First off, I wanted to post this question here assuming a more mature, head wise, audience.
I am 26 going 27 and I have talked to this girl of same age regarding work / business. needless to say I was attracted the first time I saw her, but didn't reveal it. But after a while she started smiling whenever I happen to cross on her way.
Then I went to other city for school .....
After two years, I was sitting in the library in the same city I saw her and she passed by infront of me turned around and kind of smiled in a surprised gesture. she kinda stared for a while and walked away.
my question is. is the lady/girl giving me an ok to ask her out or some sort of thing or she is just thinking "where do I know this guy"
I have assumed ,when she smiled and what not, that she was interested but I wasn't convinced enough, and I hate rejection...so what do you women think about this situation ?
should I make a move regardless of the consequences ?
Thanks
2007-09-19 09:15:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What are you waiting for? Ask her out already! If you are too scared, do the "coffee date" thing, then ask her on a real date.
2007-09-23 08:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well good luck with the mature responses MR 26 going on 27..... I'm 35 and 1/2 so there, na, na, na, na ......
I guess if you fear rejection, then the best way to handle it is to NEVER ask a girl out. Therefore, you'll never get rejected. You'll never get any action or a relationship either :)
Funny how you have to put yourself out there in order to find someone isn't it? Maybe arrainged marriages are for you. Talk with your mom and dad - maybe they can set something up.
Or you could grow some ballz and go ask this gal out. What's the worst that could happen? She'll say, no thanks..... or make up some lame excuse about already having a b/f so she doesn't have to offend you. Then at least you know where you stand - and you can move on to teh gal that you cross paths with.
However - if she's smiling at you when she sees you - there's a better than 50% chance she'd say yes to a date.... so go for it.
Or you could be a snivelling little shy excuse of a man that fumbles through the "asking for a date" part and she'll shoot you down. You know women find a lack of confidence sooooooo sexy - they just can't resist it !!! That's why Woody Allen had to resort to marrying his step-daughter :)
Be yourself, but be confident / not cocky and you'll likely get the positive answer you're after.
2007-09-19 09:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by aa889d 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is probably smiling at you because either she thinks that you are friendly, or she is trying to remember where that she knows you from.
Why are you so scared of rejection? Rejection is your friend in the sense it saves you some time; you don't have to keep chasing after a girl who is not interested. Instead of taking rejection personally, just tell yourself that if she doesn't like you it is her loss, since she missed out on knowing someone as loyal and kind as you. Don't take it personally if a person is not receptive to you; her reaction probably has nothing to do with you.
Women are usually attracted to self-confidence. no woman wants a coward as a boyfriend. Act as if you know that she will like you (because what good person wouldn't?), and often you will make it come true because your positive attitude will be contagious.
If you need more help getting over your fear of women and rejection, I suggest that you try going to double your dating dot com and sign up for the free advice newsletter. It couldn't hurt.
2007-09-19 09:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy that your seeing and have been intimate with is conscious your a fabulous capture, yet desires to maintain you interior the intimate field for no person else to appreciate till yet another lady comes his way w/ standards and expectancies to settle. (don't get caught up emotionally.) positioned you first and if somebody else ask you out pass. U do no longer owe all people a proof. Set expectancies and have standards so which you get what you go with and deserve. good success hun.
2016-11-05 21:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you need to grow some balls! She's thinking "where do I know this guy?" But because you did nothing she's probably thinking "If I do know him, what a loser!" You don't need to "make a move". Just engage her in conversation and see where it goes.
2007-09-19 09:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go up to her and ask her out on a date. You can do it, Fred.
2007-09-19 09:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man up shes been okaying you for awhile
2007-09-19 09:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by sarah W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dude, what the heck ae you waiting for????? two years??? let's goooo! get in there.....
2007-09-19 09:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋