I konw you wish it wasen't..... but boyfriend's cheating on girlfreinds; wife's cheating on husbands, and vice-vera....
Do you really think all the people you konw have "never" cheated? impossible right? So, "Is cheating part of life?"
2007-09-19 03:29:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I believe it is. I can already see the thumbs down racking up, but oh well. I don't believe humans are made to be monogamous creatures. This is evidenced by the sheer numbers of people having affairs. It goes back to our cavemen ancestors, a time when men were out spreading their seed as far as possible to perpetuate the population. We have not evolved biologically from this, only socially.
We now live with the social impetus that the only acceptable way to live is one man for one woman. Of course a major factor in this way of thinking is religion. But it is in no way natural. Even God realized this himself when he handed down the Mosaic laws that called for polygamy. It amazes me how many religious people out there don't even know what their Bible says about it.
Now there are reasons why it's not a good idea to go out humping every person you are attracted to. That's why I support open marriages. Let's all be honest about the fact that we cannot meet our spouse's needs 100% of the time, then set up a healthy arrangement that allows us to act on our biological drive to be with other people in a way that is safe and respectful.
People sit here all day long and harp about morals and vows but the truth is, they have either been cheated on or will be in the future. To think that you are somehow immune from that is incredibly naive and you are living in a fairy tale.
2007-09-19 03:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by meagain 4 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Yes it absolutely is. Think about it. You start cheating as a small child when you feed the dog the food your mother insists you eat or when you look over at the test on the next desk. Everyone wants to cheat the system in some way. Relationships are a form of system. Which unfortunately means cheating is here to stay.
2007-09-19 10:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by justagirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think that cheating is a part of life. I have carried on relationships with out it and I know several people that have as well. I know several couples that have been married for years 20+ that have never even thought about cheating on their spouse. But on the same hand I know several people that have cheated. I think that cheating is just a cowards way of not knowing what he or she wants. That they are too scared of what might happen if they break up or get a divorce and what not. I also think that today it is almost too easy for men and women to cheat on their signficant others. But no it isn't a part of life, it is part of poor decision making.
2007-09-19 10:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by Scared_Mommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's like saying murder is just a part of life, la la la! No, it's not a "part of life". It's something people do to other people and it hurts others. Cheating isn't a part of life. It's a part of what selfish people do. It isn't normal and it isn't okay. It will not be tolerated in any relationship that I have and it won't be "normal". I'd rather sit at home alone for the rest of my life than to be with a cheater.
2007-09-19 11:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kyle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone creates their own life. You have a choice in life as well as I. I choose not to cheat because of my morals. Most people do live now in a life with no morals at all. For that reason AIDS has spread out more than ever. There are more STDs. I don't want to live with either one of them. I'm clean and my hubby is clean and if he ever cheats, he knows he will be out of my life in a second. His loss not mine. I enjoy a clean life =)
2007-09-19 10:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by why ask 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a part of your life if you allow it to be. Of course you are going to be attracted to someone else besides your partner, that is inevitable....that is why my husband and i have made a promise that if we do want to have sex with someone else than we simply tell the other person about it beforehand and that way it is not cheating, because you have let your partner know of your intentions and have talked it through with them
2007-09-19 10:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not that I'm trying to convert anybody...but that's why me and the wife are swingers.
As good as we are for one another, we didn't want to give up the option of a little variety, now and then. A bunch of years later and we are more in love now than ever and it's NEVER been an issue.
I sometimes feel sorry for SOME of these "sanctity of marriage" monogamists...they don't know dick about being honest with themselves or their spouses.
2007-09-19 10:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Comfy! 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I used to think -and hope- that somewhere, in some remote part of the world, there was a man who loved a woman so much, that he had no eyes for anyone else; that his heart was filled with so much joy for being loved by this woman, that he needed nothing and no one else...of course, this is all BS. Now, I know better...
2007-09-19 10:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds crazy but i do believe cheating is a part of life. And no it doesn't have to be physical. You can be considered cheating for saying things to a person that you should only say to your spouse.
2007-09-19 10:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by D N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some it may be. But that doesnt say that cheating is a part of life for e/one. Nor does it matter to me what others choose to accept in their life.
2007-09-19 10:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋