Ok I hear alot of people say swinging isn't cheating...But to me cheating is sleeping with someone else either way...weather you know it or you don't...swinging to me is open cheating..How do you feel on the subject?
2007-09-19 15:09:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on what you consider commitment.
If commitment really isn't worth anything to you, then sure, you can justify it any which way.
Personally, swinging is cheating, cheating is having sex with anyone that is not your spouse, bf gf, whatever.
If you dress up a gorilla in a clown costume, is it a clown or is it still a gorilla?
2007-09-19 15:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Panda 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
For a lot of people swinging is a form of sexual gratification and a turn on. If both of you agree this is something you like and would be happy with then ok. But make sure that one partner is not coerced into something they don't really want just to make the other one happy. Swinging can be fun and exciting like going to a nude beach or nudist colony but with more contact. Also swinging can bring two people closer if they use it as a way to make their sex better when they are home alone.
2007-09-19 15:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If both people are open to it and except it then that is their business. I don't agree with swinging or understand it. I do know that some people are OK with it and enjoy it. I really could not see myself being with anyone but my husband......and I have a very open mind when it comes to sex. Before my husband ....... everything was good just go for it. True love changes you.
2007-09-19 18:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swingers say swinging isn't cheating. To swingers it is being able to separate commitment and sex. Swingers are emotionally committed to each other and claim it takes a strong bond to be able to have sex with others.
Most people believe in monogamy, that committed relationships start and end with being faithful to one another. These people will see swinging as dirty and nasty. They will never understand the how and why.
Most everyone is entitled to their beliefs, their opinions and the right to live their life as they choose, this is called Freedom.
2007-09-19 15:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Cheri >^.^< 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kat as a former swinger with my 2nd ex husband I will lay it out as simply and plain as I can for you.
Swinging ='s a couple is open minded , has trust , no jealousy issues , and knows that their primary heart holder is the person they swapped vow's with and spent every day with and payed bill's with and raised their children with , their committment to each other and to swinging isnt a selfish experience , they dont swing alone they swing as a couple and experience the new sexuality each other feels and it usually turns out great.they have permission from both sides to explore other bodies and to enjoy and when their done they communicate about their event that night and maybe laugh or make love because it was a special experience.Its all about being honest , open , trusting and loving only your spouse.
Cheater='s someone who is willing to put their own selfish need's above everyone else's , who have no morals , who feel their relationship with their spouse is missing something and they deserve to have that in their life even if it means having it with someone outside of the home.They get a thrill out of the chase of a new body , they enjoy the intimacy and newness of a new relationship even though in the back of their head there is nothing wrong with what they are doing.They do not feel guilty and they feel no shame and in the end they make damn sure the spouse they cheated on takes the blame by stating their in-adequacies in the sexual part of their relationship or emotional part.To cut it short their @zzhole's.
Yes my 2nd husband and I are now seperated , not because we swung , the woman he cheated on me with wasnt into swinging and she was allegedly a very good friend of mine and he stepped over the line as did she.I do not hold our chosen swinging life style to blame in this because he went outside of the rule's of swinging and just pleased himself.We had stopped swinging for a break for 12 months when he hooked up with her and she had the hide to tell a friend who knew us all that if I hadnt stopped the swinging even though I was the 1 who suggested it , then he wouldnt have wandered off with her , wonder what excuse she gave when she stole her 3rd husband off his 1st wife because they didnt swing, cheaters can justify their action by lying and accepting the lie they told because they believe it to be true.
Every person see's thing's differently but I hope I explained it some what clear enough for you to see the difference wether you see it as cheating or not is your personal oppinion.Good luck with life.
2007-09-19 15:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree, but- my definition for cheating is even broader than that. I feel like the emotional connection we share is extraordinarily special, and I have it with no one else, as does he. Someone may be into swinging, but, it will always come between you. There's nothing so special as love.
2007-09-19 15:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by chelle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Swinging = consensual infidelity.
2007-09-19 15:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Okay, so let's take this to the one extreme, any sex out of marriage is adultery. So if society is willing to look the other way about unmarried sex, then why not allow sex outside the marriage. It's like two whores arguing about which has more virtue......
2007-09-19 15:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
i dont see how you can love someone, yet allow them to sleep with somone else.
i think its cheating and a open invitation for trouble.
2007-09-19 15:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
whatever the couple agrees to is ok, i have no problem with it .
2007-09-19 15:15:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋