Marriage & Divorce - 19 September 2007

My husband treatme bad,mentally,verbal abuse,low self steam. Never told me "I love u" I beg him to have sex, he never apreciate me as a woman, he thouth everething was fine, until I spoke & told him, how I felt. He couldn't belive it. I have the courage to said. I felt release for the emotional feeling in my heart, now things changes, I dont love him anymore, I have a lot a pain, i'm angry, exausted for the whole situation. I dont know w/to do. I have 3 kids, but I cant handle it anymore, now it's my turn.I was always lonelly, I'been living depress,& low self s. cause of him, he's a brain wash. I consider my self, pretty, good person, loving mother, but I belived that I was fat,ugly,nobody could love me, I belived for years,til somebody came to me as a friend,he's my sweet love from midle school, he's lovely, good person. But he's married. Anyway I need your opinions. Thanks.

2007-09-19 17:35:01 · 21 answers · asked by Butterfly 1

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recently i found that she already got married and having a son aged 7yrs.she and her parents hide this matter and married me not even getting divorce from her x husband. as our marriage was in vadapalani temple. there is a form to be filled by the bride and the groom, in that form she had clearly mentioned that she did not got married and this is her first marriage.Now she is still having contact with her xhusband .And due to money she married me and now she is not giving me divorce r sex and now she is with her parents and her x husband and now iam alone for the past 6 months.am sure that she wont give divorce she is expecting money from me. She had cheated me and married and without geting divorce from her x husband she married me. will our marriage is valid , shall i marry another girl without getting divorce from her, r shall keep a seperated girl without marriying , and if i keep sex with that girl is it a crime, i want to get solution for all my questions, pls help me

2007-09-19 17:30:19 · 11 answers · asked by venkata s 1

i do not know abt it and tries to show that our relationship is wrong with each other.although he is cheating on me i do not wish to lose him like this.we are still married and under one roof. i hv two kids too.i do not wish to break my marriage legally and also wish to charm him back from that girlfriend.please tell me how to attract n charm him back.

2007-09-19 17:26:18 · 16 answers · asked by sonu 1

why would a married woman loose everything over a younger man when she.s has a family. loving husband. to boot. when she is in her.40.s and he is in his teen.s around.19. i know a friend who was doing this with this married woman .he only used her to make her look like a fool in every aspect. i am ashamed of him for doing what he did. yes he had sex with her very sicking now she is divorced and has nothing not even her pride. very sad but true on this matter wny ruin everything over a younger man in his teen.s .19. and she was in her.40.s 48. to be exact. . she was married for around 23. years and lost everything ..

2007-09-19 17:24:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok so heres the full story...Im having an affair w/ a married man....im friends w/ there family meaning his wife knows me.....we all e mail back in forth like forwards & stuff like that but since me & her husband have been talking I sent him an email one night telling him to write me b/c my husband never gets on the computer well she read the e mail I had sent him.....do u think she suspects us having the affair together by the sound of what I wrote to him???

2007-09-19 17:16:44 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous

well i hope you guys can tell me if we are or not going to happen what i do know is that he loves me and i love him but i hope he is telling the truth that he is going to mary me when im 18 he has asked me and he is very serious about it but what do you think tell me please ???

2007-09-19 16:49:23 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

All I'm going to say but there is so much more to it (I dont like to air dirty laundry especially to people I dont know) is would anyone elses husband go to Las Vegas with a group of friends(your not invited and intentions seem shady) when the two of you havent even been married a year yet? Shouldnt he be planning trips for the two of you? I will do and have done anything for this man but I'm having a real tough time with this one. Its putting a lot of tension between us whether he knows it or not and to me this stupid trip isnt worth an unhappy marriage.

2007-09-19 16:46:38 · 17 answers · asked by ChrZay 3

Is your spouse and kids an "obligation" or your responsibility? How do you think your spouse and kids would feel if you treat them as 'obligations'?

2007-09-19 16:41:48 · 3 answers · asked by Equinox 6

I am not a man basher, I think men are great, but it's just overwhelming, so many women are being abused and manipulated and controlled by their spouses and boyfriends. I am no exception. Why are so many men like this?

2007-09-19 16:35:11 · 13 answers · asked by RAVEN 4

So, we've been together barely over two years, married about a year and a half. He's NEVER happy.....I keep the house clean, and take care of our two children mostly by my self. I work part time, and am a student from home. He goes to work, makes money and that's about it. He's constantly aggitated with the babies, barely helps me with them but is always telling what I'M doing wrong, and says they're total brats, and I do not agree with his methods of disciplan for our 11 & 23 month old babies.....today for example, when he got home from work, the house was spotless except the sink was full of dirty dishes and he barely spoke to me all night just because of that. When I got offended he went on with his rage about "well maybe I just won't go to work for a couple days, and we'll see what happens"...It just seems no matter what I do, I'm always wrong, nothing's good enough, and I'm constanly being accused of being lazy and not carrying my own weight. He makes the money & I do evrythng els

2007-09-19 16:34:04 · 18 answers · asked by TMama 3

2007-09-19 16:24:36 · 32 answers · asked by sonu 1

If a man gets a woman pregnant from a one night stand, does not want to have a child with her, but after he sees his child he feels for his child...therefore starting to develop feelings for the mother. But still holds resentment because it was a one night stand, he was not in love with her at the time. Are the feelings he feel now due to the manipulation of seeing his child with the mother??

2007-09-19 16:23:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

And, YES, it is wrong to have an affair with someone who is married?

2007-09-19 16:23:17 · 20 answers · asked by ncgirl 3

Is there a "spousal exemption" of sorts?

My husband has a business partner. His partner told him about a month ago that his wife has a serious and potentially life
threatening illness. He asked my husband to not tell anyone. Tonight at dinner, my jeweler and his wife (who are friends with both my husband and his partner) asked my husband how his partner's wife was doing.... I was stunned. I asked him what was wrong with her, and I had to pry it out of him. He almost didn't tell me!

My question: is there an expectation that a person will share that kind of information with their spouse? Do people assume that "pillow talk" will occur? Or are you suppose to not share that kind of information with your spouse? If it were me, it'd be the first thing I told my husband when I got home..... What can you share, if not these type of things?

2007-09-19 16:20:14 · 12 answers · asked by JennieM 2

After I married my wife I kept in contact with 4 of my old girlfriends that I had intimate relations with, My wife told me on several occassions that it bothered her that I still IM'ed and e-mailed them on a regular basis and even tried to get her involved by being their "friends". Although I never talked sexual with them I still remained in contact with them. Should this have bothered my new wife or should she just have accepted it as inocent freindship?

2007-09-19 16:14:06 · 20 answers · asked by free_mark53 4

I was suspicious and confronted her, after seeing many many phone calls, back and forth, during times they had no reason to be talking on the phone... long story short, she denied denied denied... Then I found she was looking for a card for him using the search words "I want you but can't have you" and "wanting what you can't have"... So they decided it couldn't go further, etc..etc.. he transfered to another location, same company, but obviously still have ample opportunity to communicate and even see each other. Oh, and she continued to lie about talking ot him and deleted phone calls, etc.. So, she says they can remain "FRIENDS" since they didn't have sex and it went no further than "emotional" ... I say she no way, if he's more important than our marriage and family, then that's the choice she has to make, but I'm not going to be worrying about this jackass all the time, when she's proven she's willing to lie and deceive me in regards to him. Am I wrong?

2007-09-19 16:13:59 · 13 answers · asked by Timothy M 1

and i wish her to leave my life without my telling her anything about it. she is clueless about my affair.i want to marry my girlfriend as she remained unmarried because she loved me truly . i have been married for 10 years and have two kids.i wish to keep the kids and want my wife to leave me.i do not wish to tell her directly.how can i accomplish the task

2007-09-19 16:12:46 · 5 answers · asked by sonu 1

me. I called the police, they arrived, and he claimed SELF DEFENSE. He didn't have a single mark on him. Me two black eyes, broken nose, cracked ribs (2), and bruises galore. What a screwed up state I live in.

2007-09-19 16:09:25 · 23 answers · asked by s b 2

2007-09-19 15:54:49 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bf and I are both in our late 20s and very independant. Before we met, I had a job in Eastern Europe. I really miss working overseas. We plan to marry in a year or two. I never knew love could be like this - he's amazing. I still travel a lot by myself as well as with him, but the trips are shorter. (His job doesn't give him much travel time; mine does.)

I now have a dream opportunity to work in Africa for three months next year. He would meet me there at the end to travel for 5 weeks together. He trusts me 100% and says if this is what I want, he supports me fully. My parents say I should go and really, what's 3 months of our lives?

However, we've had comments from a few friends. He tells them our relationship is none of their business, which is great. But it made me think - is it wrong of me to want to take this job even when he can't join me? Does a relationship mean I should give up my dreams? These comments are upsetting me! Any opinions are appreciated. Thank you!

2007-09-19 15:52:07 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-19 15:50:40 · 12 answers · asked by rarodge21 1

my husband's parents live next door so we no doubt see them often, yet they still call EVERY day to check on their only boy. if he's become ill, even if its a cold, they'll call. if we go out of town they call to see how the drive is going. if we've been my husband's doctor appointment, not more than 10 steps out the door they are calling to see how it went. they just don't give us a chance to calling them first. we've been married over 3 years now and its really getting to me and on my mind constantly. i want to spend time with my husband and not worry about when his parents are going to call to check on us, especially if we are visiting with MY parents. i've told my husband how i feel, but he's so used to his parent's attention its hard for him to understand how deeply its bothering me. is there some way i can handle this better? am i overreacting?
~ thanks for any advice ~

2007-09-19 15:48:24 · 12 answers · asked by sweetdaisee82 1

What is your honest opinion about men who use women or men who act like they are truly in love, only because they want to see the woman fail and look stupid?

I'm just trying to figure out why my ex took advantage of me, knowing I'm a sophisticated, educated, and loving person. Then left me for a promiscuous women with lots of children, no future,no education, and and a disgusting lifestyle??????

2007-09-19 15:47:15 · 15 answers · asked by Psalms 2

when I was married to my now ex wife. I bought a 4 wheeler for her daughter to use.it was kinda a present for her.she was 10 at the time.my wife filoed for divorce when I was hospitalized and I came home to an empty house. I was diagnosed woith bi polar but am now on meds, anyway, my ex took the 4 wheeler with her when she moved out.she is having problems making the payments on it and I offered to take over the payments on it since it is still financed in my name and the title will be in my name.she wants me to give her cash over and beyond the value of it because she is in a financial bind.. who should get the 4 wheeler.it is still like new and hardly ridden and it is in my name ,she has been making the payments for the past year.is it morally wrong to want it back?the kids havent spoken to me since the move out and they dont want anything to do with me.she has turned them agains me in all aspects and Ive never done anything to the kids nor have I ever been abusive to their mother.

2007-09-19 15:46:48 · 9 answers · asked by road runner 4

pop a pimple that is right on the crack of his butt...Needless to say I REALLY don't want to do it. He says its my duty as his wife to help him with things like this but I think its asking a little too much so we are asking on yahoo answers to see if I should have to do it for him or if he should have to do it himself.

2007-09-19 15:37:47 · 43 answers · asked by CalamityJane 3

He met this woman while away on business. Never told me about her. returned home and continued to call her from his business cell phone, thinking I'd never see the bill, cuz his company gets it. But its sprint, so I logged in and created an acct for his line, and saw the calls. when i asked him if he ever called her, he denied it, i assume he never thought in a million years he knew i had seen the bill, so i bethca he thought he was safe lying to me. little did he know. so do you guys think he was sleeping with her while away on business? BTW we live in IL and she lives in TX, so no, it aint an ongoing thing, but i'd bet my next paycheck he kept himself warm while away on business.

2007-09-19 15:34:44 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ever since last night when I cooked her favorite meal, then I took her shopping to buy any clothes she want(My credit card is still smoking mind you lol), gave her a massage with scented oils by candle lights then presented her with new ring for being pregnant and to celebrate being pregnant.

And some other "nightly activities" that where focused on her.

Now today she just stares at me. I asked her what is wrong but she says nothing.

But she stares quietly at me, watching everything I do.

Is she okay? Is it her hormones from being pregnant? Or is it something else?

I know she likes to keep the scare "even". Ever since kindergarden during Valentines day she had to give me more love cards that I gave her or equal to it......

2007-09-19 15:27:28 · 60 answers · asked by Blackman married to Redhead 1

I just asked a question about my boyfriends anger issue and how it scares my but i let out a few major details.The only reason ive been with him for as long as i have is because we have a child together and i really want to make thing work with him for my sons sake.I dont want him to grow up without a close father.So besides dumping him,any advise?

2007-09-19 15:27:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-19 15:23:16 · 24 answers · asked by Sarrafzedehkhoee 7

While traveling for business, my husband had dinner with a woman who was also attending the same business event. It was just the two of them out to dinner. Should I be concerned about this? My husband didn't tell me outright that he had dinner with this woman, but when I asked who he went to dinner with, he did tell me. Again, should I be worried? I felt really odd about it after he told me. I don't want to be the "jealous wife", but feel strange about it. What do you think?

2007-09-19 15:19:32 · 27 answers · asked by Ann04 1