pleas help and tell me :(
2007-09-19 14:06:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't. It's their choice to leave, none of this is your fault.
2007-09-19 14:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by bloodsanctum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know how old you are...but, I was in a marriage where my spouses children worked hand and tooth to get their parents back together..After 15 of being together, it took it's toll on me and my own family and my sanity and I got out..And guess what?..those kids aren't happy because they have had to pick up where I left off in caring for my spouse..and for what?..Leave it alone..the best thing you can do is to let them go, there is obviously reasons they are not together , that have nothing to do with you...This is always the case...Never the children..However, if you want to make it about you?..Do what my ex's did...make our lives miserable every day...and you can bet one thing..one will get tired and go on..I did...For Self Preservation...
2007-09-19 21:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by iceman55mew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honey, you don't. I'm sorry but it's about them and what they have decided and unfortunately you just have to go along for the ride. They don't love you any less, just each other. Hopefully they both will give you as much of their time and love as they can regardless. This is never easy. My mom divorced three times, two of which my sister and I were still at home. Try to stay as connected and on target as you can and don't let their decisions make you any less of a person than you can be. Keep you head up and your ideals strong and always know it wasn't about you.
2007-09-19 21:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents won't get back together.
What you may find though, is that after some time, maybe a year or two, they may both find new partners that you will like and show that being divorced can lead you to meet people, and for your parents to be with someone who shares their same wants, needs, and future goals.
2007-09-19 21:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not for you to assume you can get them back together. Chances are they tried but decided what they thought would be best for all , even if you disagree.... the only hope you have is if they still have feelings for each other and they try to work things out themself or with help of a marriage councilor..For me , one of the best days was when my parents split up ,and only than could they get on with their life and start to be happy again . When I saw how much happier they were without each other i realized it was better for all.
2007-09-19 21:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Eileen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant.. I know this is not what you want to hear but you have to allow your parents to make their own decision.. If they are separated then maybe they just need time apart sometimes that is all it takes but then again you never know. Just know that both of your parents love you whether they are together or separate. Also know that you are not the reason for their break up.. They have reasons that you may or may not know but I am sure that they love you. Just make sure you talk to them both let the know how you feel. Let them know you want them together but understand that it is not your choice and that you also realize they love you... Keep your chin up.. It will be hard at first but it will get easier.
2007-09-19 21:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by ldyjsmyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest i dont' think you will get them back together. its very hard for two adults to get back what they once had. its best for you in the long run to be separate. i know right now and for long while it doesn't seem right but someday you will understand when you are more grown up. they dont' want to be together it has nothing to do with you or anything you may think you did you did not do nothing. its just they did't get along nd they were not happy and that is it and all. I wish i could tell you they would go back but mostly likely they won't andyou just take care you will be ok and they both love you dearly take care.
2007-09-19 21:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Their divorce isn't about you - they're probably trying to do what's best for you actually. You deserve better than to live on a daily basis with parents who constantly fight and don't love each other. They're doing what's best for them, you just have to understand that and try to deal with the changes that come your way.
2007-09-19 21:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not up to you. You have to accept what happens and know that it is not your fault. Be brave and try to have the best life you can. Do all you can do to work on yourself!
2007-09-19 21:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply can't. They have to decide on this. Meanwhile just be good to your mom and dad.
2007-09-19 21:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by AdultMale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋