid because neither one of you can be a parent you both cheated.
2007-09-25 12:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are screwed. You will be exposed as a whore and you will have to go after the ex for child support.
2007-09-25 09:42:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋