Marriage & Divorce - 19 September 2007

O.K. Here's the story. My husband's long, long time ago ex- girlfriend wrote a letter to him. I opened the letter as my husband was at work when we recieved the letter. It didn't say anything out of the way and She really has no reason to communicate with him. He was very angry that she got our address from his supposed friend. He was even more angry with her because she showed signs of complete instability over the past. She tattooed his nickname on her arm 1 year after they seperated among other crazy things. When I told him he had recieved the letter, the first thing out of his mouth was I DON'T EVEN WANT TO KNOW!! He is completely loyal to me and cheating is not a problem here. I was just wondering how you all would feel if this were to happen to you.

2007-09-19 10:51:24 · 20 answers · asked by roloswife 3

She's had a couple real intense dreams of a sexual nature about me! I have been married 6 years, very loyal to my husband. I have had a same-sex experience before but it was just experimentation. I've been told by many people that I'm just naturally very sexual and give off a sensual vibe that attracts people. My best friend is NOT a lesbian - she is recently divorced. Could it be that she just feels comforted by me and its coming through as sexual in her dreams?!?!? I dont want it get weird between us, but I'm a little uncomfortable with where it might lead because we are very close - though nothing sexual has EVER happened between us, she's very vulnerable, I am not really "attracted" to her but I just want to care for her - we are affectionate with each other. I don't know what to do. Am I taking this too seriously?.....serious answers/opinions only PLEASE!!

2007-09-19 09:52:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean some say, if your spouse talks dirty with another that, thats cheating.....
If I look at porn, thats cheating
If I think about another girl thats cheating...

Well if that's cheating, I might as well have sex with the girl......

To me cheating is penetration.... everything else is fooling around... not the same. What do you think?

2007-09-19 09:51:16 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

A single man whom I find very attractive, intelligent, and the like, wants to pursue a relationship with me. Right now it's online dating (we live several hundred miles from one another) but a meeting is forthcoming and visiting each other shouldn't be a problem in the future. I'm divorced, successful (but not rich by any means), and intelligent. Am I setting myself up for disappoint, or given these circumstances, does it ever work out ~ if the distance between them wasn't an issue. I'm smart enough to know that online relationships can be full of bull, but let's just go with the assumption that this may be legimate. Thanks.....

2007-09-19 09:50:42 · 18 answers · asked by Kathy G 1

2007-09-19 09:50:28 · 10 answers · asked by chickenbeansoup 1

My husband&I are married but separated Im 22 hes 28. Hes trying really hard to get use back together, I know no one is perfect,he messed up alot. He has come to his senses&wants us to be a family along with our 1month baby.My husband is an alcoholic he is really trying to change, I think everyone deserves a second chance. I feel confused and scared I dont want to get hurt...my husband was not providing our daughter w/anything he would waste all the$in our bank account on beer&drugs,now starting to give me for the baby and for myself hes no longer wasting it on trash...the problem is he wants to come over to my parents(which is where im staying)to spend the night with the baby and I. My mom told me he can come over but doesnt want him to spend the night, if he wants to eat he can take me out to eat and she will watch the baby, it seems like she doesnt want him to see the baby at all, and its not right what do i do? Its not my house but I feel like shes not helping things to get better

2007-09-19 09:43:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you were to meet me i would appear to you as a young, pretty, smart, independant,happy woman, loves her family & life. BUT in reality on the inside i'm dieing! i'm ashamed, terrified, confused, angry, sad, bitter and quite frankly an emotional wreck. together 7 yrs w/my husband & have endured so much pain. i was married previously and have 3 kids(live with me) and he has 3 kids (they live w/their moms) i'm a loving & forgiving person but i can't do it anymore!!! just tip of the iceberg... he has physically abused me (broke my hand, bruised kidneys, numerous bruises & beatings(never when kids are home) , emotionally abused, mentally tormented, he has been mean to my friends & family (they won't come around) cold to my kids (not talking to them), lies continuosly, lied about having another child he wants nothing to do with, only thinks of himself & having a good time, came onto my sister-n-law, killed my sons pet snake, had to have abortion becasue of who i'm married to,owes $30k c/s

2007-09-19 09:40:24 · 21 answers · asked by exhausted 1

Hey everyone! Before I get started, I just want to say that we all make mistakes in life and this mistake is the biggest one that I have made. My wife and son did not move with me to Italy because my wife decided she did not want to be with me anymore. We are still married but been separated for 8 months. We are going through a divorce right now. I met a beautiful german woman 3 months ago..she is crazy about me and I am crazy about her. I don't ever want to lose her. There is something wrong...I have not told her that I was married and have a son. There reason why I have not told her is because I waited so long to tell her and I didn't think that we would become so serious. I want to tell her but I know she will be upset and will not trust me again. A couple of days ago we told each other that we loved each other. I need all the assistance I can get.

2007-09-19 09:39:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Person is infatuated over someone they really don't know but wants to know very badly. Dreams about them. Gets nervous in their presence but doesn't even know if the person knows their name.

2007-09-19 09:33:40 · 16 answers · asked by bostonsdig 1

I'm a married guy with one teenage son. My wife is one of the most annoying, and meanest people I know. But there's a lady at work who I talk to. I'll admit that I'm attracted to her but I'm not the cheating kind. She a sweet person and talks to me often. She's single. I've known her for about 6 months but since then she tells me about personal things in her life. I would never disclose any of this information because she's a friend. But she tells me everything. And says she loves talking to me. I find myself thinking about her whenever I'm not with her. I wonder why she chooses me to tell lots of things to when she doesn't confide in another lady of one of her friends. I wonder why of all peole she chooses me to tell the intimate details of her life?

2007-09-19 09:24:10 · 19 answers · asked by Nash M 1

First off, I wanted to post this question here assuming a more mature, head wise, audience.
I am 26 going 27 and I have talked to this girl of same age regarding work / business. needless to say I was attracted the first time I saw her, but didn't reveal it. But after a while she started smiling whenever I happen to cross on her way.
Then I went to other city for school .....
After two years, I was sitting in the library in the same city I saw her and she passed by infront of me turned around and kind of smiled in a surprised gesture. she kinda stared for a while and walked away.

my question is. is the lady/girl giving me an ok to ask her out or some sort of thing or she is just thinking "where do I know this guy"
I have assumed ,when she smiled and what not, that she was interested but I wasn't convinced enough, and I hate rejection...so what do you women think about this situation ?
should I make a move regardless of the consequences ?

Thanks

2007-09-19 09:15:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My cousin's exboyfriend changed the locks on the house, leaving her and their son with no where to go. They have none of their personal belongings. Is it legal for him to keep them from their personal property, especially since the child is a minor? Does she need to get a court order to get her stuff back?

2007-09-19 09:09:09 · 37 answers · asked by jcgrier24 3

We are going to be married 2 years in January. We only dated a few months before we got married. But we have had sex since May. I am 30 and he is 37. We have a 16 month old daughter and I have a 5 year old son. We have had ANYkind of sex since May. Im scared and worried.

2007-09-19 09:04:47 · 21 answers · asked by vrjenkins76 1

I am going to a co-parenting class tonight with my ex (court ordered) and we just had a fight.
I have to tell him that I can no longer watch our daughter while he works on his vistation days (ie. everyother Friday after school, his Holidays where there is no school, etc). He is not paying child support, yet he acts like he can tell me what to do (like telling me I HAVE to go to the PTA meeting tonight and cancel our co-parenting class).
He knows all the right buttons to push to make me mad and upset. I know he's going to try to make me look bad tonight at the co-parenting meeting and I am sick of it.

Does anyone have any advise or a pep talk to help me through tonight? My hubby is at the range today until late and I can't even talk to him.

2007-09-19 08:40:13 · 11 answers · asked by Spring 5

This seems to be a pattern.

2007-09-19 08:32:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My penis is about 6.5. I always thought I was kindof small, but my gf who has been with 2 other guys says I'm bigger than both of them. Do you think she is just saying that to make me feel better? Do you think I could be bigger than her other guys?

2007-09-19 08:28:27 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before you can fart in front of your partner without an apology, especially while lying on the sofa watching TV watching football when the washing up is still waiting to be done.

2007-09-19 08:28:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is addicted to WOW this witch war craft game, he plays for literally about 6-7 hours a day after he gets home from work when the weekend gets here he's on for about 48hrs. He is neglecting me and our children. He has been doing this for years and I'm at my wits end any suggestions other then the obvious leaving?

2007-09-19 08:27:13 · 17 answers · asked by gina j 2

ok my husbend of 11 months got a text from his ex girlfriend from like 6 years ago, and we have had this issue with her before and he said he would stop talking to her. well he didnt tell me she texted him and i found out, then he tells me that she called HIS job to talk to him because she didnt get a text back

now this broad is dieing of cancer and i think he feels sorry for her but i wish she would just hurry up and die!

Should i be worried that something is going on between them of is she just a sudistic Bia who wont go away?

2007-09-19 08:26:40 · 16 answers · asked by Angie H 2

My question is this. How many couples thought your marriage was going to work out because there should have been no reason that it should not have. Both parties took every precaution that you could have imagined. You planned ahead the kids, the money, the vacations, the in-laws visiting, etc....Yet, you broke up within about 10 years or less. Read my story and see if you can relate to it. Give me lots of DETAILS so I can see if what happened to you happened to me.

I took every precaution to make my marriage work. I planned on getting married when I was in my 30's so that I would be at a mature age. I am a very clean cut man so I chose a very clean cut lady. Both of us work as professors at the same university. We dated for a year. We were engaged for one and a half years. We are getting a divorce after being married 5 years. Suddenly we were not compatible even though in the begining we were. What went wrong?

2007-09-19 08:24:16 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out last week that my sister in law discovered that I viewed some pictures of her that were very revealing. I'm really not sure why she brought it up she says she isnt going to tell my wife (her sister). Just wondering if you can help me figure out why she is handling this like she is.By the way she is very hot

2007-09-19 08:24:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

It seems that a lot of people are against the idea of marriage, and seem to be highly critical of those that choose to do so? Recently, as I have become engaged, I hear it a lot, as if it's "uncool" to get married now a days. Do you think that marriage has the potential for becoming outdated in the next decade or so?

Where do you think our society is headed?

2007-09-19 08:18:57 · 7 answers · asked by Lane 3

so now i want answers and i want to meet this girl to get her to answer them seeing as how my partner will not.. help need advice

2007-09-19 08:09:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

im 23 years old a mother of 2, an recently married(2months).. My husband doesn't want to work an when he does he thinks its ok to work for nothing.. He makes enough for him to do what he wants to with an to heck with the bills.. what can i do to make him see there is more to think about then himself.. I love him an i know he loves of kid(we only have one together) but i can't do this alone its goin to take both of us.. His Mother an Stepdad help out alot an my parents cause they know i can't do it alone but its not there place to pay his way through life... Should i stay with him or should i say to heck with it an move on.. Seems like im the only one that cares in the relationship about what happens with our life an out kids life..

2007-09-19 08:07:34 · 12 answers · asked by pruittsgurl_01 2

If you found out your husband was handcuffed and dragged to a strip club for the bachelor party, about how long would it take you to forgive him if you do at all, and what would be your trust implications.

Note, He's never drank, smoked or been with anyone else but you and you are now pregnant with his child. And you found out about it from his mouth after a heated argument.

2007-09-19 08:06:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my fiance been together almost 2 years, he has two childeren and i have one. his house is paid off and he has some money in stock, he also has a new business that is growing. I have a house which i have some mortgage on it. he says the only way that he would marry me is to sign a print obtional agreement which includes even his business in future. I understand his house and his stcock money but i don't think is fare to me if his business grows in future and I wont be part of it! should i marry him? I think he is not fare to me and he thinks i am after his money. what should i do?

2007-09-19 08:04:38 · 9 answers · asked by amy n 1

I was asked today in court if you rent a prostitue or do you buy a prostitute. If you buy it it is yours RIGHT? If you rent it you give it back? I dont know just a dumb question and I didnt know.

2007-09-19 07:57:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

and has it worked out? how long for, and what was the best thing about getting back together

2007-09-19 07:30:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my bro in law moved in, my husband became an instant jerk. He went from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde. I knew in the back of my mind he would be different with his brother around, but hoped he wouldn't change. My husband used to thank me for dinner, and tell me how much he appreciated it. He spent time with me. Now, I go to my favorite places alone. The way he talks to me is awful. When the 3 of us go some where, I feel like a 3rd wheel. I peacefully brought it up one day and was told it was my fault he was acting this way simply because I refused to be his bro's wife and mother. He has a wife back home. My husband started being a jerk the instant his brother showed up. Before I ever asked anyone to help with dishes or grabbing the garbage if it's full instead of piling stuff around the trash can or watching stuff fall on the floor and yell, "Uh Oh!" and walking off and leaving it. My husband tells me to go "f" myself. Is this just a macho thing or what?

2007-09-19 07:17:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

friends for years and he's secretly liked me but he never went for it b/c he thought the chances of being w. me were slim only to find out that after all this time, I felt the same way back - I was the first girl he fell in love with BUT "life challenges" (death) and rumors/assumptions from friends made you us drift apart and it created tension BUT rather than giving up or seeking revenge, we worked it out and everything is starting to be better than before, the relationship grew (this happened in a 9 month span)

I'm glad everything is starting to be better than normal - i wrote him a heartfelt letter telling him the truth and reminding him i was there for him and i really cared. After this, he would put up more pictures of me and him on his page, wouldn't be "outgoing" but "safe" w. me. He would txt me to ask my day and i said something that might have been suggestive of flirting (joking but didn't mean/realize it) and he didn't respond.
Hung out with him one day and in public he seemed normal - poke me if i said something silly, make fun of me but when we went to his house, he got quiet and more shy.
He kept the door open in his room and when i hugged him bye he said, "i was supposed to wait 'til you got to your car"...and everytime i see him he says, "just hit me up"

is he starting over from scratch and taking it really slow? or starting from where we left off before drama happened?

2007-09-19 06:53:23 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous