I wrote a couple of days ago about my ex getting everything when we divorced. He did it by scatching himself while we were still living together and while I thought we were working things out and then one day he had a knife that I tried to take from him because I wanted his attention, I never touched the knife he accidentally cut himself and then he went the following day and I received a restaring order and was forced out of the house. We went to court and I was ordered to stay away from my kids for a couple of weeks. I am going to school for nursing so I cannot afford to have a criminal record so he and his attorney used that against me by saying if I signed an agreement to stay away from the house and give him temporary custody he would let the charges go. I felt as if I was dying inside. I had to move in with my parents, I couldn't afford a place of my own. Should I be mad, I want him to pay for what he has done to me. He has a house of his own and the kids. What do I do?
2007-09-19 02:20:30 · 11 answers · asked by Flora B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should seek a professional counseling, I suggest you go on your own before your ordered to by a Judge just to prove that your willing to try to resolve what ever issues you seem to be dealing with here. You already have a Personal Protection Order against you, so at this point you need to be very well behaved or you will find yourself at the local bed and breakfast!
It strikes me as odd that your wanting pay back when you've just lost your children. You wanted his attention so you tried to take a knife from him???? Then he cut himself???? Your worried about having a criminal record not because your a mother... but because you want to become a nurse...
You have your work cut out for you Dear...
2007-09-19 03:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flora, calm down and think about this, he knows that you want to get your nursing degree so that is his tromp card. Go ahead and do what you have to do. Your children will love you more in the long run, because you were a woman about this. Men some time feel intimidated by a woman that is doing what you are doing so they turn to others for advice and sometimes don't think. trust me what goes around comes around. you wanting to be independent might have been just a little much for him, Take your time and talk to an atty and get some advice. If this was brought about by another woman trust she will be his worst nightmare and he will beg you to return and forgive him.
2007-09-19 09:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by LovelyChoc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your anger take over because it will work against you. He has the house, but you can get an attorney to fight for more custody.
Focus your energy on getting more custody of your children and let the other stuff go.
Good luck.
2007-09-19 09:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats a hard question but been there, when it comes to the kids i would fight because there your kids to, and even if he did drop the charges and you were arrested for it the state will pick it up, if i was you i would get an attorney of your own and fight it to the depth.
2007-09-19 09:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you will just cause yourself more problems for your future if you don't just try to move on and continue pursuing good things for your life. Even for the possibilities of having further relationships with your children, you will need for your self to be stable, and a sound career will go a long way in your advantage, so i suggest to carry on as you were planning to do.
2007-09-19 09:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by sharky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
call your local legal aid society IMMEDIATELY! They have experienced attorneys on staff at little or no cost based on your ability to pay. You need an attorney to fight back in this situation. What your ex and his lawyer are doing is totally unfair and unethical. Get those yellow pages out NOW.
2007-09-19 09:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by Becky B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should be very mad. what an ***. keeping your kids from you.. but just remember something that I have learned first hand.. it may take a while.. but what goes around comes around. .and he WILL GET HIS..just do your best in school and keep working on your dream and your kids will always love you and someday figure out what he did and hate him for it.. not you. but just hold your breath and wait for the Karma to happen.. do you have any organizations that will help you get your kids? CASA? court appointed advocates for the kids and whats in their best interest. not his? good luck. keep your head up
2007-09-19 09:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by notaclue 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should sell the house and move to another state - or country - with the kids. =)
2007-09-19 09:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything you'll regret...Try getting a lawyer of your own to battle it out in court for you,Good luck!
2007-09-19 09:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by jancoetzee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wise up and get a lawyer.
2007-09-19 09:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by Pure Star 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋