Got a single friend shes been single a long time, met a not so good looking guy but is nice and he works out so he is in shape. They hit it off, but he cancelled their next date something was fishy. He finally fessed up he has a girlfriend for three yrs in another state that he just moved from. After that they made out for a while and she let him know she would like to be in some sort of relationship with him even if its friendship. As her friend I don't know what kind of advise to give her. My gut tells her to stay away but I am thinking if this guy was in a three yr relationship and moved to another state with his job then why isn't she here with him, why hasn't he committed to this woman in some way. I feel like that relationship isn't very serious but serious enough for him to tell her about it. What route should she take let it go or wait and see his next move and what if he wants to take her out again?
2007-09-19 03:27:55 · 10 answers · asked by Maria 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your friend needs to sit back and analyze this situation. How would she feel if she was the "gf" of 3 years? I'm sure she wouldn't want her bf running around with some new girl while she's away in another town. Tell her to find out why the two of them aren't together. Why didn't she come with him if they've been together that long? Because she was lied to by this guy, she has a right to question him about his relationship and why he lied and where they stand. Tell her to please not be the "other girl." She will only end up hurt and alone. If he is cheating on his current girlfriend, he will continue to cheat on his girlfriends. Let her know your concerns and just be a good friend. Best of luck!
2007-09-19 03:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men, men, men...Most want the best of both worlds. He sounds like a player to me. Your "friend" is setting herself up for disappointment; but let her go through her own experiences. She sounds old enough to make her own decisions. I would never do something that I wouldn't want another person to do to me. I'm sure he's still with his girlfriend from back home, just in case...players always try to keep doors open for when they feel like going through them, and stupid women let them.
2007-09-19 03:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she should just move on. The best way for her to do that is to get out more try not be fixed on him so much and try to have fun. Before she knows it she will be meeting new people to occupied her time.
2007-09-19 04:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would she feel if her boyfriend of three years was seeing another girl?
Do not do to others as you would not want to be done to yourself.
I believe that another women's man, no matter what they are going through should be left alone. She is giving herself bad Karma
2007-09-19 03:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Spokie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why bother with a guy who is, more than likely, going to play with her feelings just like is playing with his current gf's feelings? Women get attached to someone even if they know it's not going anywhere, just sex. She should really think about it.
2007-09-19 03:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by why ask 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is desperate for a man...ANY MAN!....He is up to no good either way and I wouldn't give him a second look. Your friend would be wise to dump this guy.
2007-09-19 03:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a shady guy. Your friend is going to have to learn the hard way how shady guys can be...
2007-09-19 03:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't want him. But; I'm a guy.
Why don't you stay out of it. She's an adult. Let her handle her own life. Good way to lose a friend.
2007-09-19 03:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by convoiceofreason 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's a big girl and should be able to make her own choices.
If she would like your advise, she'll ask. Until then it really isnt your concern.
2007-09-19 04:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
find a single guy
2007-09-19 03:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋