I know we correct our children's behaviour because we want them to grow up knowing what is "right". (And also sadly, because their poor behaviour reflects badly on us.) But, is it o.k./heathly to correct a spouse's behaviour? (Stressful outrageous outbursts and honest bad behaviour.) And...if it is...or if it isn't ... Has anyone else every been very tired of doing this. I have so much responsiblity in my life, I don't want to "police" him as well. I said as much to him and asked him if he thought I was out of line and he said that sometimes it's good that I call him on his behaviour. ???????
2007-09-25 08:36:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey... I think it's wrong.... But, what do YOU do if your spouse completely looses it? Ignore it? Pretend you don't know them what?
2007-09-25 08:41:18 · update #1
I would be upset to be corrected in public. And the times he's been a totally rude in public I've just tried to smooth things over. But, once we're back at our table, I just look at him or just say nothing. It's just really embarassing and I don't like it when he's not nice in front of the kids.
2007-09-27 08:05:16 · update #2
Ya know, I think yours and mine husbands are the same. Why should we have to babysit them? I don't know wtf to do about it either. I've left twice and he shaped up but only to a point. Mine wants me to correct him too. It's so frusterating that some men will act up till somebody says something. Like they can't be responsible for their own actions. I don't want to be a nag or a beotch to him either.
2007-09-25 08:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're married to him/her and you most certainally should call them on behavior that is out of line or improper.
If more people did that...and you 'call' them on this reasonably and civilly.....then there would be fewer less divorces.
However people are stupid for the most part and will allow that time of behvaior to go unchecked. Its like dealing with a dog. Correct its bad habits and it learns not to do what it did. If it doesn't get the message....get rid of it. Same goes for spouses.
2007-09-25 08:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but do it discretely. Maybe have a code word when he is out of line in talking to others. Dont do this in front of the kids, or they will use it against both of you. Also, I wouldnt do it often, because you will then give the message that you dont really like him anymore.
2007-09-25 08:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I mean that is why you have open communication in a marriage. Correct were correction is needed. No offense but the correct spelling to the word is behavior.
2007-09-25 08:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if they are peeing on the carpet or something, I wouldn't hold it against you to whack them with a newspaper.
I wouldn't make a habit of it though.
2007-09-25 08:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by Erad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, but in private and not in the same way you would correct a child, I would say something along the lines of "It really upsets me when you....." and discuss it with him.
2007-09-26 04:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset to be "corrected" in public.
2007-09-26 09:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your spouse is not your child, NO it is not okay to correct your spouse's behavior.
2007-09-25 08:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
If it works, keep at it.
2007-09-25 09:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is an adult and you are not his mother......why would you "police" him?
2007-09-25 08:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Rosie 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋