Women, why is it such a problem for most of you if your guy looks at porn?
As long as it's not to an adictive point. My husband and I look at it together. We fight for the latest issue of Playboy Magazine. The articles are great!
2007-09-19 05:18:30 · 21 answers · asked by delina_m 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-09-19 06:13:37 · update #1
I agree with you that men and porn go together like pork and beans, and not a thing wrong with it. I like it, too. I see two major reasons women are not okay with it:
1) The insecurity factor. They have major complexes about their own bodies and know they can't compete with the bodies on the screen.
2) They have a sense of ownership about their husband's c*m. They feel there is something inherantly wrong with their men getting off to the sight of another woman. In other words, jealousy.
A lot of people talk about what the Bible says, and morals, and so on. But deep down, it all boils down to one of those two things.
2007-09-19 06:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My wife is all sensitive and jealous about this issue. I've never been quite able to understand her point of view but I think it has to do with the different way that we view sex. To me and to guys in general, sex and sexual attraction can exist without any personal emotional connection whatsoever. Recently she's experienced attraction to another man (A real man, not a picture) and she found it very disturbing because she knew that she loved me yet she had "feelings" for this other guy. I found the "feelings" bit uncomfortable because when I look at another girl there are no personal feelings towards her, just a physical attraction to her body.
A guy can be turned on by a girl that he can't stand personally just because she looks hot. Many women on the other hand don't view it this way and for them sexual attraction is connected with all kinds of intimate personal feelings. So to them if a guy is attracted to a woman sexually he must have feelings for her so they feel like to some degree the guy "loves" her. Not so. It's a simple matter of a certain form or curve or shape stimulates a part of the brain and it feels good to the guy.
So, all guys do this but some of them lie about it and some hide it better than others and since it's a universal thing it shouldn't be looked down on. Unless you want to live in a world without guys. The more open a woman is about this the more honest and open her man can be with her the more she will know what's really going on and the closer they'll be.
Another thing, If a guy looks at a girl topless it's pornography and some people get upset and say the guy is bad in some way. If a girl looks at a guy without his shirt on it's a daily event and nobody thinks a thing about it. And yet you know women are checking the guys out. Fair? I don't think so.
2007-09-19 06:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't think women have low self-esteem. I was personally mad when my husband signed up to a dating site to get free porn and then his rationale was to say that it was my fault because of our miscarriage and he didn't want to "bother" me. Complete...bull. Anywho, men are going to do what they do best. It's not the issue of doing it for me, it's more or less the disrespect behind it. I personally don't want to use the comp to check e-mail in the morning and get an eyeful of women doing things to men.
I've mentioned it to him and he doesn't seem to care..nothing has changed and that's fine with me. I just hit him where it hurts....porn on screen equals Prada shoes for me which he doesn't find out about until he gets the bill. Just play the game with them
2007-09-19 09:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Beth N 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with it. In fact we also look at it together and I know sometimes if it's been a couple of days for us and I have to work extra, I know he looks at it and takes care of himself. I had much prefer him do that than with another woman!!! I think some women are just jealous and think that uf their man looks and lust after another woman then their afraid their man will cheat. But it's just fantasy that's all. Men enjoy it, men love women and love watching women having sex. It's natural but I think it does become a problem if he is addictive to it. I mean watching it online ALL the time, taking time away from family to look at porn or running up the credit card to pay for it. That's bad and that's a problem but the occasional is not bad---at least I don't think so.
2007-09-19 05:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Why do you have to ask the question? Maybe you are not so cool about it as you think?
I will tell you why a lot of women, including me, don't like it. It's fine if it is included in what you and your man do together, but if it is something that he is doing alone then basically he is directing his sexual energy towards other women and not towards HIS woman and their relationship.
2007-09-19 06:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think the MAJORITY of women who hav a problem with it r the insecure ones. If a women feels she's overweight, getting older, not as pretty as other women, those r the ones who need 2 work on their own issues. My wife doesn't giv a crap if I look at porn or not (cause I check it out often, LOL) because she knows she looks fine as hell and all porn is a fascination among men. So women (not all, just the ones that "trip") chill out & get ur self esteem RIGHT.
2007-09-19 06:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by joe v 1 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I will never understand that myself, we also fight over the playboy but i always get to the new magazine subscriptions when they come in before he does. Maybe it is how people were raised i guess, weather they like it or not.
i definitely do not have a problem with my husband looking at it. How can a man not want to look at beautiful women and how can us women blame them for wanting to ?
2007-09-19 05:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 4⤊ 4⤋
That's great that you're so secure. In my past relationships, I have found that I'm ok looking at it with the guy I'm with too. But it's when he's looking at it without me that I start feeling insecure and feeling like that is the kind of body he wished I had. It's totally about insecurity.
2007-09-19 05:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mel 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I'm beautiful, interesting, attractive, sexy, sensual, intelligent, etc. etc. I love my body and I'm very proud of being in great shape. Do NOT have low self-esteem at all, but hate that my husband seems to need to look at porn to get in the mood. I DO have a problem with it and I DO hate it!
2007-09-19 05:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋
i read a magazine the other day with a long article on this. Evidently alot of women have issue with this, and its more common than what I thought, BUT, at the same time, if you use it to YOUR advantage, you'll reap alot of benefits. I, myself would be thankful that he's "keeping it at home" instead of finding someone to act out on.
Who knows? I see both sides.
2007-09-19 05:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋