Marriage & Divorce - 19 September 2007

My husband says he doesn't feel like having sex....ever. Blames it on a low testosterone level although the doctors say its fine. No I don't think he's cheating, but I wonder is this really normal in a 34 year old man? He has a very stressful job, but I don't think that's it either. He's nice to me otherwise but I am going crazy with the I just don't have the desire excuse. What can I do? I feel so hurt that I'm not wanting to put forth any effort to "make" him want "it" anymore. He should be chasing ME around the house!!!

2007-09-19 15:18:05 · 20 answers · asked by momo72653 1

2007-09-19 15:15:29 · 21 answers · asked by thirsty mind 6

My bf's 2 year divorce process is over in a month and i know he is stressed about things the ex is trying to pull at the last min. (but thats not what this is about) I thought it would be nice to get away and take a trip to the beach. he is always hesitant to go away bc it's a hassle to find places for our dogs, so i found a hotel where we can take them. I even made sure they had a spa so we could get massages. i asked him to go the weekend after his court date bc i thought he'd be ready for a relaxing getaway at about that time. his response..."no, i'm probably going to be hating women at that time" he said it jokingly and it didn't really bother me...i just said "it's not fair if other people have to pay for someone else's mistakes" we laughed about it but how would you feel if you were me?

2007-09-19 15:11:42 · 8 answers · asked by Jax 3

My husband and i have been together on and off for years, he has been a horrible person to me always doing hurtful things and saying he's sorry. I want to move on for good! im tired of trying but i constantly keep running back because we have kids and i haven't been able to find anyone else yet.How do i stop the pattern of constantly going back to him no matter what he does to me its taking a huge toll on my mind and self esteem any suggestions ?

2007-09-19 15:10:21 · 8 answers · asked by justagirl 3

Ok I hear alot of people say swinging isn't cheating...But to me cheating is sleeping with someone else either way...weather you know it or you don't...swinging to me is open cheating..How do you feel on the subject?

2007-09-19 15:09:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok a few months ago I had a fling with a married man (yes i know BAD Idea, so don't worry you don't need to point this out - however i didn't cross the line so to speak) Anyway we both decided to stop and have no contacting (well his idea not to contact but i didn't argue) anyway when i knew him, I got to know some of his mates, as spent time at the pub with them all. Now he is telling me not to talk to his mates at the pub, and that they do not want to talk to me and wonder why I am there, and that the way I act 'does not look good'. However most of his mates have always been really friendly, and brought me drinks etc. Why do you think he said this? do you think he might be a bit jealous or not really?

2007-09-19 15:09:11 · 17 answers · asked by jiveybaby 1

I liked this guy a lot..and he did too.. now we are bethrowed.. I find that these days he's putting in a lot of effort to ensure that me and his mom have a good relationship.. since he was brought up without a father, he is worried that his mom might get overly possessive and repel me after marriage.. hes in fact asking me to earn the love of his mom "as she would love her daughter". In fact he wants to cut down our time together whenever he feels that his mom might show some insecurity...

Is he getting too concerned or is it normal??
How do i earn the love of his overly possessive mother as well as sustain his interest in me?

2007-09-19 15:04:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

How many Mature Female Adults --know by now what they really want out of LIFE in general AND what they really want out of a MAN in general???

2007-09-19 15:04:11 · 20 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2

2007-09-19 14:38:18 · 37 answers · asked by hamid 1

It is the only way I can win when we play Scrabble. She can't figure out how I keep coming up with those triple word scores.

2007-09-19 14:25:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

and live happily ever after.....waddya think?

2007-09-19 14:24:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-19 14:14:27 · 74 answers · asked by Anonymous

My marriage has been dead for several years since 1994-give or take, maybe about 10 years back or so!

2007-09-19 14:10:56 · 30 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2

pleas help and tell me :(

2007-09-19 14:06:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-19 13:05:06 · 18 answers · asked by thirsty mind 6

My husband is very loving and wonderful. He's faithful and sweet, BUT, very jealous. I'm not allowed to have friends, (i know being a tomboy doesn't help), but everyone needs friends. He has some anger issues, and doesn't really have any friends himself. I've filied for divorce after reaching my boiling point, but, I'm not sure if I should really go, I know he loves me and would never really hurt me, but, can I handle the jealousy?

2007-09-19 13:02:31 · 16 answers · asked by Elizabeth C 2

wished you could go back in time like before the hubby and kids came into your life. Daydream about the younger days

2007-09-19 12:58:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Not sure what I make of it....

2007-09-19 12:57:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok so I had a deep relationship 7 years ago with this Tamil guy. He asked me to marry him, but his parents threw a ****-fit and demanded he break up with me (Iyengars, folks!!) guess the love of his life wasn't good enough for them, nor was their son's happiness. Nice people, eh?

So anyways I come up pregnant and they try to force him to kill me. He beats me so badly the baby comes out permanently and severely disabled. I get away from him, because they want the baby dead even AFTER she is born. What great Iyengar Religious people!

THEN I find out he's been married all along to a Lesbian in the US for greencard purposes. THEN I find out he had a 4 year relationship with some russian chick before me even. Starting to get the picture here?

Well I lost him fast and married a great Punjabi dude who's family totally accpeted my child, and I even had another baby with my new husband, they still treat my first child as their first grandchild.

2007-09-19 12:25:11 · 14 answers · asked by Minerva 1

I feel that my husband has no respect for me in the bedroom. He wont take the time to you know and there isnt any four play. This is what he does he just climbs on top of me and forces his penis inside of me and it hurts and pinches. I feel like a prostitiute. He doesnt kiss me all over or anything he is a minute man he rips threw my vagina. i tried talking to him going to a councelor and everything he tries to take his time on me when he knows i am going to leave then when he thinks i am going to stay he will practially rape me again. so i wont have let him make love to me very much and his friends are coming to me telling me that he is going to strip clubs he tells me its not true and that both different people telling me this stuff he said they are just tying to break us up but they knew personal stuff about me sexually. I feel so empty and sad. He gets mad at me cause i wont kiss him but he kisses rough and forceful. I feel like a vitum.

2007-09-19 12:21:54 · 22 answers · asked by christina b 1

Caught ya !

Why is it that the word 'cheated' gets more readers and answers than others ??

Your answer would be admitting your guilt of flocking to this word.

Just click away before someone sees you...like you do the serious thought provoking questions.

Have a great evening !!!

2007-09-19 12:19:14 · 14 answers · asked by ? 4

True or false: Men would rather cheat or do something else to trash their marriage, forcing their wife to divorce them, rather than be up front and break up honestly with her.

2007-09-19 12:13:00 · 13 answers · asked by ohyeah 1

I know that everyone is different, and some guys are more mature than others, but let's all agree that in general, guys in their 20's are a little immature, in the least. I am not saying that they are bad guys, it just seems that they do not want to start being responsible for themselves. Why do they rely so much on other people (meaning their woman) to do things for them instead of taking the plunge and taking care of themselves? And what does it take for them to turn into responsible men? Talking, yelling, and leaving things for him to do does not work, not in my situation at least. My husband is an amazing man, but I am not only burdened by his resistance to growing up, but also concerned for his sake. He is 25 and we've been together for almost 6 years. I love him a lot but I would also love for him to grow up!

2007-09-19 12:11:43 · 16 answers · asked by princesspink 3

2007-09-19 12:09:14 · 21 answers · asked by Fogazy 1

What form of birth control if any do you use now that you are married?

2007-09-19 11:55:34 · 17 answers · asked by Angela 1

I'm not tall myself, quite short in fact, but I have a strong weakness for tall slim women especially when they are young and slender.

I'm not doing so well since my boss made me redundent after I was late for work a few times. Well to be honest I missed a few days because when I'm the worst for drink there's little point and I'm not so young as was.

The point is that my boss had this really lovely tall gorgeous wife. I wonder how I could get her to leave him and run away with me?

2007-09-19 11:51:19 · 11 answers · asked by Paul R 1

My wifes ex husband and she divorced in May of 2006. They agreed to joint custody of the child (one week with him and one with us). Also...He has been paying her Child Support since the divorce was final. Once the divorce was final...he moved back home with his mom and dad and has been living with them along with his two brothers who are older than him. Needless to say...it's a very chaotic household over there. Since that happened...she has wanted full custody of the child...but we can't really afford a lawyer. About a month ago...he lost his job. It seems he's in no hurry to go back to work...and so now he's decided that his best option is to file for full custody of the 5 year old so he won't have to pay child support anymore. My wife and I both work...so we do pretty well and we have a nice home...but like I said...we really don't have enough money for a lawyer. His mom is paying for his...so he's set. I need to know if we can win full custody without a lawyer. Any suggestions?

2007-09-19 11:30:28 · 42 answers · asked by John 1

she talked to him on the phone for a month and a half after the day i came home early and she was gone . she says she has given me all the details should i believe her

2007-09-19 11:28:29 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-husband filed on me for full custody of our son in Oct 06 and will not let me see my son when it is my turn. We have been divorced with shared parenting since 2003 with no problems. My attorney has filed several indirect contempt charges on my ex-husband for not following our divorce decree on visitations. Plus he filed taxes each year when it states in the decree he is not suppose to. None of this has been heard in court or to anyone and it's been almost a year since this started. I have paid almost 10,000 for my case and now I hear nothing from no-one, attorney,Guardian Ad Litem no-one and I still do not get to see my son when it is my turn. I need some advice. I don't have the money to keep this going. P.S. My ex in contempt on other things that pertain to my divorce decree as well but nothing has been done.

2007-09-19 11:09:28 · 3 answers · asked by Pooh36 1

Once you have had an affair and fallen in-love with the other person, is there any hope for your feeling coming back. Should you divorce? Does having the affair make it harder to leave your spouse due to guilt. Anyone been through this?

2007-09-19 10:55:30 · 21 answers · asked by R 1