Marriage & Divorce - 19 September 2007

I have been married 25 years. I love my husband very much. In the beginning he was physically abusive. I left for a little bit, we worked it out, and the physical abuse stopped. But was replaced by emotional abuse, not name calling, but he knew how to manipulate and control me. As I got older I realized I didn't want to go on like this. I sought professional help, he wouldn't, but i started to feel empowered. Started being my own person. Didn't go over very well, he resorted to saying some not so nice things to gain control over me. When I wouldn't allow him to control me he realized he needed to change. And he really has made changes to the point that he is almost a new man. Things seem to be going very well, but I can't help think in the back of my mind that the old man will come back. It is a real fear of mind, never sure what is going to cause him to go. I am fully prepared to leave if it becomes an issue again. But not sure if I should cut my losses now, or keep tryin

2007-09-19 06:38:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

So this guy is a 43 year old geek who is Catholic and is a virgin. He goes out with this 36 year old girl who is also a virgin. They are both good looking people. In 8 months, they have not kissed because they both have insecurities and they are slow in this. They get along really well and understand each other. Neither one is seeing someone else. Without any sarcasm or meanness, tell me if there's hope for them to get closer. Will the sparks fly?

2007-09-19 06:38:09 · 45 answers · asked by supergirl 5

is this True ?

2007-09-19 06:32:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is he truly innocent?

2007-09-19 06:02:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can someone please give me some advice.

3 yrs ago, my husband got it in his head he was sick of renting and we should own a home. We were wed one year and a baby already here and one on the way. We went into the cheapest thing we could afford, where it was in Hells Angels community and it was a nightmare. We sold 3 yrs later and lost money b/c I was desperate to get out.

Now, comes the second house, we are 10K our allowed amount, had to take out a third mortgage to pay for it. We can not afford to do the repairs required in this house. It's a year and a half we've been here. Part of the cost was, we got rid of our car and are now carless for the past year.

The problem is, we will never get a car, our credit is shabby and I think we should sell this house and rent and buy a cheap car. My husband will not budge and we're heading into winter with no repairs done and two kids that are as sick of walking everywhere as I am.

2007-09-19 06:02:21 · 2 answers · asked by Yummy♥Mummy 6

I've tried to contact my lawyer on several occasions thru e-mail and by telephone to get an update concerning my personal injury case. His secretaries keeps putting me thru to his answering machine, and i keep leaving messages asking him
to please call or e-mail me on this matter.

I have yet to hear from him, it's been over 2 months now and
all I ask is that he e-mails me if he can't call.

What could possibly be the problem,
maybe he's already settled the case ?
maybe he's not getting his messages, or just not my messages ?
maybe he's sick or i'll ?

"Wait "! Maybe he just does'nt give a fu$%k ?

It's been a year since my traffic accident.

What can should i do at this point?

Sincerely,mitchell@kianas.net

2007-09-19 05:50:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just got married to this women and she ask if i ever had a threesome before and i said yes know she says that there is no romance and pasion between us anymore but are work schedules are not the same and we hardly see eachother only for sex and maybe somedinner.

2007-09-19 05:48:45 · 17 answers · asked by bigg mike 1

Help!I never told my fiancee that i had a son from a prior relationship.I did not tell him because i was embarrassed since i got pregnant when i was 20 yrs old by an ex.bf during a fling and gave birth right before i turned 21 yrs old.It was awful my ex.bf had been my first real bf ect.. so i trusted him but he never mentioned his new gf.I was humiliated by all the drama it caused.Five months after i gave birth i met my current bf now fiancee when i returned to college we became friends and study buddies.Another 5 months later we started dating casually.Originally when we first started dating i just omitted this fact because it was the beginning of the relationship and i did not want to scare him away.Now its 3.5 year later and i still have not told him and it was implied accidently that my son is my brother a fact i did not contradict!I been feeling really guilty and was getting ready to come clean but during the conversation he told me he hates kids and even had a vasectomy?

2007-09-19 05:32:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

6 year reationship ends, why do you pay afor another mans kids, when he doen't even pay.

2007-09-19 05:21:36 · 11 answers · asked by dcticky 1

Women, why is it such a problem for most of you if your guy looks at porn?
As long as it's not to an adictive point. My husband and I look at it together. We fight for the latest issue of Playboy Magazine. The articles are great!

2007-09-19 05:18:30 · 21 answers · asked by delina_m 6

I just posted a question some time ago about my divorce and how it happened. For those how unswered thanks it was helpful and I really appreciated. I am a busy guy in my 40s and still going to school and have no time to look for a new woman and or ramnance. I tried some sites but I don't feel confortable posting photos and to much info plus it did not work in the two I tried. singlesnet.net and yahooo personals, I am evaluating singleparents.com but I am not sure if that would be just to waste money again.
Does any one have any suggestions where to begin?

2007-09-19 05:12:02 · 10 answers · asked by Mickey 2

Every weekend it is something different. He will sometimes pick him up on Friday after school and sometimes he doesn't want to pick him up until Saturday morning. The problem is I have EMT class 1 Saturday a month and he refuses to cooperate as far as picking up my son at a consistent time on a consistent basis. He is doing it to cause me problems. I have asked him repeatedly to just pick him up on Friday and that is even in our custody agreement. I just went to court and spent all day yesterday hashing it out because he hasn't paid child support and is almost $10,000 in arrears. I am at my wits end with what to do! It always seems like he has the upper hand. Help! I need advice...

2007-09-19 04:56:05 · 17 answers · asked by bonstermonster20 6

A friend of mine is off to Florida for 6 months or so. She first asked if I wanted to move in and I would just have to pay for gas and hydro. How much would that be a month? Regardless of whether or not I move in. I am going to have to check up on her house 2-3 times a week. I will get her mail and do routine checks...and drive her car. I don't mind doing this at all...we are very close but do you think I should be getting paid for what I am doing? Is she given me a good deal if I move in. If I don't take the offer to move she is going to have to pay the bills regardless each month. I hope this make sense. I have already looked after her house before for 3 months in the past.

2007-09-19 04:54:08 · 13 answers · asked by Girly 1

If I am not working (not lazy going to school full time) does my husband have to pay child support to my ex for my son? Right now my ex pay child support to me,but he will be having my son for the school year because we are moving out of state because of the army. I am not looking for a way to get out of paying child support I just want to know how it works.

2007-09-19 04:51:54 · 7 answers · asked by earth_n_sunshine 2

I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years, and I love her very much. We've talk a few times about getting married, and I've made it clear that I'm not willing to get married if she's not willing to change her name. She's not a celebrity or business professional, there's no reason for her to keep her name. She said she's not willing to change her name, she says it will change who she is. I've told her that's not true, I've told her that my feelings are not about ownership, they're about family unity and tradition. She won't hear any of it.

We've been living together for a while, and I really don't see what the point of getting married is without her changing her name. Tax breaks, whatever. Commitment? I don't see the commitment without uniting as a family.

Can I get some advice? Tell me how I'm wrong, or how could I convice her she is.

2007-09-19 04:50:51 · 19 answers · asked by You're all dumb. 2

It's our 3rd anniversary, and I'm doing the planning this year. I'd like to do something fun and romantic, but also enjoyable for my husband. Any ideas?
I'm thinking about going to a dinner theatre, but we did that last year.

2007-09-19 04:37:58 · 4 answers · asked by Hopper52 2

Last night he totaled my car while drunk. The police came to my house at 1:00 in the morning to tell me. I had woken up about a half hour earlier and wondered why he was so late (usually home at 10:00). Now I'm responsible for the damage he did to this person's yard and fence, plus the cost of the towing and impound of the now totaled vehicle. Luckily I owned it and don't have payments on it plus I have another car that I drive.

We've had problems with it before because when he starts drinking he doesn't know when to stop, but never anything this bad unless you count the time I had to stay up all night and keep turning him over because I thought he was going to puke and die in his sleep. I've had it. When the police said he'd probably call me to come get him after they processed him I said don't bother because I won't pick him up. So now I don't know if he's still in jail or what. Am I wrong to dump him and get my freedom back?

2007-09-19 04:22:44 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

i know someone who needs to change the name of the deed from her late husband name to her name.how can she do this?

2007-09-19 04:15:33 · 7 answers · asked by eagle eyes 2

My coworker has a really weird relationship. He was married less than a year. His wife cheated on him for several months with this guy. The guy sent photos and phone records to my coworker proving the affair. They got divorced before their one year anniversary. She got nothing because it was less than a year and did not work for most of the marriage. She has never moved out of the house. They are almost dating again now but she is still lives in the house. She actually never moved out and she is still seeing the other guy also. What kind of craziness is this? Why has he not kicked her but out?

2007-09-19 04:11:51 · 6 answers · asked by Big Daddy R 7

I know a friend for over 2 yrs.We both married. sometime we have lunch together. Recently, he keeps tell me, when he had sex with his wife, he always thinking about me.. is it weird??? but I still like him to be my friend....so what does he want???? how do i deal with him??? I dont want to hurt him..

2007-09-19 03:47:12 · 16 answers · asked by back2future 5

I konw you wish it wasen't..... but boyfriend's cheating on girlfreinds; wife's cheating on husbands, and vice-vera....

Do you really think all the people you konw have "never" cheated? impossible right? So, "Is cheating part of life?"

2007-09-19 03:29:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Got a single friend shes been single a long time, met a not so good looking guy but is nice and he works out so he is in shape. They hit it off, but he cancelled their next date something was fishy. He finally fessed up he has a girlfriend for three yrs in another state that he just moved from. After that they made out for a while and she let him know she would like to be in some sort of relationship with him even if its friendship. As her friend I don't know what kind of advise to give her. My gut tells her to stay away but I am thinking if this guy was in a three yr relationship and moved to another state with his job then why isn't she here with him, why hasn't he committed to this woman in some way. I feel like that relationship isn't very serious but serious enough for him to tell her about it. What route should she take let it go or wait and see his next move and what if he wants to take her out again?

2007-09-19 03:27:55 · 10 answers · asked by Maria 5

$$$$$ or Real LOVE..... & why....(In terms of relationships)
I choose love because at the end of the day when I'm sick or on my dying bed, $$$$$ will not comfort me & make me feel better.... Thanks for your honest opinions...

2007-09-19 03:11:59 · 41 answers · asked by Lue 2

hello, next week i am scheduled to take a vacation. the only down fall is, my hubby is not working. we were supposed to go to atlanta ga this weekend, but now we cant because he has not worked in a month. i really would like to take my vacation & go to the beach, and party. but everything i buy, i have to buy one for him 2. i dont want to go broke because he has no $ to buy anything. at the same time i would feel guilty if i buy a drink or go to a club and he has no $. but its like damn, if its 40 to go in the club it will be 80 cuz he has no flow! do y'all think i should cancel my vacation till he is working?

2007-09-19 03:09:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here's the latest. Hubby said that he will get rid of the dog if I want. He doesn't want to lose me. However, I love him just as much and circumstancially, he offered to put a long run up so the dog will be able to better exercise in the yard, take the dog for a walk when I am preparing dinner to give her more exercise and enroll her in obedience classes for as long as it takes. This is a smart albeit headstrong breed so I am anticipating once we learn what to do, we may have a better behaved animal. BTW, after the exercise she got yesterday, she slept until after 6:00 AM this morning!!! Blissful sleep for us as well!

2007-09-19 03:08:37 · 10 answers · asked by Josie L 1

2007-09-19 03:02:01 · 14 answers · asked by Amy L 2

Woman do you feel that being a wife is easy or hard? Do you also find that being a wife at times you get dumped on with lifes responsibilites Do you think marriage is hard at times and that husbands can be a pain in the rump to deal with? In all honesty are there times you dont like being married? In light of what I just said what is the best way to make the most and best out of marriage?

2007-09-19 03:00:09 · 24 answers · asked by encourager4God 5

In march of 2007, I left maryland, my husband and my two sons. My ex and I have had a very rough road and rather then uproot my kids. I allowed them to live with their father until I got a place of my own and settled in New Hampshire. It's taken 6mths to get settled. I finally have a place of my own, a good job and I have starting seeing a man I am so happy to be with. In early Aug. I brought the kids to visit for one week. I didn't have a place of my own at that point, so we spent most of the week with the guy I've been seeing and his two sons, who are just about the same age as my two boys. We had a great time together. But whenever Phil(boyfriend) was around me, Cody(my son age 6) would flip out.. I tried to explain to Cody that Phil and I were good friends and that Cody was the most important part of my life. Cody says if Phil's apart of my life I don't love him. Cody's dad has a new live in girlfriend and Cody's great with her. Why is my son treating me like a jealous boyfriend?

2007-09-19 02:46:38 · 18 answers · asked by Angie in New Hampshire 1

my name is emeka odenigbo,from eastern part of Nigeria. I finished my o level education year 2001 and with the good certificate I was able to get,I've been working with one investment company as a sales manager.Right from my chikdhood as early as 7,I started confessing and believing that I am going to marry an american.

2007-09-19 02:39:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wrote a couple of days ago about my ex getting everything when we divorced. He did it by scatching himself while we were still living together and while I thought we were working things out and then one day he had a knife that I tried to take from him because I wanted his attention, I never touched the knife he accidentally cut himself and then he went the following day and I received a restaring order and was forced out of the house. We went to court and I was ordered to stay away from my kids for a couple of weeks. I am going to school for nursing so I cannot afford to have a criminal record so he and his attorney used that against me by saying if I signed an agreement to stay away from the house and give him temporary custody he would let the charges go. I felt as if I was dying inside. I had to move in with my parents, I couldn't afford a place of my own. Should I be mad, I want him to pay for what he has done to me. He has a house of his own and the kids. What do I do?

2007-09-19 02:20:30 · 11 answers · asked by Flora B 2