So this guy is a 43 year old geek who is Catholic and is a virgin. He goes out with this 36 year old girl who is also a virgin. They are both good looking people. In 8 months, they have not kissed because they both have insecurities and they are slow in this. They get along really well and understand each other. Neither one is seeing someone else. Without any sarcasm or meanness, tell me if there's hope for them to get closer. Will the sparks fly?
2007-09-19 06:38:09 · 45 answers · asked by supergirl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. Sometimes people don't meet their soulmate until much later in life. These two sound like a perfect example & as you said, they understand each other which is most important. If you want to have a long & happy marriage then marry someone with whom you like to talk, because when the rest wears off, at least you'll enjoy the conversations, and you have become best friends. Best of luck, congratulations & many good wishes for them both.
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2007-09-19 06:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by The Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The unique and wonderful aspect about this relationship is...who cares if they ever spark? They seem so happy together just the way things are. As long as both of them are comfortable and there are no pressures to go further, things will happen when or if they want it to. And after years of being married, as they get to know each other and feel more and more comfortable, maybe something will spark. Until then, no worries, their happy living and enjoying life...together! How romantic. My Mom is divorced and lives with her best friend (girl), no they are not gay. They share the same bedroom but sleep in seperate beds (twin beds, it's sooo cute). They act like there married and argue and laugh like they've been married for years! Sometimes I just wonder why they never went further, and then I push it away and I'm just happy that my Mom is happier and more content than she ever was with my Dad.
2007-09-19 07:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by sun day 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just like any other friendships people move at there own pace. It sounds like they really care about each other, the rest will fall in place. If the want to move faster they have to find a safe place where they both feel they can be there self's. Sparks will fly when they are both ready
2007-09-19 06:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by Cori 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't she just ask him?! I mean why are people so afraid of communication. Are they that shy that they want to just walk around in this limbo state of being and not talk about sex at all? Insecurities is not the word for what they are going through. Obviously he is comfortable about his state of being, and she wants more but is afraid to tell him this...you're or 'they' are living in a fantasy world if neither one is gonna step up to the plate and deal with their insecurities and speak openly about moving forward in their relationship. Catholic or not, it's a conversation that needs to take place. I don't see lovestory in anything that's been discussed so far. The woman appears to be a hopeless romantic, or is content with just being with someone who gives her the time of day. Speak up life is short. Best of luck
2007-09-19 13:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that they are doing this thing old fashion way and the only way that they would get close is if they get married. They would still have insecurities about kissing on their wedding day if there is to be one. I don't know but it sounds as though they love each other but sexual tension is not a part of their relationship.
2007-09-19 07:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Granting this is a true story, I think there's hope.
If their feelings are mutual - that they are in love and are willing to pursue a serious relationship I think they will realize that there is more to a relationship than just physical attraction. They may already have emotional intimacy and that is more important. If they're happy with their status, however slow the pace then there should be no rush.
2007-09-19 06:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by Wanna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think they will get closer over time. If both of them have made it this far in their lives without being intimate, it will take time to get to a comfort level where they can relax completely with each other. If they trust each other completely, then the comfort will follow...they probably have a wonderful future together in front of them!
2007-09-19 06:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by lee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow is one thing, but my goodness..... :(
Sparks could definitely fly, but somebody is gonna HAVE to make some kind of move for that to happen.
8 months is a long time, but it sounds like they were made for each other.
2007-09-19 06:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sure there is some sort of attraction there. They can wait until they are ready. There really is no rush in a good relationship for the physical attraction. Sounds to me like they are doing just fine.
2007-09-19 06:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will just need to get over their insecurites and begin intimacy. It can be scary at first, especially when one has been a virgin for 43 years, but it can happen.
2007-09-19 06:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋